RonChalant Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 So if you've read any of my other post and know my situation, you know I'm still madly in love with my ex who left me for the third time in three years for the same guy...that's aside from the point of this post though... So I met this girl 2 weeks ago...got her number, wasn't going to call but decided to because I was bored. She came over my house today and I coaxed her into..."servicing" me after a few hours of spitting bullish*t "game" to her. Honestly it been about a month since I've had any "servicing" so it was needed. Afterwards we were cuddling and I wrote my ex name on her back with my finger over and over. Yea I used her pretty much and I feel kinda bad about it, but at the same time I feel like I shouldn't care because she did it on her own free will. I feel like my ex doing me the way she did is going turning me into a womanizer. Is this normal or am I a dousche Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I am going to try and keep a neutral tone, even though this post hit me a little hard in the heart because it hurts me to think guys really think like this. As a girl who has been "used" in the past, I do not believe there is any justifying what you did to her. Unless you both were clear that is was nothing beyond physical and were okay with that, it is absolutely not cool to toy with anyone's emotions. I don't care if you are heartbroken, that does not give you the right to hurt others. There are better ways to deal with heartbreak that ar more positive and if you need "servicing," then you can very well take care of that yourself or get with someone who you know wont have an emotional attachment. I suggest you apologize to her and do not use girls in the future sp you can avoid future drama and avoid making yourself feel like crap. Link to post Share on other sites
ResetInput Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Agree with perfectlyflawed. I did the same "just to get serviced" thing about 2 weeks after breakup only for it to backfire in my face and make me feel even worse. Give yourself some time to get your act together, it may be 1 month, 6 months or a year... just dont play with others emotions. Learn something from all this; you ve been on the receiving end of these games, you know how it feels. You can take care of the "need" manually Just my two cents. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 You surely did use this person and I'd feel the same way as you were I in this situation. Seems like you manipulated her in order to gain what you wanted rather than providing the facts. But all you can do is learn from this. Other than this physical need (which you could have taken care of yourself or got some sort of toy), did you get anything positive out of this? Seems like you were feeling sad afterwards and now feel remorseful after the fact. Take this as a lesson and learn from it. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 The fact that you feel bad says something positive about your character. Something that strikes me however is the mindset of the girl you had the ONS with, she was either just wanting a ONS or has some real relationship issues. In other words; having A ONS is one thing, expecting a LTR after is not emotionally responsible. So you either got a girl who like you, just wanted some "servicing" or someone with emotional issues. Link to post Share on other sites
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