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Hello all,

 

My story is strange, and I am hoping some of the viewers here can help me read into this. On Sunday I had nothing else to do, so I decided to make some calls to the local tattoo parlors to get one one of my tattoos re-done. After calling a whole bunch of places, I finally got someone on the phone. I asked her if they had time to re-do one for me. She said they had no appointments that evening, and I should come on down. I got in my car, drove all the way across Long Island to this little place. Walked into the shop, and there's only one person there. It was the girl I spoke to on the phone. I asked her if I spoke to her when I called, and she said it was her, and to take a seat, SHE'D be right with me. This girl looked 15 years old MAX, and SHE was going to INK ME. I'll skip the rest of the non-important crap. After spending 4 hours in her chair, I find out a lot about her life, and find out shes 28, 4 years older then I am. Now, I know what you all are thinking, this girl must be one of those punk girls, with tattoos all over her body. Actually not. She has one on her upper arm (totally covered by sleeves) and 2 others. This girl, to me, is actually drop dead beautiful, smart, she has a phsych degree, home owner, business owner, etc (she's not the tattoo shop's owner) We have a lot in common, to the same music tastes, almost the same b-day, same interests, etc Nevertheless, we're flirting up a storm, and having a good time, shes joking around with me, I am doing the same with her, shes very gentle as well (as gentle as you can be with a 11 needle gun in your hand) We finish up, she takes her pay (350.00 for the work, and I gave her a 150.00 tip, because she's really good at what she does), and I give her a nice tip. She closes the shop, we walk out together, go home, and thats the end of it.

 

 

Since I've had some bad luck with tattoos, on Sunday I asked her if she wanted to re-do another one of my tattoos, and she was like hell yeah. I came back the next day and she sketched out my arm (I also conceal my tat's because I never know what's going to happen to me in 10 years, I may be out of business and be looking for work) She told me she would draw up the art and call me the next morning to see when I had time to come in for the work. I kid you not, the next day, she called me 21x before she got me on the phone to tell me she finished the work, and I could come down to get the work done. I told her I'd be there at 6:30 and she said, "great, I get to spend all night with you again" not sarcastic, very sweetly. I thought if I left my office it would take me an hour and a half to get there, so I took off at 5:00pm, well I got there at 5:30. Get down there, and all of the tattoo dudes are there, garbed up in their tattoo glam, being total "grungy dudes" joking on her. So I sit there, shes getting ready to do her work, and the dudes that were there take off for the night. So, 6:00pm, she begins to work, and the entire time, she's hitting me jokingly, getting really close when she doesn't have to be, and the kicker Insted of me using the armrest, I now get to use her lap. Strange. Each time I accidentally (and it was accidental) moved my arm and it touched her "spot" (what is the non-medical, pollitcally correct term for it now-a-days) EACH TIME I apologzied, same happened with her top. She didnt seem to care at all. I believe she even referred to me being a "real sweetie or a real sweetheart"

 

She's finished doing the outline, and I asked her if she was hungry, and she said no. I asked her if she wouldnt mind taking a break while I got something to eat. I ordered some pizza, it was delivered, I asked her once more if she was hungry (shes a really tiny girl) she said nope, but I'll have a bite of yours. She takes it, bites and she's done. Apparently I had pizza sauce on my face, she cleaned it, and then licked her finger. So she's wrapping up. Now this time, I'm in the chair almost 7 hours, and it's midnight. The entire time I'm there we're still flirting. Time to settle the tab, and this time, it was less money this time, for almost 1.5x the amount of time I spent in the chair. Maybe she's being nice, but Im not falling for it. Something is totally up here, and to boot, she didnt finish, and I know she didn't on purpose. She also gave me her email address so I could write her. She wants me to make another appointment. She has a BF, who I met the 1st night, but he's a flake. Washed out musician, with a dead end job. Oh, and she also knows I own a business, and she told me she might need a job in the winter, and if she did, would I hire her (after thinking about it, In a god damn heartbeat)

 

I looked for the suttle signs of "puppy love" on the 2nd night, but because she's concentrating on my arm, so picking up the suttle messages aren't happening. I know I wrote a lot more then I should have, but it may be important. Let me know what you guys think. There is not doubt that I am into her.We get along great, and shes a blast to hang out with.

 

Wassup with this chick?

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DerangedAngel

I responded to your first post, which you didn't complete. Might want to check on that.

 

Anyway, she's definitely flirting with you. And it sounds like you're pretty into her, too.

 

But (and this is a big but), she has a boyfriend. Who cares that he is a "flakey, washed up musician"? It doesn't make him any less her boyfriend.

 

I say don't make a move unless you know that she has broken it off with him. If you want to pursue a friendship with her, fine. Be careful though.

 

At the very least, you've found someone that seems to be a great tattoo artist.

 

Cheers.

 

-Deranged

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Pyrannaste

Deranged is right, she is definitely flirting!

 

My advice is: if you are starting to fall in love with this girl, think carefully about how you'd feel if you were in her current boyfriend's place.

 

They might have an open relationship, but, if they don't, I would be careful with a girl who acts this way with other guys (I don't mean you are just an ordinary 'other guy':)) while she has a boyfriend.

 

So if you two click well and start dating, consider that she might flirt this way with other people once she is in a relationship with you.

 

Also, she did not act professional.

If that is considered professional of a tattoo-shop employee, I'm glad my bf has no tattooes.

IMO people who make tattooes should act towards customers with the same professionality of doctors and nurses. At least until they finish the tattoo!

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Aaaa, no! I say make your move! Take her out for a coffee, pizza, something!

 

Make her see the differance between the two of you... Maybe, she thinks you'll never look at he, maybe she's afraid you're too good for her. What's the worst thing that can happen? You don't strike me the type to have a problem trying!

 

So it's not fair, steeling her from her bf. But then life ain't fair and it's damn short too, so have your best shot with people you think are worthy of your attention!

 

Lots of luck, hax!

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DerangedAngel
So it's not fair, steeling her from her bf. But then life ain't fair and it's damn short too, so have your best shot with people you think are worthy of your attention!

 

Is this the kind of advice you'd like posters to give a girl that was interested in your boyfriend? :p

 

I still say back off the taken ones.

 

-Deranged

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LOOL!

 

Yes! I like challenges! I think one is free to try! If my bf likes me better, no other girl can make him change his mind! Anyway, that's how i feel!

 

 

If you think you're better for someone... than do what? Wait? Untill when? No way! Life is about doing things, about making things happen!

 

I mean in the end, he's not doing anything! It's her choice! he's only making her consider her options! I am not thinking about showering her with flowers, expensive parfumes etc etc.

 

Just tempt her! If she's got a good thing going on, she'll be flatterd, but gently turn him down! Where's the problem?

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The problem is that making moves on somebody else's bf is cheap, tawdry, and trashy. The problem is that people these days don't care about anybody but themselves. I knew a man who always said he'd never care if someone took his car. He even left the keys in the car. Someone finally did steal the car and this man's story changed quite a bit. You would actually care quite a bit if somebody you cared about took off with someone else.

 

:mad:

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Originally posted by moimeme

The problem is that making moves on somebody else's bf is cheap, tawdry, and trashy. The problem is that people these days don't care about anybody but themselves. I knew a man who always said he'd never care if someone took his car. He even left the keys in the car. Someone finally did steal the car and this man's story changed quite a bit. You would actually care quite a bit if somebody you cared about took off with someone else.

 

:mad:

 

Well, moi, people ain't property! One does not own another human being!

 

Oh, and thanks a lot, by the way, it's been a while since anyone called any of my point of views "cheap" or "trashy"!

 

Like it or not, Merry, it's a jungle out there. I know it is better to be able to draw the line somewhere. The question is where?

 

 

Coming back to the post, that woman was definetely flirting! That might be called "trashy". I call it flirting! And since she did have a bf when doing so... why won't he try to take it further? It's not like he said "yeah, she seems to be an easy lay"!

 

He said "This girl, to me, is actually drop dead beautiful, smart, she has a phsych degree, home owner, business owner, etc (she's not the tattoo shop's owner) We have a lot in common, to the same music tastes, almost the same b-day, same interests, etc "

 

She gave a lot of signs. Right, to make it politically correct, he should have reminded her about the mess at 17H!

 

 

 

If you want to see cheap and trashy things around you, moi, it's super easy! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder! Just don't throw it in my face, please!

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Hey all,

 

I agree with you deranged. It's not my place to try to push her to fall for me, but in the same respect, if she does on her own then I guess it's fair game.

 

Anyways, I went back there again last night just to shoot the breeze and we went out w/ her bf and my gf. Strangely enough it was like he wasnt there, and neither was my gf, but the 2 of them got a long great. I smell a swap comming on.

 

Also, I really shouldnt have referred to him as a washed out musician. He's really a nice guy, which makes this situation that much harder.

 

Anymore advice would be rocking

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DerangedAngel

"It's not my place to try to push her to fall for me, but in the same respect, if she does on her own then I guess it's fair game"...if her boyfriend (and your girlfriend!) are out of the picture.

 

If she was really interested in you, you wouldn't have to compete with this other guy. She would end the relationship and begin to get to know you better. But, since you have someone yourself, it's not likely that she's going to drop her boyfriend for a guy she sees as already taken.

 

And if you break up with your girl, and find that Miss Tattoo Artist is madly in love with her boyfriend and these signs and hints were only in your imagination, you're screwed. Womanless all around.

 

Kind of a mess.

 

Good luck.

 

-Deranged

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Hax, questions are answers! At the end of your first post you say:

 

I looked for the suttle signs of "puppy love" on the 2nd night, but because she's concentrating on my arm, so picking up the suttle messages aren't happening. I know I wrote a lot more then I should have, but it may be important. Let me know what you guys think. There is not doubt that I am into her.We get along great, and shes a blast to hang out with. [/quote ]

 

And in the second you happen to mention you have a girlfriend.

 

Still in the original post you ask: Wassup with this chick?

 

So what do you want ?

 

You are a big boy, hax. I mean just be honest to yourself! This stupid little talk back and forth won't help!

 

 

To me, if it looks like a duck, it walks like a duck, it most probably is a duck! Have the balls to admit it!

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