Does she exist?

[xisnotx]

I'd be willing to work my butt off to give the world to a girl. There's very little I wouldn't do, really. But, in the meantime, I tend to have problems finding motivation. If it wasn't for the girl, I'd honestly just be a lazy burnout. But, you know, I want to be more than that for whoever I end up with, so I have these pesky things other people refer to as "goals" and such. Still, keeping the day to day motivation in the hope that one day I'll meet her and it will all be alright gets tiresome at times.

 

Anyway, assuming my girl/motivation problems are solvable in the first place, there are a few qualities I'd like a potential life partner of mine to possess. None of this is make or break (I don't think it works like that), but it would be even more awesome if she had these traits. Perhaps I'm talking more about the type of cherry that's on the cake, rather than the cake itself. But at the end of the day, the cake is all that matters...really.

 

So, what type of cherry would I want? (There is an awesome joke here, but I'll refrain myself...)

 

-Interested in intellectual games...like poker, chess, cards...etc. Anything that requires thinking about strategy and stuff...I'd love to be able to match strategies against a worthy opponent.

-Someone who is extremely competitive with regards to the above. Someone who needs to win just as much (if not more) than I do.

-Someone who is just as social as I am, if not more so...someone who can draw me out of the shell I sometimes find myself in.

-Financially capable.

-Someone who can carry on a conversation for hours.

-Someone who doesn't mind indulging in "mind altering substances" occasionally (strictly soft), but someone who doesn't let that define them in any way. Someone who'll call me out when I'm crossing those lines (I tend to cross those lines occasionally, but I'm young, so I'm guessing it's to be expected). Still, overall, I think it's a bad idea, and I'd hope she'd be just as stern about it.

 

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**a long shot, but I'll throw it in there**

-Someone who loves all types of sports video games, is competitive in them(both emotionally and strategically), and loves to stick it to the loser.

 

Such a person would be a god send, really. I think I'd have to marry her...I wouldn't have a choice in the matter. I'd be stupid not to.

 

--if she was physically attractive, too, she'd probably be so awesome that I'd consider her out of my league, and wouldn't even try lol...(just thought I'd put that in here, I am a guy, after all).

 

So, does she exist? Can she exist? Do I actively look for her? Or will she come to me? Where would I look if I were to look? And, if I actually did find someone like that...how do I go about, you know, giving her the world and all?

Edited February 13, 2012 by xisnotx

[ScreamingTrees]

I'm sure that she exists somewhere. I'd say I generally would be looking for a lot of the same. I consider myself attractive and have been given obvious signs from the opposite sex - some were unattractive to me, and some made me feel like I was one bad ass mother.. Of course, it means nothing to me if I don't know how they are on the inside.. And I've had few chances, but those few chances were successful for what they'd become.

 

No matter WHAT you should always strive toward perfection. Know that perfection is impossible, but if you live your life with the mindset of a perfectionist, trust me, you'll find yourself doing much better than the majority of dudes who're probably even less motivated than you claim/feel you are..

 

You'll have a major one up on 'em and you'll likely have more confidence to go after a jewel with both "beauty" (rather subjective) AND brains..

 

Focus on exercising, make little strength goals and strive toward achieving them. Learn how to paint or play an instrument. Pick up a book every once in awhile.. These are all things you could do (and SHOULD WANT to do, naturally) to educate yourself, get yourself in shape and feeling good, and express yourself.

 

BUT... if the desire isn't there, it'll never happen. I'd say you have the desire, so don't worry about girls, just focus on yourself primarily. THAT is who you should be worried about. Not other people.

 

I'd like to add that leagues are imaginary. Unless there's a major age/mindset/maturity difference, you're likely to be good unless you're looking for all of the qualities that you yourself couldn't bring to the table. As in, a balding brute with a beer belly trying to hit on some physically fit beaut.