Author That Z Guy Posted February 28, 2012 Author Share Posted February 28, 2012 so lately me and my ex have been hanging out with a mutual friend and sometimes alone and we slept together once this last week..Most of the time things go ok but lately we have been fighting and its because of the same crap..We either hang out and she asks about my personal life and feelings and I tell her because im a pretty open guy and when I ask her she cold shoulders me or says none of my business..She also gets mad when I ask about "little bro" and she flips out and says its none of my business about her feelings for him etc..She also said she when we mess around or hang out she tells him..I got pissed cause she always lies or avoids questions pertaining to him when I ask but he gets open honesty? She said hes easier to talk to and doesn't flip out like me.. ( even though as you read by my prior story hes angry and jealous).. I told her I dont do that anymore and shes holding the past over my head and not trying to approach me differently..Basically she says I ruin every hangout by bringing him up or wanting to talk about serious things..What should I do? Should I try to not bring it up and be the nice guy and she of she changes and opens up to me? Or try my best to say screw her and go NC? She said she sees "little bro" as a friend and shes not sure about me but shes know I make her mad and im not even a friend etc... Link to post Share on other sites
SongOfAWoman Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 There are some women with a nasty little secret. They cannot be alone, ever. The first numbers that are dialed, usually after alcohol, are the exes. They want you to fix the hurt of a different relationship, and figure you are safe, and easy. If you loved them once, you will come back for more abuse. She IS selfish and also seems to need to feel wanted, by as many men as she make want her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author That Z Guy Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 ya I dont think she ever really has been alone..I mean she thinks cause shes "single" now shes alone and different but shes still messing around with guys so it doesnt really count..Its annoying..I wish I could just not care about her but sadly if that were the case I wouldn't be on here nearly a year after our initial break up.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author That Z Guy Posted June 2, 2012 Author Share Posted June 2, 2012 So it has been awhile since I have updated this..I would like to say im here because im 100% over here but sadly im not. I have messed around with different women and though I madea few good friends out of a few of them that did not help. She eventually made it seem like she lost interest in "lil bro" but I never 100% believed her because they still talk and hang out and he has yet to leave for college..Me and her would talk often or go NC for weeks or sometimes months..Its odd but its like a mental defect in terms of going NC when I know she wants to go NC..I get mad and upset and try to talk to her..But when I go NC and shes texting me its a tad bit easier to ignore them..I hate that..One of the last serious conversations she had about us was that she is not ready for a relationship and for her standards neither am I and she wants to work on her self etc..I understood where she was coming from but it was a bitter pill to swallow. After that she said she wants to be friends but knows we cant so she wants to get over me 100%..I want to be her friend but at the same time I think I rather just be her bf again and have it be better..We kept hanging out and sometimes would mess around which I initiated mostly..But she kept being extremely private..I would ask about friends or lil bro or new guys and she would be vague or not say anything and say " I dont trust you and you arent my friend" kinda crap..If she ever asked me about a girl or my life im always very open..As of right now were NC again and for who knows how long this time..I just want things to be cool with us and open and be friendly.. But at the same time despite all this crap over the years I still want her back..So what now? Do I "Man up" and really ignore her for as long as possible and try to forget she ever existed? I guess friends or lovers either way we haven't fully forgiven and forgot all the issues from the past..Little by little we seem like better people but slip and act are old ways or prove were not "good enough" for each other yet ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted June 3, 2012 Share Posted June 3, 2012 i think you already knew what to do..NC is the way to go,look back on your previous progress and check any major improvements between then and now.should give you hints on what to do TD Link to post Share on other sites
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