tenbee Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) I've been exclusively dating a guy for about 6 months. I'm pretty into him and enjoy the time we spend with each other. He recently decided to go to his ex-"friend"'s millitary pinning ceremony which is about 5 hours away... They were never an exclusive couple... just saw each other for a couple of months. This was 2 years ago. He told me they decided to stop seeing each other because the relationship was moving too quickly for her and there was/is a 5 year age difference. (22/27). The thing is my impression is that he still clearly has fairly significant feelings for her. And given she invited him to the ceremony suggests she feels the same. Question - should I be concerned? Obviously there isn't anything I can do, but this is truly the first time I've ever had even a hint of jealously in a relationship. I think I feel like this because I just love this guy. Oh yeah - he and I are in our late twenties if that's useful info. Edited February 16, 2012 by tenbee Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Can you go with him to the ceremony? If they are just friends, there should be no reason you can't come along with him and meet her. Most people are happy to introduce their friends to their gf/bf. If he pushes back on your suggestion to go with him, then you might have a reason for concern. What reason would he have for not wanting you to go unless it's that he wants to flirt with her, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tenbee Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 Can you go with him to the ceremony? If they are just friends, there should be no reason you can't come along with him and meet her. Most people are happy to introduce their friends to their gf/bf. If he pushes back on your suggestion to go with him, then you might have a reason for concern. What reason would he have for not wanting you to go unless it's that he wants to flirt with her, right? The ceremony has happened today. When he told me about it he did initially invite me, but I declined because of work. I agree that if someone is into you they will start introducing you to their friends. This is definitely going on... I'm always invited to travel with him to visit his friend's or hang out with them when they're here. I think this situation just made me a little nervous, so I needed to ask for opinions because my vision is blurry with emotion. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Oh, I'm so glad he invited you! That's a great sign - no reasons to worry, I think. Link to post Share on other sites
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