maylis Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 we broke up on jan 27th. no contact since 9 days. skype is set up so you can see when someone has removed you from their list. he just removed me from his. he's removing me from his life and i know it was already happening because he broke up with me and hasn't tried to work it out but i guess seeing that he's deleting me like that is making it more realistic that it's not going to get fixed and its over. im so upset right now..tomorrow was supposed to be our anniversary. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You had the opportunity to do so first. If the relationship is over he is just doing what he needs to do to heal... hopefully. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maylis Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 You had the opportunity to do so first. If the relationship is over he is just doing what he needs to do to heal... hopefully. I don't want it to be over though, I want him to realize he was being unfair and to try to work through this. But instead it is this, it is so hard to keep myself from contacting him right now, this really hurts Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I don't want it to be over though, I want him to realize he was being unfair and to try to work through this. But instead it is this, it is so hard to keep myself from contacting him right now, this really hurts Sadly this isn't your choice. All you can do now is work on yourself as if he will never come back and learn to be happy again. If he comes back and can maturely work through things, and you still want it at that point, that is great. If not you will at least be moving forward and learning to be happy with things the way they are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maylis Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 Sadly this isn't your choice. All you can do now is work on yourself as if he will never come back and learn to be happy again. If he comes back and can maturely work through things, and you still want it at that point, that is great. If not you will at least be moving forward and learning to be happy with things the way they are. I was doing kind of well the past few days and this just makes me feel like the day after all over again Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I don't want it to be over though, I want him to realize he was being unfair And I want you to ask yourself whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy you want to be with someone who can't realize when he's being unfair??? Was it something your mother taught you long ago? Time will heal this, and you'll get to *know* that you are better off... Link to post Share on other sites
Author maylis Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 And I want you to ask yourself whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy you want to be with someone who can't realize when he's being unfair??? Was it something your mother taught you long ago? Time will heal this, and you'll get to *know* that you are better off... I know you are right, I can read this and I know you are right. I am completely without logic right now, I can't stop crying Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 *Hugs* It's always tough and words fail. But if he was truly unfair and unwilling to point the finger at himself, this may not be the worst thing. Love is only really sustainable when both sides seriously assess their behavior in a fall-out and fess up when they were the source of the ill-will. No one deserves to face repetition of unfairness. Consider that this may be a liberation from future hurt with an unworthy person. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maylis Posted February 8, 2012 Author Share Posted February 8, 2012 *Hugs* It's always tough and words fail. But if he was truly unfair and unwilling to point the finger at himself, this may not be the worst thing. Love is only really sustainable when both sides seriously assess their behavior in a fall-out and fess up when they were the source of the ill-will. No one deserves to face repetition of unfairness. Consider that this may be a liberation from future hurt with an unworthy person. Good luck. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t313029/ That is what happened, I truly think he was being unfair. I guess I will try to remind myself of that, that it would have probably been repeated. The day after our breakup when he came over and said he didn't want to risk being in a relationship with me and having it be the same a year from now - I wonder if he was right there telling me it wasn't going to change. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I know you are right, I can read this and I know you are right. I am completely without logic right now, I can't stop crying It hurts the most because you invested yourself appropriately. At least give yourself that much credit. It doesn't hurt too much to those who never cared... Link to post Share on other sites
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