dk546 Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 Please help! After you have found that your spouse had spent the majority of your relationship lying and cheating has anyone ever found they could trust again. Is it better if I just leave? I have recently found that my husband was cheating with his co-worker and email pal "chublette", viewing endless pages of porn, registering at online dating, hiding money and telling people he was single. We have been together over 17 years and I have traced back at least thirteen that he has been doing this. I know I must look like an idiot......but can I ever truly trust him again? Why would he change after 17 years? He claims he sees how awful he has been and wants to make it up to me. Please let me know if anyone has regained their ability to trust and how in the world you did it. Link to post Share on other sites
Maria46 Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 I would just say see ya later!! Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Pookette Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 God, get rid of this guy I could see forgiving someone for something like porn, but cheating and squirrelling away money and telling people he was single is unforgivable in my eyes. If you are able to think that you could ever possibly forgive him, you are a better woman than I am. I wish you luck as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 13 years of lying (when you lie about you not being married, you are *in the best possible case* looking around) and cheating are way too many. It's not like you were married for 17 years and he was acting like this for a couple of months. It's not like he just made a mistake. I'd get rid of this jerk. You can't really trust him, it's not like he is sorry about it, he confessed only because you found everything out. He'd be still lying if you had not found out what had been going on all by yourself. He's very likely going to behave like that again. Please don't take him back, you have already wasted 13 years with him, and he does not deserve that you forgive him. Link to post Share on other sites
Greta Posted June 10, 2004 Share Posted June 10, 2004 No, you cannot and should not trust him. It's obvious that he has absolutely no respect for you or your marriage. I would start divorce proceedings immediately. You don't mention if there are any children, if there are, is this what you want them to learn that marriage is about? I would also recommend talking with a counsellor to help you work through your feelings. I wish you all the best--you deserve it! Link to post Share on other sites
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