jess_89 Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I met a guy last year..soon we became really close friends, we would be together 24/7...and i started liking him....while he liked someone else...since we were always together I got used to him and always expected him to be there for me if i needed him...in September i moved to a different city for further studies while he stayed back home...a week or two after i left...he started dating the other girl he liked..which really made me upset....but after just few days of dating they broke up...slowly we started fighting a lot cause i would catching him lying to me...or if i say something he doesn't like he would swear at me...hang up on me...but at the same time he did things that made me feel good such as visiting me on my birthday....making sure i am safe when im walking home alone...but now i feel like his anger has gotten worse....he would yell at me front of his friends, call me names..tell me shut up if i cry...and every time i decide to stop talking to him....i juss give in, hoping that he will change and remember the great times we used to share...all my friends tell me to stop talking to him...but its so hard cause i have really gotten attached to him....I really dont know how to let go of him....mainly because every time we fight he hangs up on me and next day he would msg me saying good morning as if nothing happened...and if i say im still upset at what you said to me... he would tell me to get over it and move on.. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/letting-go-of-a-relationshipthat-doesnt-exist/ Read this. it should help put things in perspective and also help you get over him. Link to post Share on other sites
birds Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) no, no, no... this dude is ABUSIVE. stop talking to him, and get some counseling. if you don't find the strength to do this now, you could end up going from abusive guy to abusive guy for years, or for your whole life. tons of people do it. what would you tell a friend to do if she were trying to win the affection of some douchebag who yelled at her all the time, humiliated her in public, told her to shut up when she cried, and ignored her when she tried to tell him he had hurt her? hmm? what would you tell your friend? to hold onto the hope that he would change? what? because he's concerned for her safety when she walks home? NO! you would tell her to get over him and look for a nice person. and not just a nice person to date, but nice people to be friends with. you have nice friends, right? stick with them. you will find a nice person to date eventually. don't waste your emotions on some jerk. life is short. you should allow yourself to feel good and be happy during the short time you are here. Edited February 17, 2012 by birds Link to post Share on other sites
djmm Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 He isnt respecting you so if he can't show you respect and appreciation, you have to make the tough choice and back off. Sure, he has done nice things because he doesnt want to lose you but yet he yells at you in front of friends and hangs up on you. that is disrespectful. you shouldn't want to deal with that in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
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