AlisaMarie Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 I have felt stronger than ever about my breakup. It's been almost 4 months as well as NC. The problem is that we have broken up before, and he has came back every time within a couple weeks. He was a monster to me. Projected every wrong thing that he did onto me. It was a whirlwind narcissistic romance for 2 years that I for one, was in love with. Why did I love the drama? Who knows... possibly daddy issues or my addictive personality that draws me to be able to "fix" everything. I have been seeing someone, and he is wonderful. We have been taking things slow and there isn't anything about this man that I don't adore. For the past week I have just been struggling with missing my ex. I don't know why I miss him. I was very close to being "indifferent." Now I am having urges to contact him and it's really putting me into a subtle depression. My new guy even called me out on being distant. It was a two and a half year relationship with SOOO much drama, so I know it's going to take more than 4 months to be completely over it. He even moved in with the girl that was one of the many problems in our relationship... and my friend saw him holding hands with a completely different girl not too long ago out in public which justifies what kind of personality I believe he has. So why do I miss him? He brought nothing but a black cloud over my life and it was a storm every day. Thank you. I know I can always come here and vent as oppose to texting or calling him. We all know where that leads us. Link to post Share on other sites
Hafer Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Dont take this too hard, but it might be possible that you are emotionally addicted to drama; unconsciously, you crave for it, for crave for the storm and the black cloud over your head, you became used to it. You dont need a person like him, you know he isnt good for you but you still miss him, does that make any sense to you?. Just be careful with this new guy, if you are not ready for a new RL please do not jump into one, you will probably end up hurting him It isnt normal to act like this but it is extremely common, and it is an indicator of self esteem problems 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Geez your ex sounds like mine. I do agree, be careful. It sounds like you are not ready yet for a relationship. Take it easy and take care of yourself. Allow yourself to heal and make sure you have no contact with your ex. Link to post Share on other sites
brokenheart88 Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 i sorta understand where your coming from. But i also think you had a long history with this guy and im sure connected to him in many different levels. that to lose it completely is hard shocking. like you said almost like losing your addiction. and im sure you did have some good times with him and at moments you ket yourself give more weight to the good times compared to all those bad times. But its good you know and realize your better off. it isnt going to be easy, but yes dating a good guy makes a difference because you can easily compare. im glad your going slow with this new guy but dont use him as a rebound and make sure to be as honest with him as you can. you need to think of yourself first. Link to post Share on other sites
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