Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 It's understandable wanting to avoid regret or wanting to fix the past. That's all well and good but if the other party resists allowing either to happen, and becomes more intent on punishing you, sounds like a good time to call it a day. Yea, the day has been called. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm a good guy. I know it. People in my life know it. We know it too Hokie Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Star Gazer comes across pretty mean spirited in general, so I don't know if you have to worry much about appearing the bad guy. I agree with Imajerk that she made a fool of herself in this thread and to your credit, you've handled things okay. She isn't douchey nice (always smiling and never having an opinion that would offend anyone) but she never struck me as mean spirited. I prefer her brand of honesty over those who nursed a grudge for something and are jumping on her now that it's chic. Hokie you strike me as a good guy too but texting your ex who's still emotional when you're out with other girls is a big mistake. Even if she asks for it. Did you know the effect it might have? I don't know you well enough to say but Dust might be on to something. Or maybe it was just an honest mistake. Who knows. I hope you both keep posting though. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Anyhow I had a roommate who was just fun to be around. He was average looking at best but my god girls definitely loved that guy. It's a pretty delicate balance I think with humour. If your that guy whose telling jokes to try to impress them you're screwed. If you are just yourself and occasionally funny, well that's a positive. If your just fun, I guess thats gold? Anyhow, there is no answer to women. Get over it! I agree with this. Someone else here also said guys who tell lots of jokes like sort sort of routine come off as try hards and fail. The trick is being fun funny. The fun loving nature component is a big factor and basically is derived from your personality. Is it something that can be taught then? I have a mate who really struggled with girls when he was younger. He looked a bit like young robert de niro but also had the same intense personality and not a very humerous type of guy. Its hard for someone like that to 'just be' be a fun/funny guy. Would a guy like comedian steven wright (looks + style) be a hit with women?? (I dont think so) For an avg joe humor helps them stand out from the pack. It is a big hit with women, and if a woman is on the fence with you as regards your looks, it will definitly help swing things the guy's way. If you're not an attractive guy even in the avg joe sense and the woman (attractive) has made up her mind she wont have sex with you within the first 60 secs of meeting you, then you will just be a good time guy to hang out with, but you are not going to get in her knickers. Good sense of humor is one thing you'll find on most women's check of lists.One thing that bugs me a bit is when I hear women who really dont have much off a sense of humor say 'funny/good sense of humor' is a must have for their partner. Just laughing at other people entertaining them is not the same imo. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 One thing that surprised me, is that nobody mentioned dirty jokes and stuff like that. Being funny is great and all, but without any sexuality, all you're gonna do is drop the girls off and then talk with your buddy about it the next morning. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 Hokie you strike me as a good guy too but texting your ex who's still emotional when you're out with other girls is a big mistake. Even if she asks for it. Did you know the effect it might have? I don't know you well enough to say but Dust might be on to something. Or maybe it was just an honest mistake. Who knows. I hope you both keep posting though. I texted her both nights I was in Vegas, and both times it was while I was in my hotel room before going out. I was not out with other women and texting her. I really do respect her more than that. At least until she decides to go off on me like she did, but that's not the issue. It was never my intention to gloat about my Vegas experience. I didn't even recount the story until page 3 when Dust asked for it. I was just asking general questions. Perhaps my mistake was mentioning Vegas at all in the first post. It was always my understanding that Star was long gone and moved on, and that we'd keep our distance on LS, do our own thing, and remain civil. My reaching out in private was an attempt to rebuild that bridge so that we could at least be friendly again. I guess I didn't do that right either. Either way, what I say to Star in private have no relation to what I post on LS. I've learned to keep those two things completely separate. I would never "get back" at her from a private conversation via a public forum like LS. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I agree with this. Someone else here also said guys who tell lots of jokes like sort sort of routine come off as try hards and fail. The trick is being fun funny. The fun loving nature component is a big factor and basically is derived from your personality. Is it something that can be taught then? I absolutely agree with this. A routine of canned jokes is more annoying then it is funny. For me, humor is a reflection of one's intellect...a combination of well-rounded knowledge, good memory, and quick mental processing... Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 One thing that bugs me a bit is when I hear women who really dont have much off a sense of humor say 'funny/good sense of humor' is a must have for their partner. Just laughing at other people entertaining them is not the same imo. Well sense of humour, refers to being able to find things funny, it doesn't mean the person is funny. I think funny guys are awesome (depending on the type of humour), but just being with a person that has a similar sense of humour is important because then we will be likely to laugh at the same things. It isn't much fun watching a comedy with someone who doesn't get the jokes. My ex husband takes 'no sense of humour' to a new level. Not only will he not get that something was meant to be funny, he will actually give you a lecture on how inappropriate what you just said was. My daughter doesn't even bother wasting her material on him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 One thing that surprised me, is that nobody mentioned dirty jokes and stuff like that. Being funny is great and all, but without any sexuality, all you're gonna do is drop the girls off and then talk with your buddy about it the next morning. I'm not hot enough to pull that off without a slap in the face... Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm not hot enough to pull that off without a slap in the face... Test that theory. You only live once. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 Test that theory. You only live once. Hah, alright. I'll let you know how it goes... Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 (edited) I'm not hot enough to pull that off without a slap in the face... Have you tried being witty dirty with girls? It's definitely something I have an issue with. But I'm starting to work on it more. Off-topic, but I've been slapped in the face twice, by the same girl. Though I was trying to rile her up and she didn't do it out of anger. Just kind of putting me in my place I guess Edited January 31, 2012 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 A few more words on STARGAZER. She really seems like the kind of girl who gets good humor. If only Hokie had been funny that might have been the key haha Yea, I know, but I don't regret attempting to reengage. I reached out after all that time because I wanted to reconnect and try to fix what I destroyed. I didn't have a plan and I didn't really know what I was going to do. I have no regrets and would do it every time. Sometimes sh*t just doesn't work out. You silly silly fool. Stargazer isn't necesarily predictable but all this sht is a repeat of what we've seen before. Hind sight could have told you this would happen. I feel bad for Star not you. This is more proof of what I always say to all the scared guys here. Women always come out looking worse. Look at every one ganging up on her because she isn't the type of girl to just keep quiet when pissed off. Couldn't have been all bad, dude. Dating an older woman who's been to Las Vegas 75 times must have it's perks... HAHAAHA you ass! You funny funny ass! One thing that surprised me, is that nobody mentioned dirty jokes and stuff like that. Being funny is great and all, but without any sexuality, all you're gonna do is drop the girls off and then talk with your buddy about it the next morning. Dirty jokes are risky. Better to just be silly with her and get her laughing. Then touch her leg or something as she laughs... Kiss her somedude when she's wet from laughter. I texted her both nights I was in Vegas, and both times it was while I was in my hotel room before going out. I was not out with other women and texting her. I really do respect her more than that. At least until she decides to go off on me like she did, but that's not the issue. It was never my intention to gloat about my Vegas experience. I didn't even recount the story until page 3 when Dust asked for it. I was just asking general questions. Perhaps my mistake was mentioning Vegas at all in the first post. It was always my understanding that Star was long gone and moved on, and that we'd keep our distance on LS, do our own thing, and remain civil. My reaching out in private was an attempt to rebuild that bridge so that we could at least be friendly again. I guess I didn't do that right either. Either way, what I say to Star in private have no relation to what I post on LS. I've learned to keep those two things completely separate. I would never "get back" at her from a private conversation via a public forum like LS. LS isn't some magical alternate reality. She's a girl and you send her msgs and engage her no matter how much of wall it seems might be there you're breaking through to her. Women can barely handle getting multiple calls/txts from a guy they are ignorning... she wasn't ignoring you. Look this was all very predictable and you know how she is. Bottom line you were txting about missing her or whate ever and at the same time enjoying other women... while posting about it here. You hurt her. Even if she doesn't like you it probably made her feel disrespected. I'm not hot enough to pull that off without a slap in the face... I've been punched in the face by women for the things I've said and done. It's well worth it. Also please not that these women who slap/punch you still might want you! Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Dirty jokes are risky. Better to just be silly with her and get her laughing. Then touch her leg or something as she laughs... Kiss her somedude when she's wet from laughter. Not exactly dirty jokes, but things that are more racy and sexual. I really don't think a girl would want to make out because I said something silly to her. Don't I need to get her mind thinking about that stuff first. Otherwise it's the wrong kind of wet... Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Not exactly dirty jokes, but things that are more racy and sexual. I really don't think a girl would want to make out because I said something silly to her. Don't I need to get her mind thinking about that stuff first. Otherwise it's the wrong kind of wet... She's on date with you. You're being funny. You're beeing touchy. Kiss her already. Enough getting her mind ready for any and all your moves. Action now thats the humor that will get you there Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm talking about before we're on a date. The kind of stuff that makes her want to go on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
snug.bunny Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 So after my past weekend's experiences in Vegas, I am now starting to genuinely believe the notion that quality humor really can overcome almost anything when it comes to women... Women, your thoughts...? Does humor really increase your attraction towards a man, or is it something you just say...? Is there even an explanation for why humor is so appealing to you? Men, what are your experiences with this...? Humor can increase attraction, but I believe it boils down to the type of humor one is drawn too and if two people's humor "click" or not. Sometimes humor is shared between two people, whereas others necessarily wouldn't necessarily find it funny and/or be attracted to it. Though just because someone of the opposite sex says or does something funny, it doesn't necessarily mean you're attracted to it/him or her or their sense of humor. LS isn't some magical alternate reality. She's a girl and you send her msgs and engage her no matter how much of wall it seems might be there you're breaking through to her. Women can barely handle getting multiple calls/txts from a guy they are ignorning... she wasn't ignoring you. Look this was all very predictable and you know how she is. Bottom line you were txting about missing her or whate ever and at the same time enjoying other women... while posting about it here. You hurt her. Even if she doesn't like you it probably made her feel disrespected. This other stuff, is a train wreck. I would lose a ton of respect for someone if they publicly aired laundry with such personal details as exampled throughout this thread and I would feel humiliated to boot. It's sad that two people can go from being caring/considerate towards each other, to this. I could never imagine myself or an ex going back and forth like this publicly, but then again my ex's and I were together for several years so perhaps that changes things a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 (edited) She isn't douchey nice (always smiling and never having an opinion that would offend anyone) but she never struck me as mean spirited. I prefer her brand of honesty over those who nursed a grudge for something and are jumping on her now that it's chic. Hokie you strike me as a good guy too but texting your ex who's still emotional when you're out with other girls is a big mistake. Even if she asks for it. Did you know the effect it might have? I don't know you well enough to say but Dust might be on to something. Or maybe it was just an honest mistake. Who knows. I hope you both keep posting though. I'm just hoping we won't keep hearing about this for a time to come. Hokie does strike me as a good guy, but given the history between them and her emotional involvement (even though it makes no sense) and he was texting her, then yeah, that is clueless. But still, a classless spectacle. What if they had actually worked together? Would Star Gazer be having crying jags and throwing hissy fits in the boardroom? Edited January 31, 2012 by Imajerk17 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm curious to know who here has actually met any other person from LS in the flesh, other than Hokie and Star? All this speculation as to what someone is really like is just that, speculation, because you are going by words on a page and your illusions about someone, nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'm curious to know who here has actually met any other person from LS in the flesh, other than Hokie and Star? All this speculation as to what someone is really like is just that, speculation, because you are going by words on a page and your illusions about someone, nothing more. Contrary to popular belief, we never actually met in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 I'm curious to know who here has actually met any other person from LS in the flesh, other than Hokie and Star? All this speculation as to what someone is really like is just that, speculation, because you are going by words on a page and your illusions about someone, nothing more. They never met they were going to meet! But for all I know every one on LS is the work of a small group of hermathrodite trolls. Serisiouly I don't take to much stock in any of this and neither should Hokie. None of us know who he is. Even if we did his marine buds would laugh this sht off as they probably do way more humiliating things to eachother on a daily basis... have you ever seen the movie full metal jacket god only knows what happened to hokie in training. A girl talking about him txting her or not doing good with women will hardly effect him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2012 Author Share Posted February 1, 2012 None of us know who he is. A few who I've met in person and am still friends with do. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 A few who I've met in person and am still friends with do. Oh yeah the cute waitress in the DC area now you're jogging my memory. Why oh why not make a move on her. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 None of you have ever met? All this drama is over fantasy? You lot are crazier than I ever could have imagined! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 A few who I've met in person and am still friends with do. I saw you pop up on FB along with random people. Interesting... Link to post Share on other sites
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