moosekaka Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 OK..... so I blocked her FB, went completely NC, avoided her every move and schedule even though we work in the same building and so I haven't laid eyes on her for almost 3 months. Yesterday, I get a mutual friend's FB pic posted where she was tagged in a group photo with other labmates celebrating another labperson's birthday. Boy does she look good...... I find myself looking at her pic again and again... Some emotions: 1) I miss her, and I want to reach out to her 2) I am curious how she's doing 3) I realized how isolated I am now as almost the entire lab was in that pic and I had no idea 4) FB, I hate you, I can't delete you though as I have some contacts there Link to post Share on other sites
Chs Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Man, i have seen several threads where you express your want to break NC right? I would really say do it. NC is supposed to help you get better, but if you have an urge to contact as long as you aren't hoping for a magical getting back together then i think you should! I have been in contact with my ex many times since our break up and i believe expressing my feelings, even if i got shot down after, has helped me more than keeping it away from her. As time went on i have now really lost the need of texting her anymore, i know it's futile and i know it won't do me any good making NC much much easier for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moosekaka Posted February 1, 2012 Author Share Posted February 1, 2012 Man, i have seen several threads where you express your want to break NC right? I would really say do it. NC is supposed to help you get better, but if you have an urge to contact as long as you aren't hoping for a magical getting back together then i think you should! I have been in contact with my ex many times since our break up and i believe expressing my feelings, even if i got shot down after, has helped me more than keeping it away from her. As time went on i have now really lost the need of texting her anymore, i know it's futile and i know it won't do me any good making NC much much easier for me. yeah, I know I come across as whiny, I know if I got rejected or treated coldly by her if I break NC i would be totally crushed. I really wished FB would make it such that if you block someone you can't unblock them again unless the person you blocked lets you, I find myself constantly blocking and unblocking her page....THANKFULLY the one smart move I made a long time ago was to insist we not be friends on FB so she doesn't know when I block her. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 This is an issue of self control. You need an outlet for when you find yourself wanting to communicate or stalk her in any way. Once those feelings come up you need to put your focus on something else so you don't do things like this and hurt yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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