analystfromhell Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I've had a few other posts and comments here going through the trials and tribulations of the relationship between my wife and I. As in all situations, "it's complicated". After her EA we went to marriage counseling until the counselor sort of quit. The good news is I persisted with insisting we find another one and we had our first session with the new one last evening... This first session, which I had half expected would be spent doing admin/background work was in fact more productive than three months with the last counselor. Yes- it's just one session but I'm far more hopeful than I was back in December. I guess I came here to say if you've been in counseling a while and it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere don't be afraid to switch. I'll follow up but at first dip it seems like we should have done this a while ago. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Agree completely. I would add that no matter what the reputation of a particular counselor, your experience could be quite different than someone else’s. Much of it isdependent on you and your spouse’s attitude, willingness to be open & honest and dedication to making it work. Link to post Share on other sites
Gottman Institute Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I agree. Also, I think there are a lot of misconceptions about therapy in general. Take the time to do your homework and don't feel tied to a particular therapist. The goal should be for improvement. Getting to a place where that happens can take time. Link to post Share on other sites
andwilson90 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I've had a few other posts and comments here going through the trials and tribulations of the relationship between my wife and I. As in all situations, "it's complicated". After her EA we went to marriage counseling until the counselor sort of quit. The good news is I persisted with insisting we find another one and we had our first session with the new one last evening... This first session, which I had half expected would be spent doing admin/background work was in fact more productive than three months with the last counselor. Yes- it's just one session but I'm far more hopeful than I was back in December. I guess I came here to say if you've been in counseling a while and it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere don't be afraid to switch. I'll follow up but at first dip it seems like we should have done this a while ago. I completely appreciate you, you should clear all your misunderstandings by making a serious conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Fully agree. I don't have MC experience but have had IC at various points in time. A good therapist can be extremely powerful. Link to post Share on other sites
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