Being at the same place with her, how to handle?

[janbaz]

I was in an emotional affair with her for a year or more. We work on same place. I used to sight her and think about her for more than two years. And she is still some where in my mind. She is the first girl I liked and she got a place in my heart. I got a hard crush.

 

Long story short, I never met her in person. Because she didn't wanted. I dont know. Seeing that I am just wasting my time and she does not have feeling for me, I went on No Contact. The last contact I made with her was on first week of sep'11. That was response of her text. Before this text there was silence of a month, and I didnt break this silence by wish her birthday in that month. My response in sep'11 can not bring a conversation in us. It was just feeler text by her. She wrote a single sentence in her last email (contact) that how I am doing in the end of october'11. After that nothing happend.

 

After that, I used to change my way sensing she is coming in the same corridor. I avoided to go to cafe if she is there. I dont want to create a single moment that i show up to her. I dont want that, I just want to erase her from me. Because I didnt feel good about my past with her. My feelings for her were immense.

 

Now I came to know my team is shifting to the same place where she used to sit. It will be a same hall. And there are many chances to encounter her. I got butterflies in my stomach whenever i came to know she is arround. I dont know its been long time of no contact and still its hard to forget her.

 

I used to put my self respect on stack many times when i was in all this with her. And she did bad with me. It was just a play, many things i discovered she lied to me. Because i used to trust her blindly and i never had doubt on her or checking things.

 

Being in same place what should i do? I need advise, i dont want to act stupid that she laugh on me with her friends and make fun of me.

 

thanks for reading and i appriciate any piece of advice.

[janbaz]

Any advice on this?

 

Today I sight her, she was in a beautiful dress. But I didnt made eye contact with her. She was trying hard to get girl for me. And made things very difficult. I used to wait her text a lot, that most of the time end up disappointing.

 

I still having hard time to get over this. She did unkind things with me, I wasted my a lot of time behind her. Because it was a great crush.

 

I need help on this.

[zerovandez]

Did you two ever date or have any physical contact? It doesn't seem like you two had any relationship other than work and you formed a crush for her.

 

I'd hate to say it but she just not into you. You can't force this girl into liking or loving you. The best thing you can do is keep it professional at work and move on with your life. Find someone else to crush on who will appreciate the things you do for them.

[janbaz]

Did you two ever date or have any physical contact? It doesn't seem like you two had any relationship other than work and you formed a crush for her.

 

I'd hate to say it but she just not into you. You can't force this girl into liking or loving you. The best thing you can do is keep it professional at work and move on with your life. Find someone else to crush on who will appreciate the things you do for them.

 

You are right. No, we have not date, even met in person. It was just my crush.

 

Yes, I will kick those things out of my head. Just want a relief. I should get fresh air.