kiababy Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 That's right - I hate him today. I was still mulling over yesterday's conversation with him which started out badly, for me anyway - where he called to tell me that he 'cheated' on me and had a one night stand. Yes, the proverbial shoe is now on my damn foot! He said he felt guilty about cheating on me but not his wife, and because we have a 'no secrets' policy between us, he had to tell me. After he established that no, I wasn't exactly jealous but yes, I did care, we went into the lovey-dovey talk and it was all better. But the more I thought about it, the more it bothered me. Then, this afternoon he left me the WORST MESSAGE EVER!!! I just finished telling him last night that I was going to stop seeing, or at least put on hold - the men I had been having 'flings' with, the guys who fill in when he's not around. I told him that I don't feel they 'respect' me (hey, give me some credit for realizing the situation I'm in and give me a break, o.k.?) ....his message on my cell said the following: "I'm on my way to another job....I need my d**k s****d, I want to meet you after work today." I did not and will not reply to this message. I'm hurt, insulted and just damn mad. I plan to ignore all of his calls for the next week anyway, until I feel better - or maybe this is it...the last straw....then end of the line for him and me. Ignoring his calls makes him call back, and call and call and call.... Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 What an as%. When I read that he had a one night stand with someone else, it made me even more disgusted in him - and I didn't think that was possible. The next time he calls, tell him to go suck himself or to get his wife too. My god that is so disrespectful it is like he is treating you like his personal whore. Kiababy, please don't take this the wrong way, but - even though it hurts, I hope he goes on pissing you off and treating you badly. Not because you deserve it (noone does), but because it seems to be the only thing that makes you see the light. You deserve so much more. Please believe in yourself enough to demand more. Trust me, good sex can come from a good guy!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kiababy Posted June 4, 2004 Author Share Posted June 4, 2004 Thanks for your words of encouragement. I left my cell phone in my car last night just so I wouldn't be tempted to answer it. He only left the one message. I don't know what's wrong with him. He's always testing me to see how far he can go and still have me care about him, then he's exceptionally happy when I don't reject him. So far this is the first time I've been really mad at him in 10 months. When I told him I wasn't jealous but that I do care - he pushed me till he got the answer he wanted - I told him he didn't belong to me anyway, and he insisted that he did belong to me, more than I know....whatever that means. The good thing is that I'm still really really mad and don't want to talk to him. I hope this lasts, I need to get on with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
4getful Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 you should find a single man who will be totally honest with you and will really love you and respect you. Dont you want to be the ONLY WOMAN in your man's life?A guy who sounds like that is only using you to let out his sexual frustrations, maybe his wife cant give or wont give it to him anymore coz he's such an a**h***. A woman should be treated like a queen, to serve and love with unquestionable loyalty. There are a lot of straight men out there, so dont waste your time worrying about him calling you, erase his number and anything associated to him, and find the right one for you. But dont insist on being angry, it will only go away if you see him in a pitiful state. Rather, try to start loving yourself, and always remember that you hold the key to your own happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kiababy Posted June 4, 2004 Author Share Posted June 4, 2004 I'm trying really hard to get over my addiction to bad boys, I just can't get interested in a 'nice guy'. I've dated very few nice guys and when I do it's always the same: I dominate them, I'm bossy, impatient and the more they fawn over me, the more repulsed I become. Then along comes a bad boy - and I TRIP OVER MYSELF trying to please them! In the case of this guy, I've become totally submissive to him. I didn't realize it until recently. Even when we're just sitting on the couch relaxing, I put his feet up on my chest and rub them. I'm so done with him...I hope. Link to post Share on other sites
darrylsucks Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 DOES ANYONE ELSE THINK THIS IS TRUE? Men and Sex and Love Men don't confuse sex with love. Women do. Men don't understand that most women consider sex to be a part and parcel of love, even if they have just recently met a man. While most men feel no obligation of commitment after a few rounds of sex with a new girlfriend, she is probably thinking of names for their future children. She believed him when he said "I love you." I'm not sure there will ever come a time when men and women will think about sex and love the same way at the same time although it certainly would make for less complications if it ever could happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kiababy Posted June 5, 2004 Author Share Posted June 5, 2004 I believe it. I realize that when I'm with my MM I feel LOVED. I crave that feeling, so I have as much sex with him as I can He also told me that the fact that his wife doesn't enjoy sex does not make him love her any less. Something for OW to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
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