Jynxx Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 In my experience very few women are actually looking for a ONS, but alot are open to it. To answer your question: there's no checklist, all there has to be is raw irresistible sexual attraction.
SmileFace Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Do women actually look for one night stands? The only ONS I ever had was after a night of drinking, and with a coworker. Well after a night of tons of drinking..haha However, not going to bs. Most women have the chance at FWB or FB. ONSs don't seem ideal. Anyway, I guess women look for tons of liquor. I don't think most women go into anything looking for a ONS but are not given the option for it to be much more so that is why it is a ONS. If that make sense.
phineas Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 (edited) Me. LOL! I would keep meeting women that were very "handsy" when out at a bar but I didn't try to take them home. I'd get their number & never hear from them again even when I called. I figured out, they were just looking to hook up. (actually a guy I knew slapped me upside the head & told me what to do next time that happens.) lol! So, when I go out & a woman is putting her hand on my inner leg at the bar, tugging on my belt ect. I'll come up with any excuse to invite them over instead of asking for her number. Hey! you wanna check out my George foreman grill? (seriously used this one) Or my weight bench, or anything stupid & if their DTF they will accept. Granted i'm not talking about super models here but still women I find attractive. I don't think OP means women go out looking for a ONS but he means what triggers the "itch they need scratching. NOW!" feeling. Edited February 5, 2012 by phineas
SmileFace Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Hey! you wanna check out my George foreman grill? (seriously used this one) Or my weight bench, or anything stupid & if their DTF they will accept. Granted i'm not talking about super models here but still women I find attractive. I don't think OP means women go out looking for a ONS but he means what triggers the "itch they need scratching. NOW!" feeling. I would love to see that george foreman grill one in action. I guess not getting the itch scratched triggers wanting to go out and get the itch scratched.
Content Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Im not one to go by gender stereotypes but the one i found most accurate is that as a whole most women arent looking for ons and feel like **** the next day when they have one Obviosuly some women dont mid but the majority of ons's ive had or had the opporutnity to have or seen women have was becaude they came off a bad breakup or something bad with a relaitonship and were depressed lonely insecure etc So over evem animal lust the best way for a one night stand is too probably find a women coming off a bad breakup and in dark vulnerable state of mind
Ruby Slippers Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I had couple of one-night stands in my 20s. I wasn't planning on it. In both cases, the guy was very sexy, targeted me clearly, and was very flirtatious and aggressive.
snug.bunny Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I'm sure there are some women who go out with the sole intent of having a one time tyrst, but I don't think that's the norm. I think a ONS can be based on different things,depending on the individual and her current needs/desires. It can be out of pure sexual attraction alone, a desire to feel wanted sexually by the other person, a rebound, so on and so forth. There are some instances when women will randomly go right up to a guy she sees and grabs his crotch or something, takes him to a room and has her way with him, but I think for the most part most women need a little bit of coaxing beforehand. If it was a casual setting and I met a guy for the first time, I'd need a good amount of being lured out of my shell to get to that point.
ascendotum Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 Hokie remember those good looking arrogant marine buddies of yours who used to pick up every time they went out!!! Its one these questions where your own observations take precendance over what women will say here. Not saying they are going to BS, but actions speak louder than words in this regard. What they say when sober and what they do 3 bacardi breezers later can differ often. In my experience very few women are actually looking for a ONS, but alot are open to it. I agree with this.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2012 Author Posted February 5, 2012 I guess I worded the question a little incorrectly...I'm not necessarily suggesting that women go out with the sole purpose of hooking up, but for those who are open to it, what goes through your mind when deciding whether to go home with a guy...? What would make you want to do it...? Or is alcohol really that powerful...?
razz90 Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 the guy would have to be reeeally hot, and he would have to make me feel able to trust him and feel comfortable with him. He'd have to be very confident (but not douchey, that';s a turnoff). All in all, when a woman is deciding whether to go home with a dude, she is thinking is he safe to go home with, will I have a good time, will he treat me with respect? (i bet most of the time when women feel used after a ONS it's because the guy treated her like ****). Having said that, i bet some girls might just be horny and not give a crap what you're like, if you're smokin' hot she'll shag you. These are probably the girls who grab the crotch of some random guy in a bar
phineas Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 George Foreman grills are overrated. The sandwich grills on the other hand... I have one of those also. Never even thought to use it as a back-up plan. Plus, think of the hot-toasted goodness she can make for me afterword.
oldguy Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 (edited) What they are looking for is pretty obvious, What they are is pissed off & drunk in many cases. Edited February 6, 2012 by oldguy
Leigh 87 Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I think even the most respectable women, who seldom sleeps with men ( unless in a comitted relationship), can have a one night stand.... For me, a women who CANNOT have sex unless I am in love.... I would still fool around IF: - it had been a while since I had any action - I was very horny - I had previously KNOWN the guy, and they were either a friend, or an aquantance who I like and respected, and trusted. I think it is wrong to just jump into bed with ANY guy; it is the wrong way to go about things, for any women, as it shows lack of respect for themselves. However, IF it is a guy u at least know a little, and u feel comfortable around them, why not have casual sex occasionally? WHAT I WOULD WANT ( I am a very horny girl, by the way, and will not settle for a guy who does not please me) - they would have to give a lot of foreplay, and show me that they want me. - They would have to get my off, before the sex. It cannot be all about them; they have to LIKE me enough, and be attracted enough to my personality, for them to WANT to give me pleasure.
Ross MwcFan Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 A buff, attractive looking, alpha male, with loads of confidence.
ditzchic Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 Wait? Women don't want ONSs??? That's crazy! I would much prefer a ONS over a FB or FWB situation. There's less chance of getting attached and it's less work. FB and FWB always end up being more work than you intend. Sometimes I want my sex completely unattached. No planning to see you again, no hanging out as "friends", just sex. FWB often ends up being just like you are dating without the commitments. I have a really busy full life. I'm not making time for someone that just sees me as a warm hole to stick his d*ck in. I'd rather just find a guy to satisfy my need for the night. As for the original question, I'm not looking for much in a ONS. Just someone that I'm extremely attracted to and want to climb like a tree. I also prefer that he doesn't seem like the clingy type who is going to try and make something come of it. But if he's real hot, I'll worry about that later.
denise_xo Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 I wouldn't say I was looking for something in particular beyond some fun - it was usually triggered by wanting some excitement/ enjoying the game or chase/ feeling very physically attracted to someone/ occasionally as getting rid of negative energy by getting drunk and spending a night with someone (a format of mild rebellion, I guess).
CarrieT Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Do women actually look for one night stands? There was a point in my life when all I wanted was one-night stands. I didn't want to get to know a guy and didn't want to know anything about him. I barely wanted to talk to him and just wanted a safe, erotic and incredibly hot sex. I would advertise on Craigslist for various encounters and looked for the type of guy I didn't think I would ever get in a relationship; someone incredibly hot and built (but I rarely got that anyway). Sexually, I wanted someone who was forceful but giving - wanting nothing but to pleasure me. I did get it in a guy with whom I had several encounters (Squirt-Master Rob, if you care to search my older posts). He was a man who knew a woman's body and knew what made me tick and drive me wild. Considering he claimed to have bedded over 2,000 women, it didn't surprise me he knew what he was doing. He put me at ease, made me feel comfortable with myself, was not demanding as far as expecting me to service HIM, but provided enough variety to not make me raw or sore or bored. Kinda miss those days now and then, but happy with the memories.
jobaba Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 What women look for in a ONS... Someone who is REALLY HOT! What men look for in a ONS... A hole and a heartbeat.
FrustratedStandards Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Same things as men. Hot sex with a hot partner. (Only problem is most women want emotional satisfaction from that too. LOL)
FrustratedStandards Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 (edited) Wait? Women don't want ONSs??? That's crazy! I would much prefer a ONS over a FB or FWB situation. There's less chance of getting attached and it's less work. FB and FWB always end up being more work than you intend. Sometimes I want my sex completely unattached. No planning to see you again, no hanging out as "friends", just sex. FWB often ends up being just like you are dating without the commitments. I have a really busy full life. I'm not making time for someone that just sees me as a warm hole to stick his d*ck in. I'd rather just find a guy to satisfy my need for the night. I completely disagree. A one night stand is having first-time sex every single time. It's awkward, you don't know each others bodies, what you like, what you don't like. It's like the "discovery" of each other, and I don't think that's satisfying at all. A FWB at least, overtime, gets to know your habits. You likes, your dislikes. With that the sex becomes even better, and you can get in and out without any problems. You will relatively know each others schedules and availability, you can drop by, have sex you know will be good, and that's that. With a ONS it's always uncertainty, and there are sure to be lots of surprises. He might take his shirt off and be completely not what you imagined. Worse, his penis might not be of adequate size or preferred shape. I would definitely stick with FWB. My FWB knows me in and out, we've been FWB for almost 8 years now (on and off depending on if we are dating someone). I am satisfied every single time. No disappointments. The worst thing is going out looking for a ONS, being incredibly aroused and so excited to get into bed with a hot guy, next thing you know he's a huge disappointment and you are even more sexually frustrated than before. Besides, you don't get the same comfort level with an ONS than a FWB (in my opinion anyway). For me it takes a long time to get comfortable sexually with someone, and the only ONS I ever had was with a longtime high school on a drunken night. Even though I love him dearly and I know him inside and out, the sex was still awkward. At least I know what i'm expecting with my FWB, and knowing that he can please me makes me even more aroused. I guess you can call it foreplay in a sense. And i'm not friends with my FWB. We've never even hung out LOL. I don't understand what you mean by "more work"? If it's strictly sexual why do you need to maintain some sort of social relationship? Edited February 7, 2012 by FrustratedStandards
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