Little improvements?

[cerridwen]

Meditation is IN.

Steroid treatment is OUT.

Traditional Chinese medicine is IN.

 

And maybe accupuncture.

We'll see.

 

And while the weather's good, Trikking's IN, the gym is OUT.

Edited June 10, 2012 by cerridwen

[CopingGal]

My goal is to eat healthier and walk more- consistently!

[johan]

My goal is to eat healthier and walk more- consistently!

 

Do you limp for a few steps, and then swagger, and then maybe stroll, before you start to saunter or meander? I can see how you would want to be more consistent. That would drive me crazy.

[SmileFace]

Do you limp for a few steps, and then swagger, and then maybe stroll, before you start to saunter or meander? I can see how you would want to be more consistent. That would drive me crazy.

 

You pesky orange man you.

[Kamille]

You pesky orange man you.

 

Not a man.

 

Not a bot, therefore not a man.

[writergal]

Love this thread.

 

My current 'priority' goal is to pay off the debt I accumulated when I was a student (you know, for 12 years), while saving money for a downpayment on a home. I've figure out a budget and a timeline. I spend much time on the internet, planning out budget meals while also looking at house listings.

 

Congrats on those of you who are meeting the 2 week mark!

 

Kamille that's awesome about having money saved for a downpayment on a home while balancing your student loan repayments etc. That gives me hope that I can accomplish the same goal once I'm done with my grad school program. Prepping for and passing a college level algebra exam is definitely one of my top 5 goals for 2012 so I can get approved for my teacher license next spring. I'm still applying for PR jobs which goes back to my Plan A, Plan B lists of goals...but if I can overcome that math hurdle to get my license I will do that first and do PR on the side. Where there's a will, there's a way. Right?

[Anela]

One small goal:

 

Return all friends' phone calls, emails, and texts within 24 hours.

 

This is one thing that I've intended to do for years now, sadly. I used to get back to everyone as soon as possible, when I still had an attention span.

 

I keep thinking about small things that I should be doing, but I'm like eleanor in that I do better when I'm feeling better, and that just doesn't seem to last long. At the beginning of every year, I feel motivated, but it doesn't stick - it waxes and wanes, so I need more discipline and focus.

[Teknoe]

I keep thinking about small things that I should be doing, but I'm like eleanor in that I do better when I'm feeling better, and that just doesn't seem to last long. At the beginning of every year, I feel motivated, but it doesn't stick - it waxes and wanes, so I need more discipline and focus.

 

 

I used to REALLY struggle with this, and I still do in fact, but it's a lot less now than it was a year ago. Then one day it just hit me. I can't rely on feelings. Would I work out if I don't feel like it? In years past I would. Now I just bolt ahead and do the work out (or whatever it might be) in spite of "how I feel." Ever hear the saying feelings are fickle? It's true. Consistency and discipline is the key. Imagine if your dentist only performed his best when he felt "good." That's not healthy, lol....

 

So yeah, it's just training your mind to reshift itself.

 

I also find this helps: Don't just THINK it... INK it!

 

Documenting your journey and charting your progress is a great motivator, especially during those tough times where you feel no energy. Just reading old posts of your own success is enough to get you through the day.

 

It's cliche but it's true. You get out what you put in. Word hard, work smart, and anything is possible. Believe it. Live it. EVERYDAY. That's how you build discipline and consistency. The start of a long journey begins with one footstep. Put one foot ahead of the other. EACH DAY. Before you know it, you will have gone a LONG way. Keep pushing forward! Also know we all have our bad days. Don't beat yourself up, don't throw a pity party. GET RIGHT BACK UP and focus on the things you can do today. The past is the past. Today anything is possible!

[Nikki Sahagin]

What a great thread

 

* Plan my world travels next year

* Looking into a vet nursing course

* Regular exercise

* Regular meditation

* Regular blogging/writing

[SmileFace]

Working on school right now. It is a small step forward. I still have so much to learn about financing school and actually going to school as a student. Anyway I think I am taking the chance of moving on campus, cutting hours at work and seeing an academic advisor to finally figure out my life. Hope everyone is making little improvements.

[josie54]

I'll join in....I want to stop feeling as if my life is over just because I'm over 40. I'm feeling ancient these days, and I'd like to still think and act as if I'm 25 (in the good ways, not necessarily the bad ones!), rather than 42 (almost 43...).

 

Not sure how to accomplish that--I know "age is just a number," but it's one I obsess about constantly. But if I'm going to make the most of my life, I'd better try to get over it.

[Els]

One of my goals right now is to eat out more alone.

I am not secure with myself enough to not feel judged or alone while sitting alone. It may seem like a small change but I think it can help my self esteem as a whole so I will be treating myself to sit down lunch this coming week.

 

Hey, I've been trying to do that too! I find it isn't easy as a young woman. Most of the people I see eating alone are male, and usually older males. I've almost never seen fellow young women eating out alone, and that makes me self-conscious. I really enjoy having a quiet lunch by myself sometimes though, and I need to get more comfortable with that. Good luck with your endeavours too!

 

My 'tiny steps' plan currently is to do something, anything, a little each day, towards my goal of running a self-employed web design business.

[Anela]

I'll join in....I want to stop feeling as if my life is over just because I'm over 40. I'm feeling ancient these days, and I'd like to still think and act as if I'm 25 (in the good ways, not necessarily the bad ones!), rather than 42 (almost 43...).

 

Not sure how to accomplish that--I know "age is just a number," but it's one I obsess about constantly. But if I'm going to make the most of my life, I'd better try to get over it.

 

I've been feeling this way since just before my 35th birthday. I hate that - I remember feeling one-hundred years older at times, when I was in my twenties, but I have never felt anything like this for so long. I think it's because I was trying to make changes, and they weren't working out - like I was supposed to stay here - and then I got my heart broken and just have been feeling awful. I missed out on things when I was younger, was agoraphobic for years, and now... I want to stop feeling ancient.

[Anela]

I used to REALLY struggle with this, and I still do in fact, but it's a lot less now than it was a year ago. Then one day it just hit me. I can't rely on feelings. Would I work out if I don't feel like it? In years past I would. Now I just bolt ahead and do the work out (or whatever it might be) in spite of "how I feel." Ever hear the saying feelings are fickle? It's true. Consistency and discipline is the key. Imagine if your dentist only performed his best when he felt "good." That's not healthy, lol....

 

So yeah, it's just training your mind to reshift itself.

 

I also find this helps: Don't just THINK it... INK it!

 

Documenting your journey and charting your progress is a great motivator, especially during those tough times where you feel no energy. Just reading old posts of your own success is enough to get you through the day.

 

It's cliche but it's true. You get out what you put in. Word hard, work smart, and anything is possible. Believe it. Live it. EVERYDAY. That's how you build discipline and consistency. The start of a long journey begins with one footstep. Put one foot ahead of the other. EACH DAY. Before you know it, you will have gone a LONG way. Keep pushing forward! Also know we all have our bad days. Don't beat yourself up, don't throw a pity party. GET RIGHT BACK UP and focus on the things you can do today. The past is the past. Today anything is possible!

 

I really appreciate your response.

 

I used to exercise, and do other things, regardless of my feelings. I keep getting sick, though, and just before and ever since my back went out on me early last year, I get pains and twinges, like it's threatening to go out again. I know that part of the reason for my being such a misery guts, is my lack of exercise, and that I haven't been getting proper nutrition.

 

February of last year, I was taking Rhodiola. I took it on-and-off for a while. I was waking up depressed and anxious, but later on would be feeling better and more excited about things. I was looking forward to my year again... and then more **** happened, and it took it right out of me. I can't accept that a part of my life is now over, that those years are gone, and that I can't get a do-over (you feel like you have a chance, and then a door is closed - or slammed). I was going to start doing yoga with yogatoday, two years ago (around my birthday in A[ril), but my computer went on the fritz, and I kept having dizzy spells. I was going to do something else, but then I got slammed in another way. I exercised to one DVD last Spring (last year) that I love, and was feeling it for a week - I couldn't believe how out of shape I was/am.

 

Last night, I saw the thread bumped asking for reasons to get into shape. I was sitting here thinking, "Well, I wouldn't be sitting here bemoaning the fact that I've wasted a few years, and now feel yucky and ugly." I am trying to make small improvements, though: coconut oil in certain things; remembering to moisturize with it, too; switching in other drinks in place of my milky and sweet hot tea; using "moist" aussie products on my hair; cranberry chew every day; an Alive smoothie, when I remember, with colostrum added. Things like that. A classics book, rather than Dean Koontz (although I'm missing Stephen King - it's been a while). Reading in the garden, versus reading on the internet. Listening to relaxation/hypnosis cd's.

[josie54]

I've been feeling this way since just before my 35th birthday. I hate that - I remember feeling one-hundred years older at times, when I was in my twenties, but I have never felt anything like this for so long. I think it's because I was trying to make changes, and they weren't working out - like I was supposed to stay here - and then I got my heart broken and just have been feeling awful. I missed out on things when I was younger, was agoraphobic for years, and now... I want to stop feeling ancient.

 

I had a similar experience--I've felt ancient since I was was very young, and always worried about getting older (Age 18 was the end of childhood, and therefore "bad." Age 21 was the beginning of responsibilities, and therefore "bad." Age 30 was the worst. I dreaded every milestone birthday (even the ones that most kids look forward to, like 10, 13, and 16!). And for my whole life "40" meant "over." And then I turned 40--as you can guess, I didn't take it well. :-)

 

I spent so much time worrying, I didn't spend much time enjoying my youth, so I think a lot of this is regret. I've often thought I should start a new thread at some point on "how to accept growing older with grace--or even anticipation?" But I already suspect the kind of responses it would generate, so I never have.

 

Anyway, I'll stop taking over this particular thread. Perhaps one of these days I'll start one on aging well. A kind of support group for people like Anela and myself!

[Anela]

Okay, trying this again.. last night I bought the book Happier at Home (I know one thing that would help, but the other person won't cooperate - she has stated that she won't). When I read the Happiness Project, each time, my life went to **** afterwards, as I happily planned to have a great year, or a great Christmas and then following year. So, I hope I'm not tempting fate with this book.

 

I'm trying to think of little things. There are the obvious ones, like make the bed, do the laundry, tidy up, don't take things personally, etc, but I need to expand on that. I know that I do better when I feel better - at least in most cases. I need to find out what's wrong with my stomach, so that I can enjoy my food and drinks again, I need to stop buying books - at least from the store, and use Amazon again, spend less time online, spend more time on the treadmill (as long as my hip allows me), start saving money in a jar, prepare the garden for the winter and next year... paint again. draw, however poorly.

Edited September 18, 2012 by Anela

[dmmm]

I'm going to join a class, and this time attend the class.

[todreaminblue]

"Failing to plan means planning to fail. What are your goals?"

 

Every little thing, good or bad, counts. I am always setting goals for myself but have realized that it is every little goal that leads up to the big goals are the ones that count.

 

I found sharing my goals helps keep myself on track, doesn't matter how minuscular it may be. It allows feedback and support so why not share your small goals with others?

 

What small improvements do you want to make?

 

One of my goals right now is to eat out more alone.

I am not secure with myself enough to not feel judged or alone while sitting alone. It may seem like a small change but I think it can help my self esteem as a whole so I will be treating myself to sit down lunch this coming week.

 

Feel comfortable eating in front of people.

go sky diving

find a beach i love

tell someone i really care

avoid nothing

[SmileFace]

I want to get around to building my credit .

I have raised my score by more than a 100 points since this post. Small trides I tell you :-)

[Anela]

Small improvements:

 

* A little coconut oil applied after every shower, and regular moisturizer at times. Skin looks and feels better, but I'm still not used to the feeling... I don't always feel so clean due to that.

* coconut milk in the hair before washing = richer natural colour.

* Eaten oatmeal with that oil, flax, maple syrup, cinnamon, nutmeg and banana, almost every day this week. A better choice than the grilled cheese I had on Wednesday.

* I'm still awake during the day, although if I don't watch it, I'll be back on vampire hours soon.

* Wrote back to a few people.

* Finished some library books on time.

* Taking flower essences. Full-on hippy mode.

* Laundry in the basket, rather than on the floor.

 

There is so much that I need to do, that I don't even want to think about. People talking about the holidays, makes me want to run and hide - it feels too soon.