Is is possible to really just be friends?

[pinky]

I am in an odd realtionship, and I don't know if it is OK or not.

 

I am married, and so is my friend. We have never slept together, and don't plan to. We both have kids and our families are friends. My husband and I, and him and his wife go out and do things all of the time. The problem is that his wife often goes home early because she doesn't really like him nor does she want to spend time with him. So he stays out with my husband and I. Then my husband has waaaay too much to drink and usually just abondons me for a better group of people. Sometimes he leaves the bar and I have to find my own way home.

 

This is where my friend comes in. He always brings me home and treats me really nice. He has a motorcycle so usually I ride on that with him and we just talk about stuff. Nothing too exciting, our kids and stuff like that. Then the next day both of us tell our spouses how he gave me a ride home or we hung out. Like I said, there is nothing physical going on, but I am afraid that emotionally I am in too deep. Having someone treat you well can be addicting.

 

I don't want to break off seeing him all together, because the rest of the family (mine and his) still want to get together and I don't want to hurt anyone. (Me, him, kids, spouses)

 

Does Anyone think it is possible for us to keep this emotional only, or is that more dangerous than a relationship based only on sex? I know I am rambling, but if this does not make sense let me know so I can clarify.

 

Pinky

[dudesomewhere]

sure it's possible, but you have to know yourself and know that you have an iron clad will...like me...hell I like to brag and be cocky when it concerns things like this

 

I also like to brag that I'm a sissy and have a small penis...nobody is wimpier than I!!! and nobody has a smaller package I say!!! and I'm poor....ah, that I lament on...gimme a sec *snif* *snif*

 

 

yeah, it's possible but you asking that means that it isn't possible with you, and that's not to be mean but it's just what is. You know? Maybe if you both talk about how good it is but set out now, from the very beginning to never cross that line...and the both of you vow this to each other, then it might work. A best friend in the opposite sex isn't all that unfathomable

 

do as I do with my heart and keep love and friendship as a child and you will never cross any line...innocence is beautiful and innocence in adulthood is amazing

[moimeme]

An awful lot of people have fallen hard for friends, having sworn they would not. You already think you're in too deep. You will have to keep your distance from him, I'm afraid.

[Stripey]

Think of me as you - the one who took the bad option.

 

I fell for a friend. Same deal - our partners would drift off when we went out together. Not into the same fun. We clicked so well. We were in awe of what good freinds we were. How well suited we were. Then we did the whole agonising over whether men and women could be best freinds as we were talking about everything by then.

 

And then he kissed me..

 

And I thought I could treat it as nothing..

 

Fast forward 6 months. Without the gory details (you could always read my thread). We both left our spouses for eachother. I have 2 kids. It was to be forever. It lasted 4 weeks. He's gone back to his wife. Guilt, love, responsibility.....Most of them seem to follow the same pattern.

 

Me, now alone, dealing with a strange new life.

 

So, PLeeeeaaaasssseee, do everything you can not to fall for this guy. Dont let it get physical. You will create a monster you will not be able to control and will have the potential to ruin a lot of lives. And good for you for getting on this site before its too late.