Juicehead Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 Hi all, first time poster here looking for advice. I was with a girl for only a month. After our second date, I basically stayed at her house every night for a few weeks and we hung out almost everyday evening even when I didn't stay overnight... for that month. We even went as far as meeting each others parents within that month. I guess we clicked really well together. The last week, we were at each other's throats so I said maybe we need to chill a bit. After that, she did not call for a couple days so I called her and we had "the talk" and she told me that she just wasn't feeling the spark anymore. I know for sure there is not another guy in the mix. I know we did jump in a bit to fast but when I asked her what she really wanted, she said she didn't know, she conld not say yes or no. She just didn't think it was gonna work but I think she got scared. I am not the type to get upset over a situation like this especially since it was only a month but this is killing me! I feel almost as worse than when a former ex and I broke up after 2 years. It has only been 3 days since the talk with no contact after that...and I would give anything to give it another chance... anyone have any ideas on how to get her back Link to post Share on other sites
lost girlie Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 i would love to help you...but have a few questions: were either of you angry when you had this talk? what exactly was the talk about, if you don't mind me asking? was there more to the relationship than just sex...and be honest? if she feels the same way that you do and there is definitely more to the relationship than a physical attraction, i would agree that maybe she is scared. i also think that would depend significantly on her history of relationships. i really hope that the 2 of you may be able to work things out and i feel that the most important beginning to that is to show her some gesture that will display your love for her, although i would not suggest something too expensive or too outrageous. (you don't want to scare her away! ) Then talk to her, tell her how you feel and don't let the conversation end until you feel that you know how she feels and her reason for pulling away. Most girls really want to talk...they are just unsure if someone will actually listen... Keep us informed on how things work out and good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Juicehead Posted June 4, 2004 Author Share Posted June 4, 2004 were either of you angry when you had this talk? no, not at all what exactly was the talk about, if you don't mind me asking? When I did call her and talk to her, I asked her so...is this going to work or what? She said she was not sure but didn't think so. We basically went back and fourth with me making my point and her sounding really confused. She is definately a girl who arely talks about her feelings though. I do not think it is anything that I could have done to be honest. It was just like all the sudden, things changed. When I was telling her bye, I said, well, I guess I will talk to ya later or...not talk to ya later if you know what I mean....and she said...we will talk again... was there more to the relationship than just sex...and be honest? Yes, there was definately more than sex to what we had. Link to post Share on other sites
lost girlie Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 The only thing that I can think of is that she really is just scared. Maybe, and if she is like me at all this is true, she has just never felt as strongly as she does about you and the speed of the realationship frightened her. She also could possibly be thinking that what you both had was too good to be true and figured that she would get out before getting hurt. Either way, and there are numerous other explanations, you know her best and should still attempt to confront her and ask her. Hope that things work out!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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