Cleatus Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Just trying to figure out if she really does love me or not. Been married 9 yrs and I constantly have to ask her for attention or a kiss. She never says she loves me, doesn't do the things that my friends wife's do. The only time she wants me for anything is when she needs someone to fix things around the house or watch the kids so she can do things. I bought her diamond ear rings for valentines day, cost me 2,000 bucks. I'd been saving for a new bike but users it on her, and all she said was...... Thanks. No sex, no affection, it's like I'm only wanted for as a roomate. When do I give up on her. The problem is I do love her, but I never get anything in return. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Has she always been like this? Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Why are you still with her? There is nothing there for you. She isn't even giving you mixed signals. She doesn't love you. It is so obvious. There is nothing to figure out. I don't think she could make it any clearer. Time to move on. Also, try to get a refund on the ear rings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cleatus Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 Yea she has never been overly affectionate, but it has gotten worst over the last 2 yrs. ive aske her, if you don't love me then freaking tell me. All I get in reply is your mean, I don't get it. It's like she doesn't want to be the bad guy, so she want tell me how she feels Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cleatus Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 Haha.. I know I should get my money back on them ear rings. She's never bought me anything that exsepenive. Oh and she recently started making more money than me, but I still pay for everthing. She want help with the bills unless I throw a fit about it Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Back off for a while and maybe move out to see what happens. Also, try this Separation and Divorce section. There are people with a lot more experience there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cleatus Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 I did move out for a while and came back probably to soon. She punched me in the mouth one night while we were out, cause I told her u wasn't happy about the way she treats me. So I left her ass , for a month. Came back cause of the kids and we went to counseling. That lasted two weeks then back to the same ole crap. I mean I'm starting to think all marriages are this way. Idk. I mean if I was a woman I'd want my man to know I love him, but she doesn't act that way. Guess I just hoping something wil open her eyes up. But deep down I know it ain't ginna happen. Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Repost this in a bit more detail in the other section. You'll find the advice more tailored to marriage etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cleatus Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 My bad, first time I've ever posted a tread in my life Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Just trying to figure out if she really does love me or not. Been married 9 yrs and I constantly have to ask her for attention or a kiss. She never says she loves me, doesn't do the things that my friends wife's do. The only time she wants me for anything is when she needs someone to fix things around the house or watch the kids so she can do things. I bought her diamond ear rings for valentines day, cost me 2,000 bucks. I'd been saving for a new bike but users it on her, and all she said was...... Thanks. No sex, no affection, it's like I'm only wanted for as a roomate. When do I give up on her. The problem is I do love her, but I never get anything in return. I dated someone like this. I felt so alone and emotionally frustrated. He kissed me on the forehead...almost no physical affection whatsoever...but he was such a good, good, good man! I ended the relationship with him and we became friends. He is my best friend ever. Link to post Share on other sites
g450 Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Reading your posting gave me a chill down my back. XW was EXACTLY like that towards me for years. So I have to agree with Frank. Your marriage is over just like mine was. I was just too dumb to see it at the tiem. My now XW treated me exactly like your W is treating you. And I didnt know it at the time but she was planning on divorcing me years ago. She just didnt have enough courage to do it until our Son moved out. And she was already conversing with an old HS boyfriend, if not more behind my back. I hate to say it but she no longer loves you. Time to get ready for some nasty news. And start looking for signs of another lover as well because 99 percent of the time there usually is one lurking in the background. Link to post Share on other sites
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