xImpyx Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I have been back together with my boyfriend of six years, fortwo and a half months after he left me for 3 months for a girl he had been cheating on me with for four months behind my back. I was completely devasted and he didn't even leave in a kind considerate way, the pair of them rubbed it in, teling me via facebook about their love for each other and how they had moved in together. I have been to hell and back with this guy over the years, been his rock in his worst situations and you name it Iv done it for him.( Complete doormat basically) Because i loved him so much despite everything. Anyway since he came back to me just over two months ago he has showed not the slightest interest in sex with me. We have only had sex 3 times in the time he has been back. In the six years Iv been with him he has never had a very high sex drive ( apart from in the begining) but now he has ZERO. He used to addicted to drugs but has been clean for the best part of a year now. He is on 100ml methadone and Metazapine and I wondered if this could be having such a drastic effect on his sex drive? He has allways been on methadone since i met him but never on Metazapine untill we split up. I am attractive and willing to do anything to get our sex life back so why is he like this?? though I have put on weight since we split up but im hardly obese! could the weight gain be a factor?? I have told him repeatedly how devastated and unhappy I am about the sex life and on top of it all, Im terrified he will cheat again or leave! I cry constantly about everything and his excuse is this -" Im just too lazy" or "Im stuck in a rut" thats all I get, please help x:( Link to post Share on other sites
JazzyFox Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 Love yourself, and drop the loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 My goodness. In which ways did he mature before you took him back? Don't be terrified he will cheat or leave. He treated you, and you allowed yourself, to be treated like a doormat. He not only took advantage of your good nature but he cheated on you as well? The real question here is what are you getting out of this relationship? Don't allow yourself to over romantisize him now, actually look at what benefits you are getting out of this. He seems very selfish and unmotivated and knows you will accept what little he offers. I was with a very selfish person before... it sucks. When the relationship ended and I got past that bit of fear of moving on, my life was wonderful again. I count my blessings every day that I am away from that dynamic. If you want advice about the sex life. The medication might be affecting him. He could already be cheating and lying to you (sure seems like he's had no issue walking on you before). Or he might find your lack of self respect not appealing. As a person's confidence has a strong input on attraction. But really the advice I offer is to look at the relationship, look at what you are getting out of it, and determine whether or not you deserve better. If you do, then leave and don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 Wow.. I would leave them to it. Just consider it as a form of temporary insanity.. the whole taking him back when he was clearly a cheater thing. Unless you want to compete with this girl over him? Careful of that. I say get your hair done and move on, sounds like the relationship ended awhile back and he could not be honest about it. At least you don't have children with him. Let him go. .. This is not a person to be broken hearted over. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
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