macmillerpwnz Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 If you haven't been keeping it up with my story, then to sum it up basically my wife left me after a couple years due to me not treating her right and giving enough attention. She left out of the blue and I finally realized what I had been doing wrong and wanted to show her I could fix it but I kept screwing up and getting mad at her for leaving me instead of giving her space and playing it cool. It has been 2 months now that we are still separated and the divorce is still an ongoing process at this point. She came into my apartment and took our washer and dryer we bought together... and ever since then for some reason we decided to be friends and make this divorce process go smoothly. That happened 2 days ago.. So she is finally out of her parents house and moved into her own apartment and I came over her because she said she wanted to talk to me about being civil, friends, and working things out together as a team and support each other through this while being there for our daughter together. She even mentioned that she wanted to take it slowly and maybe even do things together such as going to zoo etc with our daughter. I feel like she is giving me mixed signals about being back together. She says things like, "as of right now at this point I am getting a divorce and wouldn't get back with you."... but then she will tell me things like she wants to take it slow and I will ask her if there is a .01 percent chance atleast to get back together she said maybe. I told her it would be nice to have a real marriage and get married again one day and she said yeah. When I came over she asked me about my personal life and if I am talking to any girls.. and she lets me kiss her and hold her and rub her anywhere I want.. We ended up having sex and she told me she shouldn't have done that and she feels bad.. because she doesn't want to make me believe we are getting back together.. but when we are doing our thing it feels so real.. she lets me rub my nose on her nose and we touch foreheads and I will kiss her.. If she didn't love me or think about getting with me would she be doing all of this? Maybe just so I will be easy to deal with in the divorce? Another question I have is that I am going to be going over there tonight to drop off our daughter.. and since I want to win her back should I try to spend time with her again in the same fashion as last time? Or should I play it cool like I am moving on and I got things to do so just leave after a few minutes and tell her I got somewhere to be? I want to see her and kiss her but I do not want to do the wrong thing.. She also sent me a text after the night all that happened and thanked me for understanding her feelings and that she is glad we are friends. I feel like she is just scared of getting hurt or making the wrong choice or letting her parents down because I am sure they are wanting her to leave me... Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 My wife is exactly the same! They are mixed signals and I can undertand them confusing the hell out of you, But as rob said to me- even thou she is saying she loves me still, misses me So much- if she wanted me she'd be on my door asking to give it another go. Your question about what to do tonight? Think you should play it cool, Dont go in. You had a good time yesterday- leave her wanting more of that. If she does then she'll let you know. If she doesn't then at least you have saved a bit of pride in yourself. Make sense? Link to post Share on other sites
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