woots31 Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I have had some trouble finding middle ground. For instance my job requires that I be outgoing, but then in my personal life I introvert. I also have a very difficult time dealing with my emotions. I almost need to be reminded sometimes that I need to think before I react. I feel as if I am a burden on most people I care about. I can't even seem to find a complete thought with out jumping to the next one. I feel like I am all over the place and I cant stop from spinning. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Out of all this, what makes you happy? All we can do is to be true to ourselves. If following one path brings true happiness than that is the path to follow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author woots31 Posted February 14, 2012 Author Share Posted February 14, 2012 What makes me happy? To feel loved, and see smiles on my children's faces. Knowing that I am trying my best to accomplish everything I do. I guess what makes me the most happy is making others smile or laugh. To know I could have been the one person that changed their day around and make it just a bit better. And then I always second guess myself, I think how could I have been funnier, or a better mom, girlfriend or daughter. Then its just me pulling myself down, but I don't realize it until I have spun myself out of control and screwed things up. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 It seems like your self esteem is more the problem than anything. Don't second guess yourself, it will get you nowhere. You can never turn back the clock so all you can do is take what you learned and apply it to the future. But I was more asking are you happier more outgoing or more introverted? Whichever it is in whichever situation, follow it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author woots31 Posted February 15, 2012 Author Share Posted February 15, 2012 I feel like I am going to over think this again. I prefer being outgoing and knowing I can accomplish things by myself, but it becomes very tiring and I think I look for easy fixes, or at least ways that seem to keep people happy. I feel if they can remain happy it will help me to remain happy. Which I realize is basing my happiness on some one else's. Now I am spinning again. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I'd suggest therapy. I was a pleaser in a past life and it left me so worried about other people that I neglected to take care of myself. In the end I was so lost that I didn't know who I was or what I wanted out of life. You don't have to be one thing all of the time and you don't have to stick to a decision forever, but you need to know how to read yourself and act based on your best interests. Link to post Share on other sites
Author woots31 Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 I have done therapy on and off for my whole life. I am not going to say it does not help or it does not work, but I am going to say I have not found any one to help me going that route. I almost made an excuse for therapy not working for me in the past and then I came to the realization, I don't need an excuse. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 No need for over-thinking. You wish to avoid over-thinking because deep down you know what you need. Deep down we all know what we need, it is just not always conscious. That is why you come here and that is why I'm answering your post. You seek simple solutions, balance. You wish to have perspective in your life and to be able to see the big picture and approach from there. Buy a journal. Write how you truly feel and then approach the world. Nobody needs to know about it. You don't need to come on here and tell us about your progress. Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I can't even seem to find a complete thought with out jumping to the next one. I feel like I am all over the place and I cant stop from spinning. Have you been diagnosed with ADHD? Link to post Share on other sites
Author woots31 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Share Posted February 24, 2012 Have you been diagnosed with ADHD? Haha no ADHD I thought of that, I thought maybe I am bipolar, I have gone to therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, and mainly I am my own problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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