SGB8098 Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 Hey all I am a new member and can't believe i am doing this. I am in my mid twenties . I work go to school in fact I have a couple of jobs. Okay my curiousity is here: A couple of months ago I stating chatting withs omeone online.Ii work so much , go to school that online is kinda the only way to meeet guys around my age. Me and the new guy chat about usual chatting nothing freaky or too serious just casual converstaion. Anyways , to be honest i was skeptical about actual meeting him in person that I always appeared to be too bucy and honestly chickened out. Until a couple of weeks ago , I finally decided to casually meet him. So far the picture of him was actually him, he is a southerngentleman (which I have never encountered in my past at all) and it was nice we both casually chatted about the usual work, family weekend stuff. He told me to call him , so i waited a day to do so, I didn't want to be too eager to do it. He still seemed nice. You gotta understand I have been through some of the liars, cheater , 2 proposals, break up on my b-days, holidays, and stood up . And thats why i make my self so busy ; so I don't have to think about getting involved or hurt again. So the next week i was like lets hang out on call me later. I just said hang out cause I don't wanna say date; again we are just getting to know eachother and I like to feel comfortable I'm sorry I'm a bit old fashion in some ways. Anyways he did call me back and he said "lets play it by ear" he said he had to work late , Then I eneded up being busy too so neither of us had time. Anyways he has called or im every day , but hasnt asked me to go out or something like that again. yet we chat . I just want to play it cool but am not knowing which way to go be friends or he's a little interested. He knows my b-day is coming up . I was impressed he remembered that . I just am friends with everyone one in the world and am wanting to meet new people and see where it goes from there. So I don't know what to think; know what I mean, or am i just thinking too much about this? Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 Ummm. I'd say you are thinking too much about this. You say you don't want a date yet are wondering why he hasn't asked you out on a date. Sounds a bit conflicting and he may be picking up on your conflicting messages and not knowing what you truly want. If you say just hang out as friends then that is all you should expect. Expecting more from him than you would from one of your girlfriends is showing you are interested in something more from him. This can be quite confusing! Figure out what you truly want. Don't give him mixed messages. It will just make things harder for you and him in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SGB8098 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Share Posted June 4, 2004 But thats just it I don't want to come on too strong. I mean yeah i enjoy his company we both lauhed he calls me sweetie when he chats on the im (guy friends of mine usualy call me sweetie, ) i am a southern gal lol. I do wanna hang out but i don't want to be too eager. I mean i did turn him down a couple times before meeting him. Perhaps he is doing the same to me? Cause like my good guy friends always tell me how eager that their gf seem to them so I take that as take thing casual slow, i just don't wanna overstep that ground, I mean I'm still getting to meet him. I am thinking let him make then next suggestion of whether or not he wants to ask me out, but he asked me out to meet him so does that inturn make it my turn to ask him out; and i have but he took a rain check so Then do i wait for him to ask or do i ask him out again? Lol this stuff is so hectic lol Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted June 4, 2004 Share Posted June 4, 2004 Sit back and relax, dating is not this big of a deal. Let him pursue, fill up your life with things YOU want to do so you aren't sitting around wondering what to do about him. If he is someone for you, things will fall in place. If something cool is going on in your area and you'd think he would enjoy it, no problem just invite him. But stop keeping score as to who asks who out, you know? Chill and enjoy. It will be ooooookay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SGB8098 Posted June 4, 2004 Author Share Posted June 4, 2004 I know, I am so busy a have a full time job, go to school, and part time jobs that I am so busy so I don't that I don't want to miss out on the fun thigs in life that i already have from having the wrong bf s of the past . My mom says that I may want to start meeting guys since i seem to be so busy in my life. So i am trying to listen and take advice from others. Thank you Have an enjoyable weekend Link to post Share on other sites
Author SGB8098 Posted June 8, 2004 Author Share Posted June 8, 2004 tis guy cancelled again on me , and then i was like okay i'm done since this was about the 2 or 3rd time he's done the rain check or cancelled last minute. But whenever he's online he has intiated the converstaion, but i appear to make myself busy and whew look somene is here to pick me up lol. He says he wants to hang out this week buit won't go into like when and do what. See I aslo invited to a b-day dinner of mine yet, he hasn't responded and he knows my b-day.I feel he is just like hang on, but no offense if he just doesn't want to see me or get to know me why doesn't he just quit cause his type of pursuing is not impressing me. lol advice please.!!! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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