Lost the love of my life

[davyboy]

Lost the woman i spent almost 4 years with,and the pain and sadness,is something ive never experienced before

Can anyone please help,does this get easier.

[Patrice]

What happened? How long has it been since the breakup? And yes, it does get better, hang in there.

[davyboy]

I had a 13 year addiction to cannabis,and i managed to stop for 7 years,then i got bad news from the hospital,that i need to have a operation,plus i was dealing with so many problems in my relationship,my relationship felt like it involved 3 people(her mother).Whenever there was an argument her mum would everytime,get involved and take sides,she lost her dad not long after i got with her,and i was there for her though it all,she turned out so different when her dad passed away,the moods where terrible,but i loved her and i stuck by her,and i took alot of abuse from her during that period.With all the worry in my life,i lasped and started smoking cannabis again to take a little part of the worry away,she couldnt exept that,and decided to call it a day,and choose to walk away,and tell me shes moving away to start a new life,as its for the best,i told her that i need and love you,but she said the relationship was becoming unhealthy,and i would agree to a certain point it was,she was my first love,i even got her name tatooed on my arm to prove shes the one i want to spend my life with.Now i feel so empty and so alone,its so difficult to think of anything else but her.

[davyboy]

I had a 13 year addiction to cannabis,and i managed to stop for 7 years,then i got bad news from the hospital,that i need to have a operation,plus i was dealing with so many problems in my relationship,my relationship felt like it involved 3 people(her mother).Whenever there was an argument her mum would everytime,get involved and take sides,she lost her dad not long after i got with her,and i was there for her though it all,she turned out so different when her dad passed away,the moods where terrible,but i loved her and i stuck by her,and i took alot of abuse from her during that period.With all the worry in my life,i lasped and started smoking cannabis again to take a little part of the worry away,she couldnt exept that,and decided to call it a day,and choose to walk away,and tell me shes moving away to start a new life,as its for the best,i told her that i need and love you,but she said the relationship was becoming unhealthy,and i would agree to a certain point it was,she was my first love,i even got her name tatooed on my arm to prove shes the one i want to spend my life with.Now i feel so empty and so alone,its so difficult to think of anything else but her.

The breakup was earlier today.

[kkay]

I'm not going to lie - it becomes bearable. For me it hasn't gotten easier and my love for my ex hasn't waned however I have learned to live with myself, live in the present and be happy with what's in front of me. I can't offer much advice other than respect yourself.

[Philosoraptor]

It does get easier if you take the right steps. The steps are to mature within yourself and find your own path to healing. It's not fun and it's not easy. But for now you need to get involved in other things to keep busy. Drop the drug usage, you know it's not good for you.

 

One thing I can suggest that will not only keep you busy, but make you feel good as well, is volunteering. Find a cause and dive in head first.

 

Always have an escape for when emotions get too strong and when you get the urge to do something you shouldn't do. Play Angry Birds on your phone, carry a yo-yo everywhere and play with that for awhile. Just something to take your focus away until the really strong feelings pass.