heartsinker Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I used to play in rock bands. I'm married now with a child. I cut way back but was playing here and there for extra pay on the weekends sporadically in more Top 40 type bands until I hurt my knee at work in December and had to stop playing altogether. Just as well, I'm a Dad now and need to work, those things are more important. i'm 39 now. BUT, I can't seem to ever try and quit or take a breather. I'm always thinking about music and what my next project could be or what band I could join next or what cool musicians I could meet around town to jam with and start something cool up, or the more silly What if at 39 I still could join up with some older famous musicians? At times I wish I could chill out and flat out quit, mainly because I obsess over it so much and always have. Sometimes I wish i could just relax and do something else artistic. I'm battered (and not well enough to even play again yet), I'm a Dad now, I'm a husband, I tired of my Job and want to find something else -- There are MORE important things i could be focusing on or different outlets i could seek to express myself. But i always just go back to music. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 It is my opinion that the most important thing is having the capacity to dream. That is a gift in itself. You have a passion. Do you think there is a way you could allow this passion to manifest itself into your current life situation, in a balanced way? A few examples, that I cannot speak from experience on, because I'm not a Father: If you have a wood-shop, perhaps build an instrument.Learn Children's/Holiday music and entertain the family.Buy a journal and park by the lake, write songs/poetry.Become a teacher.Rock out, get a record deal and take the family to Europe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartsinker Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) oh i'm a dreamer alright, always been a problem for me, ha. Sometimes its been a hard for me to concentrate... Reason it's been a prob is because I have another passion, Photography. I've always been into it since i was younger. I even enrolled in classes after high school and played around with it and did some decent stuff that got some praise. But I never stuck with it because music took over my life. I always felt more confident in music than photo. In the last 2 years i've kinda sorta been back into photo but with music/playing well, I can't do both, I'm too busy...i'm a Dad, I work, I'm a husband... I wish I could just make the switch to photo but I can't let go of music. If i hear a song i like, I wish I was playing again...I dream, i get inspired, i have to play. I know I don't have to quit for good, But damn, it's so hard for me to not be playing right now. But at the same time I want to nourish that other craft and just take a breather from music. i'm weird. Edited February 17, 2012 by heartsinker Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Have you discussed with your wife how both of you can find a balance between your family and work commitments, and pursuing your hobbies and interests? I have friends who are in their late thirties and fourties, and who have two or three children and still find time to play with their bands and perform professionally. However, it takes proper planning on the home front. Link to post Share on other sites
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