Humor Really Might BE the Key...

[somedude81]

Yenta

 

 

 

 

 

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Yiddish - Meddler, gossiper, meddlesome, busybody, nuisance. Mostly Judaic and female.

 

 

I'm bored, getting ready for bed.

 

And watching a little drama is entertaining.

 

Also a little (sick) part of me, wishes I got to experience some drama instead of what I got...

[Citizen Erased]

Yeah somebody ends up in tears and pregnant.

 

I don't believe there has been an LS baby yet.

[cerridwen]

Damn ... people actually hook up from LS?

 

Maybe I shouldn't have been such a condescending d@uchebag...

 

Yeah you totally blew it jobababooey!!

[Tybalt]

I think maybe I should post more.

[carhill]

Men, what are your experiences with this...?

 

If they liked me, my sense of humor made me more attractive.

 

If they didn't like me, it was annoying.

 

'Like', for some people, can change from second to second. It pays to have a sense of humor about it

[Dust]

This is my indepth inalysis of what "humor really might BE the key..." I will of course read between the lines

 

I did!

And what?

 

You're in for a lot of confusion with Somedude he may try to enter your belly button first... though it will be funny and the key.

 

I assume you let him know your opinions in private. So that couldn't have been your purpose in posting on this thread. It seems like the purpose of your posts was to publicly embarrass him.

 

Are you sure you aren't trying to bullsh*t us?

 

Hahah what you should be asking yourself is what is the point of Hokies thread. To tell us a story about how he was funny in Vegas and walked some girls back to their hotel room end of story... Pretty pointless eh. That he discovered one of the cliche things women say like I want a man who can make me laugh. What next he tells us a story about how he discovered women like confidence when he has a conversation with a cashier about a return he was making.

 

Yep, it was my fault, and I was legitimately trying to fix that. But it fell on deaf ears. I won't make that mistake again.

 

As per the usual, you can always dish it, but you can never take it.

 

She's a pretty tough girl actually. At least around here she's faced a lot in her life getting used and abused and always came back for more. I just heard her acid face wash story for example.

 

I think you missed out on Star Gazer and I was ready to live through you. I think you approached the situation all wrong. Also I think you don't realize how sensative she is.

 

You should drive out to see her and totaly pound her!

 

ROFL!

 

You only see what your eyes want to see.

 

You need to show cer some things only you can show her...

 

Yes, they are upscale...it was actually quite repulsive, with their $50 cover charges...I even had to go to a store after getting stopped at a club entrance to buy a new pair of shoes...and then check my sneakers in at the hotel...luckily I didn't have to throw them away...

 

From my limited experience, I don't think Vegas is as "difficult" as you make it out to be...but we'll see, I'm going to try to make it out there a bit more often.

 

A good pair of dress shoes can be more comfortable the sneakers for just walking around puroses. Plus they make you taller. Why would have you gone there in just sneakers... Why!

 

Which is worse? Publicly embarrassing someone amongst complete internet strangers (how do you even embarrass someone in this context??)? Or lying to, manipulating, and betraying someone you purport to care so deeply about? Eh, it doesn't matter.

 

Have I had these convos with Hokie in private? In the distant pass, yes. As of more recently, I no longer communicate/make exchanges with Hokie in private. He reaches out to me, sends emails, messages, texts. I do not respond in substance, for this very reason. I cannot and do not trust him anymore than I could throw Rosie O'Donnell. He is literally two (if not more) different people in private versus public. I have not-so-politely told him to never contact me again, and he has not-so-politely agreed.

 

Personaly I doubt you embaress the guy. He seems to get off on it. Heck I would too!

 

Star Gazer I've seen the two sides of Hokie too. He really wants a very strange type of relationship with a woman. One that involves a lot of drama.

 

Yes, she made her opinions known to me in private, almost simultaneously to the opinions I became privy to via the public LS forum.

 

In the tactical communications field, we call that "redundancy."

 

Theres that "humor" of yours again. Can't you see that as a man you've got more of a wall against this type of hurt. You need to treat Star Gazer as a lady. That means some times allowing her to have her fatasies instead of trying to bring her into harsh realities. Think about that. You want to be a protector of women.

 

I don't need to trust you. My girlfriends went back to hotel rooms with guys they wouldn't even look at back home. And I've been to Vegas approximately 75 times. (It's a 3 hour drive from LA.)

 

Well thats the problem with this story. It's like saying he went to a brothel made some whores laugh and walked them back to their hotel room so they could have sex with the bellman.

 

Luckily you are just one person...not-so-nice both in public and in private. At least there's no confusion there.

 

C'mon Hokie she's very pretty and sweet in her own way. She let you in her life and you loved it. As far as I'm concerned she could have crapped on a waffle and demanded you eat and there shouldn't be this level of anger toward her.

 

Your so called humor would come in handy in this situation. Title of this thread should be "making girls cry might BE the key..." because seems to be what you believe.

 

For a thread about humor being the key, there hasn't been any here in the while.

 

But it's entertaining nonetheless.

 

Let me explain something to you. Somedude you might be better with women then Hokie. This is very entertaining yet painful to watch. Please Somedude don't make the same mistakes with Cer

 

Are you that clueless?

 

You hurt me. You betrayed me. You mock that betrayal and act like it was some little thing, but it was huge to me. You took away something that was very special and important to me when you did that. And you NEVER tried to fix it. EVER. Instead, you tried to act like everything was normal. And it was only the tip of the iceberg. You'd reach out in these sweet ways to me in private, and have me on the verge of trusting you again, only to have you publicly pull a 180 in some way or another.

 

I expected so much more from you as a friend and a human being. And so now, I'm angry. I'm angry because I was wrong. I was wrong about who you are and what you're capable of, and I don't like being wrong.

 

No he isn't that clueless. At this level it has to be intentional. He doesn't know how to enjoy a woman though. But its intentional.

 

If it was special and important to you, you would have at least tried. You didn't even try. You did nothing.

 

I had trusted you to my core, and you couldn't even be bothered to try. Instead, you just kept giving me reason after reason not to trust you. It was like being slapped in the face over and over again. So yeah, I'm angry. As much with myself ("fool me twice") as with you.

 

He's a real somedude in this respect. He wants women to chase him. He wants to stand back and see a woman do all the trying.

 

I'm still trying to figure out what Hokie did to "hurt her so badly and betray her trust."

 

He was a somedude. An imature somedude of a man.

 

I don't believe there has been an LS baby yet.

 

We've got a good man working on that right.

 

There have been plenty half mix LS babies though... We need the master race though.

[Emilia]

Are you that clueless?

 

You hurt me. You betrayed me. You mock that betrayal and act like it was some little thing, but it was huge to me. You took away something that was very special and important to me when you did that. And you NEVER tried to fix it. EVER. Instead, you tried to act like everything was normal. And it was only the tip of the iceberg. You'd reach out in these sweet ways to me in private, and have me on the verge of trusting you again, only to have you publicly pull a 180 in some way or another.

 

I expected so much more from you as a friend and a human being. And so now, I'm angry. I'm angry because I was wrong. I was wrong about who you are and what you're capable of, and I don't like being wrong.

 

Personally as a 39 year-old woman I see your inability to contain your emotions towards an ex as embarrassing. It doesn't matter what Hokie did, your continued public outbursts are pathetic.

 

I think you should do what a large percentage of the population in the whole wide world manages to do and ignore the person and his faults in the future. Put him on 'ignore' here, block him on facebook, etc. Grow up.

[Emilia]

 

Hahah what you should be asking yourself is what is the point of Hokies thread. To tell us a story about how he was funny in Vegas and walked some girls back to their hotel room end of story... Pretty pointless eh. That he discovered one of the cliche things women say like I want a man who can make me laugh. What next he tells us a story about how he discovered women like confidence when he has a conversation with a cashier about a return he was making.

 

 

Who cares? Let him have his silly threads and his insecurities and his going on about wearing tight T-shirts, etc. He is a silly immature boy who whines and whinges a lot, good riddance. All this public s**t-throwing match is just pathetic.

[Dust]

Who cares? Let him have his silly threads and his insecurities and his going on about wearing tight T-shirts, etc. He is a silly immature boy who whines and whinges a lot, good riddance. All this public s**t-throwing match is just pathetic.

 

I wrote an indepth anlysis before this and you write who cares... I care obviously!

 

You could use your same logic and say who cares let Star Gazer put him in his place.

 

Have I entered the twilight zone? When did it become ok to txt/call a girl all night while you try to lamely pick up other girls. Only to then make a thread about it on the website you know the girl frequents... a really pointless thread about how you discovered women like humor and that you walked to hookers back to their hotel room...(didn't have sex)

[counterman]

This thread is getting off topic. I'll try to steer it back

 

Humour is important, who doesn't love to laugh? But it not the be all and end all; it does not make up for a lack in other aspects of a person. A guy's natural style of humour might be annoying to another person but someone else would absolutely love it. It's part of your personality. However, I know guys who try to be funny and are never serious, and it is annoying! I know girls who fell for guys who made them laugh at a party and ended up having horrible relationships because they didn't get to know the aspects of the guy, all they knew was "he made me laugh so hard". I've met girls who I absolutely clicked with, we were laughing most of the time we spoke and that just ramped up the attraction. And then I met girls who I thought were lame and seemed to be trying to be funny. Point is, it can't seem too forced, too out of your personality, or it could easily make things awkward and come off as insincere (depending what type of humour). That's my 2 cents anyways

[Leigh 87]

YES Humour is key for a LOT of people. For ME, HUMOUR, is JUST as important as.. LOOKS! haha.

 

 

Me and my boyfriend laugh like crazy; well, I am ditzy ( I have light blonde hair to match!) and constantly say stupid silly things; instead of annoying him, he just laiughs, and then I laugh at ghim laughing at me.

 

 

Point is; laughing a LOT, should be a component of most peoples relationships, UNLESS they are the small percentage of people who just aint that funny themselves.

[ascendotum]

I think maybe I should post more.

If its for an LS romance, that one post with accompanying avatar is enough. Mission accomplished baby, just pm me. I wont make the same mistakes Hokie did!

[Anela]

Personally as a 39 year-old woman I see your inability to contain your emotions towards an ex as embarrassing. It doesn't matter what Hokie did, your continued public outbursts are pathetic.

 

I think you should do what a large percentage of the population in the whole wide world manages to do and ignore the person and his faults in the future. Put him on 'ignore' here, block him on facebook, etc. Grow up.

 

I don't agree. I find her honesty refreshing, but also feel sad because I had something similar happen to me. I've actually said the same things to a man who used to be in my life.

[dispatch3d]

lol dust I thought you were cool then I had to skip over a bunch of your posts cause well... nothing funny was happening... sort of.

 

Anyhow I had a roommate who was just fun to be around. He was average looking at best but my god girls definitely loved that guy.

 

It's a pretty delicate balance I think with humour. If your that guy whose telling jokes to try to impress them you're screwed. If you are just yourself and occasionally funny, well that's a positive. If your just fun, I guess thats gold? Anyhow, there is no answer to women. Get over it!

[Emilia]

I don't agree. I find her honesty refreshing, but also feel sad because I had something similar happen to me. I've actually said the same things to a man who used to be in my life.

 

Similar stuff happened to me too and I'm pretty sure will do so in the future. However, there comes the time when you have to put self-control to use, make the decision to move on and do.

[somedude81]

Dust you got to chill it with the talk about cerri and I. She's already involved with somebody.

[Dust]

Dust you got to chill it with the talk about cerri and I. She's already involved with somebody.

 

Somebody sounds an awful lot like somedude... You know if some one has your woman you gotta tell him to get lost. Humor might BE the key...

Edited January 31, 2012 by Dust

[FitChick]

Similar stuff happened to me too and I'm pretty sure will do so in the future. However, there comes the time when you have to put self-control to use, make the decision to move on and do.

 

It happens to everyone. So many people get stuck in the same pattern, just the names and faces change. You need to ask what it is you believe about yourself, the opposite sex and relationships that has you repeating the same unproductive behaviors? Then eliminate those beliefs via the Lefkoe Method.

[Imajerk17]

This is my indepth inalysis of what "humor really might BE the key..." I will of course read between the lines

 

 

 

You're in for a lot of confusion with Somedude he may try to enter your belly button first... though it will be funny and the key.

 

 

 

Hahah what you should be asking yourself is what is the point of Hokies thread. To tell us a story about how he was funny in Vegas and walked some girls back to their hotel room end of story... Pretty pointless eh. That he discovered one of the cliche things women say like I want a man who can make me laugh. What next he tells us a story about how he discovered women like confidence when he has a conversation with a cashier about a return he was making.

 

 

 

She's a pretty tough girl actually. At least around here she's faced a lot in her life getting used and abused and always came back for more. I just heard her acid face wash story for example.

 

I think you missed out on Star Gazer and I was ready to live through you. I think you approached the situation all wrong. Also I think you don't realize how sensative she is.

 

You should drive out to see her and totaly pound her!

 

 

 

You need to show cer some things only you can show her...

 

 

 

A good pair of dress shoes can be more comfortable the sneakers for just walking around puroses. Plus they make you taller. Why would have you gone there in just sneakers... Why!

 

 

 

Personaly I doubt you embaress the guy. He seems to get off on it. Heck I would too!

 

Star Gazer I've seen the two sides of Hokie too. He really wants a very strange type of relationship with a woman. One that involves a lot of drama.

 

 

 

Theres that "humor" of yours again. Can't you see that as a man you've got more of a wall against this type of hurt. You need to treat Star Gazer as a lady. That means some times allowing her to have her fatasies instead of trying to bring her into harsh realities. Think about that. You want to be a protector of women.

 

 

 

Well thats the problem with this story. It's like saying he went to a brothel made some whores laugh and walked them back to their hotel room so they could have sex with the bellman.

 

 

 

C'mon Hokie she's very pretty and sweet in her own way. She let you in her life and you loved it. As far as I'm concerned she could have crapped on a waffle and demanded you eat and there shouldn't be this level of anger toward her.

 

Your so called humor would come in handy in this situation. Title of this thread should be "making girls cry might BE the key..." because seems to be what you believe.

 

 

 

Let me explain something to you. Somedude you might be better with women then Hokie. This is very entertaining yet painful to watch. Please Somedude don't make the same mistakes with Cer

 

 

 

No he isn't that clueless. At this level it has to be intentional. He doesn't know how to enjoy a woman though. But its intentional.

 

 

 

He's a real somedude in this respect. He wants women to chase him. He wants to stand back and see a woman do all the trying.

 

 

 

He was a somedude. An imature somedude of a man.

 

 

 

We've got a good man working on that right.

 

There have been plenty half mix LS babies though... We need the master race though.

 

Interesting analysis Dust. I'm not sure I agree though.

 

Star Gazer, going by what she has written on LS, has her share of good qualities but from her threads RE the people she lets into her life, she seems to have HORRIBLE boundaries. I'm not sure her getting involved with "acid face-wash guy" says so much that she is a strong person or a fighter so much as it says that she is someone whose people-picker is just really really off. Even this thing with Hokie--again, a sign of a really bad people-picker. She "trusted him to her core" because...why? And then she comes on here last night and makes a fool of herself. It's clear that Hokie still gets under her skin. And that she doesn't have the emotional control to deal.

 

And yet for all of her issues, she is the first to jump down ES's throat. Hmmmm...... Pot and kettle.

 

As far as Hokie's "motivation", I don't know. SG has posted a lot of threads about guys she has been dating in the meanwhile. While Hokie has posted lots of threads about his struggles.

 

Anyway Dust, you seem to be a lot more tolerant and understanding of women's craziness than I am. You tend to "protect" them while my tendency is to just call them out on it. I just don't want to deal.

Edited January 31, 2012 by Imajerk17

[Star Gazer]

Imajerk: Please don't mischaracterize facts. I wasn't "involved" with acid face-wash guy. He was a roommate of a mere 3 weeks who moved into my apartment and developed a crush on me, and at the first sign of "crazy," I moved out. He was a stalker.

 

And I never proclaimed to have a perfect people-picker. Who does?? OBVIOUSLY I didn't, as I didn't have my eyes open last year.

 

We live, and hopefully we learn. I learned a big lesson from this experience, and while I was hurt, I've become a better and happier person as a result.

 

So lose respect for me all you want for expressing myself. I have no regrets.

[USMCHokie]

Imajerk: Please don't mischaracterize facts. I wasn't "involved" with acid face-wash guy. He was a roommate of a mere 3 weeks who moved into my apartment and developed a crush on me, and at the first sign of "crazy," I moved out. He was a stalker.

 

And I never proclaimed to have a perfect people-picker. Who does?? OBVIOUSLY I didn't, as I didn't have my eyes open last year.

 

We live, and hopefully we learn. I learned a big lesson from this experience, and while I was hurt, I've become a better and happier person as a result.

 

So lose respect for me all you want for expressing myself. I have no regrets.

 

So a year ago you met and opened yourself up to someone who was clearly not right for you. And yet a year later, you still feel compelled to defame him at every opportunity? Are we still going to be hearing about how "terrible" acid face wash guy is in a year?

 

Never in my life have I met someone with as much animosity towards me as you. You can continue to publically ridicule me, and if the folks at LS choose to believe you, then there's really nothing I can do about it. They can only judge me on what I write and apparently what you write about me. Do I care? Of course I do. Life is a people business, and I have succeeded in my life because I've learned how to deal with all kinds of people and enjoy doing it. It's the primary reason I do what I do for a living. Leading people. Influencing and affecting them. Making them better so they can do the same for those that follow them.

 

Dating and relationships though are still relative new to me. And you, I will never figure out for the life of me. I'm sure you don't treat anyone else like you do me, or else you wouldn't have gotten as far in life as you already have. So if people here start hating me because of what you say, then it will certainly affect my life, as it should. I am not without emotion or feeling.

 

I'm a good guy. I know it. People in my life know it. I've made my mistakes, but I have also learned from them. And I will never claim to know it all. I'm learning about life and relationships just as much as the next person.

[thehead]

So a year ago you met and opened yourself up to someone who was clearly not right for you. And yet a year later, you still feel compelled to defame him at every opportunity? Are we still going to be hearing about how "terrible" acid face wash guy is in a year?

 

Never in my life have I met someone with as much animosity towards me as you. You can continue to publically ridicule me, and if the folks at LS choose to believe you, then there's really nothing I can do about it. They can only judge me on what I write and apparently what you write about me. Do I care? Of course I do. Life is a people business, and I have succeeded in my life because I've learned how to deal with all kinds of people and enjoy doing it. It's the primary reason I do what I do for a living. Leading people. Influencing and affecting them. Making them better so they can do the same for those that follow them.

 

Dating and relationships though are still relative new to me. And you, I will never figure out for the life of me. I'm sure you don't treat anyone else like you do me, or else you wouldn't have gotten as far in life as you already have. So if people here start hating me because of what you say, then it will certainly affect my life, as it should. I am not without emotion or feeling.

 

I'm a good guy. I know it. People in my life know it. I've made my mistakes, but I have also learned from them. And I will never claim to know it all. I'm learning about life and relationships just as much as the next person.

 

Star Gazer comes across pretty mean spirited in general, so I don't know if you have to worry much about appearing the bad guy.

 

I agree with Imajerk that she made a fool of herself in this thread and to your credit, you've handled things okay.

 

But I fault you for signing up for more. If she's shown you who she is, maybe you should learn the lesson and disengage for good.

[USMCHokie]

But I fault you for signing up for more. If she's shown you who she is, maybe you should learn the lesson and disengage for good.

 

Yea, I know, but I don't regret attempting to reengage. I reached out after all that time because I wanted to reconnect and try to fix what I destroyed. I didn't have a plan and I didn't really know what I was going to do. I have no regrets and would do it every time. Sometimes sh*t just doesn't work out.

[thehead]

Yea, I know, but I don't regret attempting to reengage. I reached out after all that time because I wanted to reconnect and try to fix what I destroyed. I didn't have a plan and I didn't really know what I was going to do. I have no regrets and would do it every time. Sometimes sh*t just doesn't work out.

 

It's understandable wanting to avoid regret or wanting to fix the past. That's all well and good but if the other party resists allowing either to happen, and becomes more intent on punishing you, sounds like a good time to call it a day.

[jobaba]

Yea, I know, but I don't regret attempting to reengage. I reached out after all that time because I wanted to reconnect and try to fix what I destroyed. I didn't have a plan and I didn't really know what I was going to do. I have no regrets and would do it every time. Sometimes sh*t just doesn't work out.

 

Couldn't have been all bad, dude.

 

Dating an older woman who's been to Las Vegas 75 times must have it's perks...