Randybrandt Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I have known this gal for quite some time and recently she told me she has a crush on me. I have always liked her and I was quite elated when she told me she had quite the crush on me. We have been on several dates and we have had shagged numerous times only problem is she has a boyfriend who she has been with for 3 years and she tells me she cannot break up with him because it would destroy him but she has feelings for me. One evening as I went down on her and was about to shag her she said Randy we cannot shag I need to watch what I am doing because I still have a boyfriend. I was floored because we shagged many times and quite confused when she told me she couldn't shag me anymore because she still has a boyfriend. She doesn't mind me going down on her but suddenly shagging is out of the question? Has anyone ever been in a situation where certain things are off limits? I have never been the other man and I do fancy this gal quite a bit and she fancies me I am just unsure exactly what is kosher one minute and is taboo the next. I would talk to her about this but she is the type who never talks about her feelings so I cannot approach it without her pouting. Please any advice from others who have been the other man or woman I would greatly appreciate it since I have never been involved with someone who has been attached. I promise I am not a troll or looking for trouble:o Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 If she does it to him then one day she will do it to you. Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Go find your own woman, she isn't yours and never will be. She has no respect for her bf and less for you. You'll be happier and less confused when you find someone else to shag who has no bf waiting for her at home. Wait until she cuts you out completely and tells you she's completely off limits ...... cut the rope now, you'll be better off. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Randybrandt Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 She is bloody confused that is one part of the problem. She loves me but also loves her boyfriend and cannot make up her mind and meanwhile she is deluding her boyfriend telling him she loves him and meanwhile going on secret dates telling him thinks like darling I am going out with the gals tonight won't be home do not wait up for me. I love her dearly but I hate how one minute everything is fine and the next her conscience suddenly gets to her and she is second guessing herself. I suppose she will never leave her boyfriend anytime soon and me being the other man in this relationship isn't going to work out in the end because unless she dumps him I will continue being the other man and it will end up in heartbreak. I suppose I better sever all ties right now and walk away I will miss her so much though:( Link to post Share on other sites
waytogo Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 She is bloody confused that is one part of the problem. She loves me but also loves her boyfriend and cannot make up her mind and meanwhile she is deluding her boyfriend telling him she loves him and meanwhile going on secret dates telling him thinks like darling I am going out with the gals tonight won't be home do not wait up for me. I love her dearly but I hate how one minute everything is fine and the next her conscience suddenly gets to her and she is second guessing herself. I suppose she will never leave her boyfriend anytime soon and me being the other man in this relationship isn't going to work out in the end because unless she dumps him I will continue being the other man and it will end up in heartbreak. I suppose I better sever all ties right now and walk away I will miss her so much though:( Why is she deluding him more than she is you by saying "I love you"? She is deluding you both. I doubt she even loves herself. I suspect she loves validation anywhere she can find it. "Two men want me, I must be better than I feel". Finding numerous people to 'want you', is easy. Finding one, only one you want back is the challenge. Self-love is very useful in that respect. I hope you will find someone who loves herself enough to live in dignity with no need for secrets, and choose you and only you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 This woman is manipulating you and playing you like a puppy. If she stays with her BF while having you around, she has two turkeys lined up for her. Just a selfish player. She doesn't care about you ! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 I was floored because we shagged many times and quite confused when she told me she couldn't shag me anymore because she still has a boyfriend. She doesn't mind me going down on her but suddenly shagging is out of the question? Has anyone ever been in a situation where certain things are off limits? Not in terms of someone who has a boyfriend. I don't mess with cheating women. I have never been the other man and I do fancy this gal quite a bit and she fancies me I am just unsure exactly what is kosher one minute and is taboo the next. Messing around with a committed or married person is taboo. I would talk to her about this but she is the type who never talks about her feelings so I cannot approach it without her pouting. Please any advice from others who have been the other man or woman I would greatly appreciate it since I have never been involved with someone who has been attached. I promise I am not a troll or looking for trouble:o Advice? If you stay with her, don't complain about her unscrupulous character later if she ends up breaking up with her bf, and you find out she is cheating on you when the relationship gets boring. Other than that, my advice would be to dump her and find someone who doesn't cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 She is bloody confused that is one part of the problem. Nah, she isn't confused. She is simply cheating and having 2 men at one time, playing them both for fools. And the both of you are fooled. I love her dearly but I hate how one minute everything is fine and the next her conscience suddenly gets to her and she is second guessing herself. Goes with the territory. I suppose she will never leave her boyfriend anytime soon and me being the other man in this relationship isn't going to work out in the end because unless she dumps him I will continue being the other man and it will end up in heartbreak. If she does dump him and you now become the boyfriend, then there will be another man later, and you will then be in the position her bf now is in. Like Woggle said, if she will do this with you, she'll do it to you. Stop thinking with your little head. I suppose I better sever all ties right now and walk away I will miss her so much though:( She must know how to give a good rim job, otherwise whats to miss about a cheater? Link to post Share on other sites
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