otherwomen Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 Why does the MM like to try all sorts of sexual acts with the OW but would never do them with his wife? My ex MM liked it up the butt. I was the one that had to do him??? Weird or what? You know wear a strap on dildo and do him? What does anyone think of that? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 Perhaps he got himself a mistress (which happened to be you) to act out those fantasies his wife would not be interested in. Perhaps he sees his wife as The Mother of His Children and his mistress as the person whom he can asks everything *he* thinks it would not be appropriate to ask the wife. A kind of Madonna/not Madonna thing. Like, he'd never dream of asking to play with a strap-on dildo to the woman he married for fear of scaring her but he has no problems asking you. There really are some guys who genuinely think that sex with their wife *must* be boring, while they can do anything with their lovers. He might be afraid to show some sides of him (not to be taken literally) to his wife. Perhaps (and I think it's the most likely case), his wife is just not interested into that stuff and you are (interested, or at least willing), AND, with the OW the sex drive is usually bigger (because of the novity, the risk of being discovered, because you usually see your mistress only at her best while you know what your wife looks like when she is ill, or very tired, or she is changing diapers to the children). I am avoiding all the 'you should not date married men' stuff, but you forgot to mention an important thing in your post: do you *really* like wearing a strap-on dildo and take him from behind, or are doing it just in hope to tie him emotionally to you, and to give him better sex than his wife does? If so, it's not a great idea. Be careful because if he'd never do them with his wife *for his own choice not hers*you risk being labelled as 'slut to have fun with'. Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 Those are great points. My MM calls me his 'favorite porn star'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author otherwomen Posted June 3, 2004 Author Share Posted June 3, 2004 I did him 3 times in the butt. It was kind of weird wearing a strap-on. I threw it away after. But then he wanted a vibrator up there. HE liked the vibration of it. He would never ask his wife to do any of this. She would always make a comment about not going in the back door. As you know I'm not with him because I confided in a friend one day, big mistake and she told his wife. What I really miss is the friendship or getting together that we all did. Even if I didn't care for her too much, it wasn't about him or anything, I didn't care for her coldness when it came to children and her own, it was weird I couldn't put a finger on it. And the people I knew that I introduced her too, would say the same thing, there is something I don't care about her. And these people didn't know about her husband or me. She doesn't know he still emails me. One time he sent me a picture of his &ock! And recently he told me he misses it so much, that he could taste me....yucky....I was grossed out to hear that from him...go taste your wife..not me anymore. Anyways, I have not worn a strap-on LOL since. And I don't think I will again. Maybe I should send them one for an xmas gift this year! And a butt plug! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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