Getting girl is easy and fun if you try!

[somedude81]

I do take every chance that's offered. That's a given.

 

What I don't do is really push my luck and hope for a miracle. And that's basically what happened to Dust.

 

On the contrary, I can think of several things that happened to me where my luck was actually bad. I had a chance for things to work out great and then random stupid crap happened.

 

That's the story of my life.

[NYC-BigKat]

I went to the olive garden for lunch today & spotted 2 cute waitresses in there doing tables. I kept looking at them but neither they seemed to care about me 'cause no eye contact. How could any1 make a move on a girl if they wont look at u?! Then I went home & saw a cute girl on fb & I sent a msg to her & she replied with "leave me alone!" & all I said was hi I think u have nice eyes & I would like to chat w/ u. Things like this dont feel good when u have good intentions but girls dont wanna see it .

[Dust]

I do take every chance that's offered. That's a given.

 

What I don't do is really push my luck and hope for a miracle. And that's basically what happened to Dust.

 

On the contrary, I can think of several things that happened to me where my luck was actually bad. I had a chance for things to work out great and then random stupid crap happened.

 

That's the story of my life.

 

It's not a miracle at all thats my point. You never ask girls out. Prove me wrong seriously flirt/askout a lot of girls. Then on the date make moves.

 

Otherwise you're just a lunatic.

 

I went to the olive garden for lunch today & spotted 2 cute waitresses in there doing tables. I kept looking at them but neither they seemed to care about me 'cause no eye contact. How could any1 make a move on a girl if they wont look at u?! Then I went home & saw a cute girl on fb & I sent a msg to her & she replied with "leave me alone!" & all I said was hi I think u have nice eyes & I would like to chat w/ u. Things like this dont feel good when u have good intentions but girls dont wanna see it .

 

For the love of all that is good go to a good restaurant for lunch instead of some crappy chain.

 

The waitresses at Olive Garden were there to serve you. You could have just called them over to your table and flirted with them.

 

As for seeing a girl on fb... you mean you saw one of your fb friends was online? Look hitting on a girl on facebook is just about as half assed as doing online dating. It's hardly trying.

 

Good job giving and update though. But you have yet to Flirt/ask out a girl!

[NYC-BigKat]

It's not a miracle at all thats my point. You never ask girls out. Prove me wrong seriously flirt/askout a lot of girls. Then on the date make moves.

 

Otherwise you're just a lunatic.

 

 

 

For the love of all that is good go to a good restaurant for lunch instead of some crappy chain.

 

The waitresses at Olive Garden were there to serve you. You could have just called them over to your table and flirted with them.

 

As for seeing a girl on fb... you mean you saw one of your fb friends was online? Look hitting on a girl on facebook is just about as half assed as doing online dating. It's hardly trying.

 

Good job giving and update though. But you have yet to Flirt/ask out a girl!

 

I cant just ask girls out on spot. I gotta get convo going 1st. Its natural isnt it? The fb girl was on my frnd's list but I never met her. I just added her through a mutual & we did speak briefly before but I lost her for a bit & then went back to talk to her but she got mad & wanted me to leave her alone after I give a comp. Thats not right. Maybe fb flirting is a bad idea???

[Dust]

I cant just ask girls out on spot. I gotta get convo going 1st. Its natural isnt it? The fb girl was on my frnd's list but I never met her. I just added her through a mutual & we did speak briefly before but I lost her for a bit & then went back to talk to her but she got mad & wanted me to leave her alone after I give a comp. Thats not right. Maybe fb flirting is a bad idea???

 

Yeah get a short convo going. Thats flirting. Then ask them out. You didn't even try. How can you act like its imposible to talk to a waitress at a resteraunt you were eating at? You're kidding yourself.

 

As for hitting on girls you've never met on facebook go ahead and do it if you want. It just doesn't really count as trying... It's almsot like putting a note in a bottle and throwing it out to sea expecting a response and some one to show up. Kind of fun just don't rely on it.

[Shaun-Dro]

Yeah get a short convo going. Thats flirting. Then ask them out. You didn't even try. How can you act like its imposible to talk to a waitress at a resteraunt you were eating at? You're kidding yourself.

 

As for hitting on girls you've never met on facebook go ahead and do it if you want. It just doesn't really count as trying... It's almsot like putting a note in a bottle and throwing it out to sea expecting a response and some one to show up. Kind of fun just don't rely on it.

 

He's right. Hitting on Facebook girls is not the best way to go. If you do it let it be without expecting anything in return; sort of like passing the time and nothing more.

 

I have a cousin who hits on random girls on both Facebook and Twitter. He gets no replies practically. And the ones who do answer show speedy disinterest and even get rude to him. But the guy won't give up! He's so scared to approach in real life. His balls got lost in the shuffle I guess.

 

Dust makes some great points about going out on a limb with women you encounter when doing daily activities. You can't put any serious stock into them; just go after them and make it brief; five minutes tops. Don't invest anything emotional into it NYC-Bigkat. You'd be missing the point if you do so adhere to our advice.

[Dust]

He's right. Hitting on Facebook girls is not the best way to go. If you do it let it be without expecting anything in return; sort of like passing the time and nothing more.

 

I have a cousin who hits on random girls on both Facebook and Twitter. He gets no replies practically. And the ones who do answer show speedy disinterest and even get rude to him. But the guy won't give up! He's so scared to approach in real life. His balls got lost in the shuffle I guess.

 

Dust makes some great points about going out on a limb with women you encounter when doing daily activities. You can't put any serious stock into them; just go after them and make it brief; five minutes tops. Don't invest anything emotional into it NYC-Bigkat. You'd be missing the point if you do so adhere to our advice.

 

Haha I think I'm going to make another thread on just this subject.

 

You said it well twitter and facebook flirting with random girls you've never met is almost pointless. I mean if you have fun doing it then what the heck but it doesn't really count as trying and your many times more likely to get girls other ways. Best bet is flirt ask out girls in real life. Also in real life bars/night clubs are the hardest atmosphere. Then after that people working especialy waitress's are going to be the hardes. But if you go to night clubs/bars might as well have fun trying. Also if you like a waitress might as well try. Still you need to try with girls you see in the park or line or what ever. They'll be the most open to a friendly/flirty conversation then being asked out. Even with them you have to just keep trying because on any given day the girl who would say no might say yes. Then of course on the date don't you dare treat it like a job interview, make some moves!

[dispatch3d]

The older I get, the more I dislike facebook. I just find it pretty pointless ot check out some girls pics. What am I getting out of this at the end of the day? I also don't think flirting with girls over facebook is a good idea at all. You will probably embarrass her before you get anywhere. It's also super weird and creepy to check out some girls pics all the time, reply to all her messages, etc. etc. especially if you aren't that good friends with her. At the same time, it's very easy to get on this path unknowingly...

[NYC-BigKat]

Haha I think I'm going to make another thread on just this subject.

 

You said it well twitter and facebook flirting with random girls you've never met is almost pointless. I mean if you have fun doing it then what the heck but it doesn't really count as trying and your many times more likely to get girls other ways. Best bet is flirt ask out girls in real life. Also in real life bars/night clubs are the hardest atmosphere. Then after that people working especialy waitress's are going to be the hardes. But if you go to night clubs/bars might as well have fun trying. Also if you like a waitress might as well try. Still you need to try with girls you see in the park or line or what ever. They'll be the most open to a friendly/flirty conversation then being asked out. Even with them you have to just keep trying because on any given day the girl who would say no might say yes. Then of course on the date don't you dare treat it like a job interview, make some moves!

 

Oh. Well I once talked to a kmart girl a few yrs ago & she seemed to like me whenever I came in there to talk but when I asked her for a # thats when she said no & I felt stupid in a way. If this happens again should I keep trying 'til she says yes? Would that be sexual harrassment if I do? I also like the really cute & curvy girls but they always have mean faces.

[Dust]

Oh. Well I once talked to a kmart girl a few yrs ago & she seemed to like me whenever I came in there to talk but when I asked her for a # thats when she said no & I felt stupid in a way. If this happens again should I keep trying 'til she says yes? Would that be sexual harrassment if I do? I also like the really cute & curvy girls but they always have mean faces.

 

Are you special needs? I'm just curious its hard to tell on here if posters have mentle issues.

 

You should have asked the girl out you talked to at Kmart right when you started liking her. You didn't have to wait till you talked to her a certain amount of times. Also you should have asked her out not for her number... Asking a girl for her number is not the same as asking her out. You should get her number if she says yes to a date you've asked her out on and you can try to get her number even if she says no to the date. If you just get the number then you have to ask them out on the phone which is way less cool then asking them out in person. You're more likely to get a yes if you ask them out in person. If she says no and you want to then ask her out again some other time unless you feel its pointless. Don't be scared. You can't get introuble for sexual harasment for asking some one out unless you work with them.

[Ross MwcFan]

Not for me it isn't.

[Dust]

Not for me it isn't.

 

I happen to know for a fact that isn't true. Don't you have another thread where you are worried young women of early 20's will become attracted to you and then their dads/brothers will beat you up. That thread would lead some one to believe you're worried about being chased by young women.

 

Also is it not true you can get girls, and in fact did get a girl on this very site to fall for you only to not want her to come because you were feeling overwhelmed.

 

Face it getting girls is easy for you. You just don't want them right now. No shame in that. No need to pertend its hard to get girls so you don't have to face the fact that you are the only thing that stands in your way.

[jobaba]

You could flirt/ask out 20-100 women a week if you’re single with barely any effort. Think of it as a good time not some stressful challenge to your existence. It’s not a numbers game so, don’t think if I ask out 100 women I get one. It’s a journey you just keep on flirting and having fun till you find the right one! Again it’s not a numbers game you don’t die if you get rejected by 100 women in a row. In fact you lose count and become more comfortable with yourself and learn a thing or two a book could never teach you. You grow if you allow yourself to.

 

What exactly is your story man?

 

You hit on 20 women a week and succeed by your own admission, but never settle down with any of them?

 

You're exactly the kind of jaded 'player/monster' women create when they rejected the pre-22 year old Dust and then bitch about later. BTW, that was not intended as an insult.

 

I cannot do that. If I like a girl and able to hook her, chances are, it's going to be a relationship...

[NYC-BigKat]

Are you special needs? I'm just curious its hard to tell on here if posters have mentle issues.

 

You should have asked the girl out you talked to at Kmart right when you started liking her. You didn't have to wait till you talked to her a certain amount of times. Also you should have asked her out not for her number... Asking a girl for her number is not the same as asking her out. You should get her number if she says yes to a date you've asked her out on and you can try to get her number even if she says no to the date. If you just get the number then you have to ask them out on the phone which is way less cool then asking them out in person. You're more likely to get a yes if you ask them out in person. If she says no and you want to then ask her out again some other time unless you feel its pointless. Don't be scared. You can't get introuble for sexual harasment for asking some one out unless you work with them.

 

No special needs. I'm pretty normal but just having a hard time with girls. I still love them tho. Cant say that for most guys right? About the kmart girl that time I was so scared of scaring her off by asking her out. I thought it was better or something the other to keep talking to her & coming back to talk more & more 'til I get the nerve up to ask for her #. I even remember her exact words to me that day was no I cant & she ran away . Next time I'm gonna try to work faster since my heart starts to beat really fast when I take long long lol.

[ThaWholigan]

No special needs. I'm pretty normal but just having a hard time with girls. I still love them tho. Cant say that for most guys right? About the kmart girl that time I was so scared of scaring her off by asking her out. I thought it was better or something the other to keep talking to her & coming back to talk more & more 'til I get the nerve up to ask for her #. I even remember her exact words to me that day was no I cant & she ran away . Next time I'm gonna try to work faster since my heart starts to beat really fast when I take long long lol.

 

Try to relax more. Become more acquainted with attractive women in your presence and you will lose the "babeshock" factor. It's slowly working for me, I can feel myself stepping out of my shell a lot more now. And I was a special needs kid . So you can do it, just remember to step out of your head and just talk freely, and don't beat yourself up if it goes up in flames, there are literally millions (.....and millions [The Rock ]) of women on this planet, so what if a couple aren't too impressed, right?

[AD1980]

Im 31 and still crippled by fear to approach random women i keep telling myself what you say but when it comes time i freeze up and dont know what the hell to say and fear that im gonna come off as a creep or loser by screwing up horribly..

 

I try non verbal communication like eye contact and a smile to try to get the same back and feel like maybe shes into me but i never get eye contact or a smile back so i figure therye not attracted to me

 

The few tiems i did approach and got rejected its like it reaffirms to me im not attractive to women and why its been 31 years and no women has shown an interest in me

[Dust]

What exactly is your story man?

 

You hit on 20 women a week and succeed by your own admission, but never settle down with any of them?

 

You're exactly the kind of jaded 'player/monster' women create when they rejected the pre-22 year old Dust and then bitch about later. BTW, that was not intended as an insult.

 

I cannot do that. If I like a girl and able to hook her, chances are, it's going to be a relationship...

 

What's your story you seem pretty dense? You're pretty rude for some one who doesn't think he's being insulting. Where did I say have sex with girls and don't have a relationship? The guys I'm trying to help here have never even had one gf and want one. Long term relationships/ mariage are a completely different topic.

 

When I'm single I'll hit on any woman I find attractive which could easily be alot if I'm out and about and around women in my age range.

 

How am I jaded because I don't think its a big deal to be rejected. Because I don't get obsessed about one specific girl and have objectivity.

 

I'm 27 does that mean I need to be married by now and with children? I've have 2 long term relationships one that lasted over a year the other that lasted 3.

 

No special needs. I'm pretty normal but just having a hard time with girls. I still love them tho. Cant say that for most guys right? About the kmart girl that time I was so scared of scaring her off by asking her out. I thought it was better or something the other to keep talking to her & coming back to talk more & more 'til I get the nerve up to ask for her #. I even remember her exact words to me that day was no I cant & she ran away . Next time I'm gonna try to work faster since my heart starts to beat really fast when I take long long lol.

 

I wouldn't worry about most guys. Girls scared of guys a lot of times thats normal. Don't worry about it, not your problem. Don't take it so personaly. I'm sure I've scared plenty of girls. Work faster and do it more often. If you're single and looking for a gf hitting on one girl so long ago isn't going to help. You need to be doing things in the present and with more then just one at a time.

 

Im 31 and still crippled by fear to approach random women i keep telling myself what you say but when it comes time i freeze up and dont know what the hell to say and fear that im gonna come off as a creep or loser by screwing up horribly..

 

I try non verbal communication like eye contact and a smile to try to get the same back and feel like maybe shes into me but i never get eye contact or a smile back so i figure therye not attracted to me

 

The few tiems i did approach and got rejected its like it reaffirms to me im not attractive to women and why its been 31 years and no women has shown an interest in me

 

If your single you just have to do it and try to enjoy being bold. I get scared too but in the end the side of me that says who cares if they think I'm some creepy loser. A good story I like to tell is when I was at a party a girl told me to go away and that I seemed like a creep. Moments later we were making out at the party and then she was txting and calling me. She later started ignoring me when she found out I lived in a ****ty apartment complex at the time... Yes thats how up and down things can be.

 

Go over there and stutter and be scared but try. Yes some girls will be anoyed/scared/ think bad things about you. But others will find you sweet/sexy. Your goal in life shouldn't be to be liked by every scared girl out there. You got this man. Time to approach some ranom chicks and creep them out! For the one who will enjoy you and laugh with you!

[PlumPrincess]

I think I need dating tips for women...

[Imajerk17]

I think I need dating tips for women...

 

Well actually you already got a lot of great advice in a thread you wrote. You just chose to ignore it.

Edited February 8, 2012 by Imajerk17

[Dust]

I think I need dating tips for women...

 

Well put on your most sexy dress and come over to my place. I'll give my tip in the bedroom!

 

My dating tips for men apply to women though. Heck just get out of your house and be brave enough to smile at a guy you like. You don't have to ask them out "hey how about dinner tonight I'll pick you up!" All you have to do is smile at enough guys. Then when they come over and ask you out just smile some more and say "yes!" If you like them. Don't take it to hard if a man doesn't come over he might be seeing some one, or too scared... rarely will he be single and just not into you unless you're a lot older or uglier then him. Key word "a lot."

 

So have you been getting out of the house lately and seeing guys you like? Have you been smiling at them? Maybe show some leg!

 

Also for me personaly I like girls who wear little to no make up.

[PlumPrincess]

Well put on your most sexy dress and come over to my place. I'll give my tip in the bedroom!

 

My dating tips for men apply to women though. Heck just get out of your house and be brave enough to smile at a guy you like. You don't have to ask them out "hey how about dinner tonight I'll pick you up!" All you have to do is smile at enough guys. Then when they come over and ask you out just smile some more and say "yes!" If you like them. Don't take it to hard if a man doesn't come over he might be seeing some one, or too scared... rarely will he be single and just not into you unless you're a lot older or uglier then him. Key word "a lot."

 

So have you been getting out of the house lately and seeing guys you like? Have you been smiling at them? Maybe show some leg!

 

Also for me personaly I like girls who wear little to no make up.

Ok, I guess, I should go out more. I actually do meet guys sometimes, but things never work out. I have the feeling I attract the flaky kind and then my insecurity flares up and my bad temper takes over...

[Shaun-Dro]

Ok, I guess, I should go out more. I actually do meet guys sometimes, but things never work out. I have the feeling I attract the flaky kind and then my insecurity flares up and my bad temper takes over...

 

Why the temper? That's not going to solve anything but make you look like a brat. You may need to broaden your horizon on where you meet guys. If they're really young, that might explain their flakiness. This all depends on how old you are, but if you're over 25, definitely go 30s. There's a better chance of improved results overall.

[jobaba]

What's your story you seem pretty dense? You're pretty rude for some one who doesn't think he's being insulting. Where did I say have sex with girls and don't have a relationship? The guys I'm trying to help here have never even had one gf and want one. Long term relationships/ mariage are a completely different topic.

 

When I'm single I'll hit on any woman I find attractive which could easily be alot if I'm out and about and around women in my age range.

 

How am I jaded because I don't think its a big deal to be rejected. Because I don't get obsessed about one specific girl and have objectivity.

 

I'm 27 does that mean I need to be married by now and with children? I've have 2 long term relationships one that lasted over a year the other that lasted 3.

 

Take it easy man.

 

I'm rude because I called you a player?

 

That's what it seems like from your posts. You hit on hundreds of women but had barely mentioned relationships.

 

Anyway, I don't want to pry. Your business is your business.

[dispatch3d]

Yeah I kind of get what you are getting at now. This pining away at a girl forever and thinking she is the one and only for you is the exact OPPOSITE of what has to be done to get a girlfriend. Literally ya gotta get out there and ask girls out, be a frigging adult not some 8 year old kid that really likes disney romance novels. No girl will ever be attracted to that.

[Dust]

Take it easy man.

 

I'm rude because I called you a player?

 

That's what it seems like from your posts. You hit on hundreds of women but had barely mentioned relationships.

 

Anyway, I don't want to pry. Your business is your business.

 

You used the word monster too. You are prying and being anoying. I never claimed to have slept with numerouse girls either.

 

Yeah I kind of get what you are getting at now. This pining away at a girl forever and thinking she is the one and only for you is the exact OPPOSITE of what has to be done to get a girlfriend. Literally ya gotta get out there and ask girls out, be a frigging adult not some 8 year old kid that really likes disney romance novels. No girl will ever be attracted to that.

 

Nothing wrong with being like an 8 year old disney loving kid. If that kid wants dates all he has to do is ask girls out. If he asks one to ZERO girls a year out then if that one girl says no... or if girls arn't asking him out then he'll have no gf.

 

haha but yeah we understand eachother you and I dispatch3d