Melrapuo Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 So this whole week has had me in a rather crummy state i guess. My dad had a total hip done last week, so my life for the past two weeks has been work and then visiting him in rehab (hes doing fine btw) My social life hasnt been as great as i thought it would be. I went on a date with a girl who i had only known from facebook. Went for coffee, then dinner a few nights later. Things went well, got to know her.more. i think on some level we clicked. Asked for a kiss, got one. (Im trying this thing out called being confident. Seems to be working lol) I had asked her to go bowling last saturday. She said yes, but cancelled last minute cuz she had gone somewhere with her fam and would be running late. I took it with stride even though i felt crappy, but in the same text she apologized and said anytime this week was great to reschedule (we're going tomorow). This would sound like a good thing, but i also found out.that this girl.is.going to italy for 3-6 months for a chance to cook in a very high class restaurant. Its a great opportunity, but shes leaving in a bout three weeks. I dont know where.this is going, or how she sees.this (we talk every now.and.then. usually i initiate convo to see how her week is going, or to confirm the time i can pick her up for dates. Tryinf not to be too pushy here.) To be honest though, ive never done flings or casual dating. Im not even sure.if thats what this is going to be, or even if i only want that. Q)In addition, ive been having dreams about my ex. (Broke up in dec. After three years. She fell outta love with me but we both werent happy.) We havent spoken since the break up, except for a text from her about items that i never responded to. I had deleted her off fb, and she started a whole new one. After she texted me she blocked me a week later. Im not thinking about her constantly, but the thought of her does make me depressed. I do miss her, but i know theres no point in talking to her. Itll only bring me more grief. So long story short im not happy. Ive been lifting, doing hobbies, moving on. Hasnt been easy. Im keepijg my chin up, but a nice ray of hope wouldnt be so bad right now. Sorry for the typos, doong tbis from my phone lol. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Where do you want it to go with the girl going to Italy? As for having dreams about an ex, that's very common, especially during times of stress & your sure going through that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Melrapuo Posted February 9, 2012 Author Share Posted February 9, 2012 Rationally, where can it go with a girl going to italy for an extended time? We could always talk and keep in touch, but tbh i want more than that. The long distance can make that hard, if not impossible. I guess im down because i met someone who i like that isnt my ex, but the chances of anything coming from this beyond friendship are, for now, pretty slim. Thats depressing to me. I think im bein to hard on myself, but at the same time im wishing the situation was different. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 (edited) Well, it's pretty clear that the girl going to Italy likes you too. Yeah, she had to cancel a date on you, but made great efforts to see you anytime that week. she WANTED to be with you. That should speak volumes to you. You know that you have a couple of weeks with her before she goes. ENJOY your time together!! And if happens that you want to be exclusive with this girl..well, 3-6 months isn't that long. Hell, military spouses do it all the time. Enjoy your time together. Show her a good time. Make her feel compelled to write your Ex a thank you card! Then, when the time is near you KNOW you're going to have to have the "talk" with her about where this is going. Oh, and if you think she's going to have a wonderful time in Italy...think again. My cousin is a Chef and he went to study for a few months in England. I asked him how England was for him. He said he didn't know. He saw the restaurant more than he saw England. He had to get there early in the morning for receiving, hours of prep work before lunch service...then had a two hour break before he had to be back to start prepping for dinner service. THEN working through dinner service. Finally clean-up and go home only to return in the morning to do it all over again. Only had one weekend off his whole time there. Think about it, when do you take a girl out for dinner...usually weekends. So, you can put yourself at ease thinking that she going to hook up with every dude in Italy. Dreaming about your Ex is normal. and in time it will pass. SO..... you have a few things to think about. Edited February 9, 2012 by Chi townD Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Rationally, where can it go with a girl going to italy for an extended time? We could always talk and keep in touch, but tbh i want more than that. The long distance can make that hard, if not impossible. I guess im down because i met someone who i like that isnt my ex, but the chances of anything coming from this beyond friendship are, for now, pretty slim. Thats depressing to me. I think im bein to hard on myself, but at the same time im wishing the situation was different. There are a lot of options here;Exclusivity is probably not the best course to suggest but stay in touch with her & six months is an incredibly short period of time. In the mean time, date & enjoy it. I seriously don't understand why so many only date with an agenda. Link to post Share on other sites
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