Gentlegirl Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Hi , I had an email today from xMM. He asked whether I would like to receive a Valentine's Day card from him.. Said he still loved me and thinks about me every day. He also mentioned changes that I have made in my garden. Obviously he has been snooping around while I am at work. He lives about 60kms away. Now...... I am not doing a happy dance because I received the email. I am doing it because I pushed the delete button wihthout a moment's hesitation.!!!! I no longer care what he thinks or feels at all. I certainly don't want a Valentine from him... it's over, gone, done with. I feel very very happy. GG Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I was worried for a minute from the title and the word email... Congrats to you. It does feel good to be free! *Oh I could just see him waiting for a reply... Bwahahhahahhahaaaaaaaaaaaa!* I don't mean to laugh but it's just too funny. Damn he's gonna hate yah if he doesn't get a response by valentines day. Poor Boo-boo. Link to post Share on other sites
SidLyon Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Well done GG. Believe me I know how difficult it is to ignore someone you once cared for. :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gentlegirl Posted February 2, 2012 Author Share Posted February 2, 2012 Wow...he was going to spring for a $3 Valentine's Day card? Your cup runneth over! :laugh: Tell Stalker Boy the next time he's nosing around your garden to make himself useful and pull a few weeds. If I were going to reply to him, which I'm not, that would have been a great suggestion. GG Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gentlegirl Posted February 2, 2012 Author Share Posted February 2, 2012 I was worried for a minute from the title and the word email... Congrats to you. It does feel good to be free! *Oh I could just see him waiting for a reply... Bwahahhahahhahaaaaaaaaaaaa!* I don't mean to laugh but it's just too funny. Damn he's gonna hate yah if he doesn't get a response by valentines day. Poor Boo-boo. Guess he will hate it.. but DAMN.. I no longer give a flying f...!!!! Recently I was wondering what would happen if I were to meet up with him again. Now I have the answer. I wouldn't meet up with him again. GG Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gentlegirl Posted February 2, 2012 Author Share Posted February 2, 2012 Well done GG. Believe me I know how difficult it is to ignore someone you once cared for. :bunny: It's nice to see you back here when you come. Surprisingly, it was not difficult to ignore him at all. I thought.. a married bloke, still looking for an affair on the internet, wanting to send me a Valentine????? Huh. It's not at all attractive, or in any way a compliment. It just means he's trying his luck again because he's not had any joy anywhere else. "I can see clearly now the rain has gone.." or the fog or whatever it was. It feels good. GG Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Good for you GG!!! Its nice to be the one in control of the situation isn't it. I'm really proud of you for seeing through his silly/lame attempt at just getting back in touch with you. Good girl :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
18Years2Late Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 CHEERS to you GG!!!! What a freakin a$$clown?...I'm very proud of u for not responding...I don't know that I could of restrained myself...but I can assure u it wouldnt have been a very nice or lady-like response...he would have heard me screaming from 1800 miles away...kudos to you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 This is good growth - nice to see someone being strong and moving forward! I think it's creepy that he was in your yard without asking permission! I'd tell him to stay away! He's checking on you when you don't know it.... Ewwww! I guess he figures a cheap card gets him laid- I wish you'd have a voice and set him straight! Never settle! You deserve the best! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gentlegirl Posted February 2, 2012 Author Share Posted February 2, 2012 This is good growth - nice to see someone being strong and moving forward! I think it's creepy that he was in your yard without asking permission! I'd tell him to stay away! He's checking on you when you don't know it.... Ewwww! I guess he figures a cheap card gets him laid- I wish you'd have a voice and set him straight! Never settle! You deserve the best! I will never reply to him. He would see any response as a good repsonse. The silence will deafen him and be more powerful than any words I could way or write. GG Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Post a sign in your yard. Trespassers will be prosecuted Stalkers will be de-nutted :D:laugh: Hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
FightClub Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 GG, It's great to hear you are feeling better and decided not to respond to exMM's e-mail, given the history and the situation in the end I would say your silence is all that has to be said. Keep your head high and smile, things are always changing! -FC Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 Now...... I am not doing a happy dance because I received the email. I am doing it because I pushed the delete button wihthout a moment's hesitation.!!!! I no longer care what he thinks or feels at all. I certainly don't want a Valentine from him... it's over, gone, done with. But still haven't blocked him, or told him to F off and you never want to hear from him again? Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 I'd be doing a Happy Dance too. It is nice to know that after all the extreme pain these MM's put us through, that they still have some sort of thought or feeling towards us. During my second and last round w my xmm, I ended up on anti depressants (off them now) an old demon from years ago returned, that being my eating disorder. I started looking like a crack ho and contempleted suicide which I am strong enough to defeat that thought. The pain was so overwhelming I felt it through every inch of my body. My body has healed now. My mind has almost healed although I feel I have some sort of post traumatic stress disorder from it all. I heard a recent quote from Demi Moore, who is going through her own heartache now. She said that at 49, she can look back over her life and relationships and she feels that she will never be worth loving." She mentioned something about being on her death bed as an old person reviewing her life and that even then, she will see that she was never worth loving. Thats how I feel now. Part of me still feels that MM really was the love of my life, even though common sense tells me otherwise. I will NEVER EVER contact him, but if I get a Valentines email or a birthday email on the 29th, I will have a little more peace in my heart that after all the pain I've gone through, he still does have a shred of a feeling for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gentlegirl Posted February 3, 2012 Author Share Posted February 3, 2012 But still haven't blocked him, or told him to F off and you never want to hear from him again? Nofool, He hasn't been a nuisance since we split at all. Of course I told him I had no wish to hear from him ever again. No.. I never told him to F off because I just wouldn't do that. It's not something I do and it would have achieved nothing. I never really thought of blocking him. If he persists, then I WILL contact his wife. I don't think he will. I think this is just giving it another try to see if I can possibly resist his charms. I CAN!!!! GG Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 4, 2012 Share Posted February 4, 2012 Hi , I had an email today from xMM. He asked whether I would like to receive a Valentine's Day card from him.. Said he still loved me and thinks about me every day. He also mentioned changes that I have made in my garden. Obviously he has been snooping around while I am at work. He lives about 60kms away. Now...... I am not doing a happy dance because I received the email. I am doing it because I pushed the delete button wihthout a moment's hesitation.!!!! I no longer care what he thinks or feels at all. I certainly don't want a Valentine from him... it's over, gone, done with. I feel very very happy. GG I'm so happy for you! I can remember that feeling of joy and release when my ex (who our break up was like a cloud over my world, and whom I had gone back and forth with so many times and dealt with him disappearing and reappearing and me pinning my hopes and dreams on that unstable dynamic) emailed me after an entire year of us not speaking and I simply felt annoyed and deleted it and moved on. I didn't dissect, it didn't spend hours, days, weeks trying to ascertain whether or not it meant he cared or loved me and was missing me , I didn't bother to sit and construct a response and mull it over. It had NO power over me...it was a ridiculous, lame email as had been many of his others that I jumped at before, and I was FREE as I deleted and carried on with my life and closed that chapter for good! Congrats to you GG :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Barrsitter Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 GG, Well done you! You've got your groove back and your self-esteem! It's amazing to look back when you were in the thick of the A and realize how off-centre you (like me) were. How "rose-coloured glasses" your vision was and how much we believe what we hear rather than be informed by the actions we see or don't see. Proud of you GG. Stay strong and hold out for the right man who is truly available and has something real to offer you. Paul: I love you. Holly: So what? (From Breakfast at Tiffany's) B- Link to post Share on other sites
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