gsh Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 My bf and I have been together for 1.5 years..we broke up 8 months into the relationship for a month because we both needed time alone because we were both going through a difficult time with our work and family..and then when we got back together i thought we both had our heads straight. i thought we were really happy..we hardly fought..petty arguments once in a while..but better than ever before. We were watching crazy stupid love tonight and when ryan gosling asks steve carroll how many women he's slept with i looked at my bf and asked him. i thought we had discussed this before..and i was pretty sure it was 2 including me. He tried to avoid the question but then he eventually said 4. I was confused and kept pushing him to tell me who. one was in college before we met so ok whatever that's fine..and then he wouldnt tell me the last one untl i kept asking and he said he didnt want to hurt us... Finally he admitted that when he way on a business trip the week of his birthday (3 months ago) he screwed some random girl from the bar. I know theres a big stimga on cheating..he gave the usual excuses..he was drunk doesnt even remember how it happened..but i'm not stupid. He could have and should have if he cared about me. Then he said it's hard because we hardly have sex..(which is true because we both live with our parents and I am very conservative and think its disrespectful to our parents if we did it in our rooms)...i'd say we only slept together about 10-15 times our whole relationship.. but then again, I don't give a ****....or that he broke out sobbing asking me to take time to think about giving him another chance. he hid it from me and all he had to say to that was that he didn't want me to leave him. At this point, I'm not concerned about him or thinking abuot the relationship but i just feel in shock and confused. I don't know how i'm supposed to be feeling or what to do from here on..hes 29 and im 27 btw.. i feel so helpless and insecure..any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 You two aren't sexually compatible & you'll probably never trust him again so just move on. Sorry, but it really is that simple. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 ^this. Definitely agree. Hes shown he cant be trusted, and once trust is broken, thats usually the death blow to a relationship. You should fine someone with similar views on sex. And you should also work on moving out so you can have more freedom when in a relationship with someone. Link to post Share on other sites
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