2sunny Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I do believe that prayer is simply focused positive energy. That we don't pray for ourselves - but for others. That's part of "what brings people together" instead of isolating. Also part of why I come here - it gives me people to pray for that I've never met. I'm praying for all of you Bailey. Xo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I am so moved by the support I have received here and in the "real world." A customer of mine who recently lost her husband to cancer invited me out for dinner last night. This morning I received an email from her offering to chaffeur me to M's city on any Sunday that I feel too tired to drive myself. What a lovely offer, huh? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 BTW, can someone please tell me how to enable PMs?? According to everything I am reading, I should be able to but I can't. Can someone explain it to me like I am a 3 year old. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I am so moved by the support I have received here and in the "real world." A customer of mine who recently lost her husband to cancer invited me out for dinner last night. This morning I received an email from her offering to chaffeur me to M's city on any Sunday that I feel too tired to drive myself. What a lovely offer, huh? I really believe that there is an awful lot of good in the world, and in ourselves as well. We see it when we find someone reaching out to us when we are feeling our worst... for all the sadness that may be in it, the world is still a pretty great place:) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I really believe that there is an awful lot of good in the world, and in ourselves as well. We see it when we find someone reaching out to us when we are feeling our worst... for all the sadness that may be in it, the world is still a pretty great place:) FS... I have to echo what you said about good in the world. I have experienced it firsthand..... When my 8-year old son passed away unexpectedly the goodness and support and love that came our way was OVERWHELMING!!!!! The church was packed SRO, my meals were cooked for I don't know how long...maybe a year, my holidays were taken care of, my lawn was cut so on and so on. And to this day friends and acquaintances still bring up my son and what a loving and sweet little boy he was and they still think of him and pray to him. Yes he made an impact even in his short little life. Goodness....Yes it is out there and I am so blessed to have these wonderful incredible people in my life. Hang in there Bailey, and if you can keep a journal of this journey with your sisters...it might help you in the future. I have kept so many journals over the years after the loss of my son that I am now in the process of writing a book...Hope it's a best seller...If I can HELP one other mother out there who has walked in my shoes...Well AMEN!!! Don't want any other mother to go thru what I have been through..... Frozensprouts....you are a doll! Bailey....Praying for you again today! Hello Jesus........ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 I am so sorry about your little boy! Your strength is inspiring. And I am keeping a journal......I find writing to be very therapeutic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 FS... I have to echo what you said about good in the world. I have experienced it firsthand..... When my 8-year old son passed away unexpectedly the goodness and support and love that came our way was OVERWHELMING!!!!! The church was packed SRO, my meals were cooked for I don't know how long...maybe a year, my holidays were taken care of, my lawn was cut so on and so on. And to this day friends and acquaintances still bring up my son and what a loving and sweet little boy he was and they still think of him and pray to him. Yes he made an impact even in his short little life. Goodness....Yes it is out there and I am so blessed to have these wonderful incredible people in my life. Hang in there Bailey, and if you can keep a journal of this journey with your sisters...it might help you in the future. I have kept so many journals over the years after the loss of my son that I am now in the process of writing a book...Hope it's a best seller...If I can HELP one other mother out there who has walked in my shoes...Well AMEN!!! Don't want any other mother to go thru what I have been through..... Frozensprouts....you are a doll! Bailey....Praying for you again today! Hello Jesus........ lost... I'm so sorry about your little boy. I don't know if I could get through something like that...but I guess you never know what you can do until you have to do it. I believe that , whatever comes after this life, every mom ( and dad) who ever lost a child will be able to hold them in their arms again someday, tell them they love them and all will be well. Bailey..how are you dong today? Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 lost... I'm so sorry about your little boy. I don't know if I could get through something like that...but I guess you never know what you can do until you have to do it. I believe that , whatever comes after this life, every mom ( and dad) who ever lost a child will be able to hold them in their arms again someday, tell them they love them and all will be well. Bailey..how are you dong today? FS... Your words brought tears to my eyes! I NEVER thought I would EVER EVER get through something like this...But here I am still standing...Shyte if I know how! I miss him terribly! Bailey....Chicken soup....make sis some HOMEMADE chicken soup...it has alot of protein in it...Carrots, chicken, CollegeInn Broth, Spinach and some noodles. and it soothes the soul! If I knew where you were I could make a big batch of it and send it to you! This is one thing I can cook well! Peace...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Today is not such a good day.......the stress is causing me to feel such fatigue. Just putting one foot in front of the other is a chore. I don't let my sisters know how bad I feel.......thank you for asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Sprouts, I got your PM......did you get mine? Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Sprouts, I got your PM......did you get mine? yes, i did Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Today is not such a good day.......the stress is causing me to feel such fatigue. Just putting one foot in front of the other is a chore. I don't let my sisters know how bad I feel.......thank you for asking. sorry you are having such a bad day ... it's okay for you to talk to your sister who is helping you with your sister who's sick...the two of you are both really drained right now and talking about it together may help I know it's hard, but try and get some rest...it sounds like you need it...you need to look after yourself too Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Just got off the phone with both of my sisters and they are both doing well. K is always very chipper and M seems to be doing well. I just don't want either of them to know how poorly I am doing. They both have enough to worry about and I have always been the strong one. I am trying to get as much sleep as I can. I just have a tough time getting through the night. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 22, 2012 Share Posted March 22, 2012 Hi Bailey... how are you doing today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 22, 2012 Author Share Posted March 22, 2012 Hi Bailey... how are you doing today? So sad......I have to stop reading articles about liver cancer. The literature is uniformly dire regarding the prognosis. I am a pessimist by nature, though. I figure it's better to be a pessimist and be pleasantly surprised by a good outcome than to be an optimist and be unpleasantly surprised by a bad outcome. One of my dear friends told me "that's the Virgo in me." I have to figure out how to be in the moment......can't be into all this catastrophic thinking I am into. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 So sad......I have to stop reading articles about liver cancer. The literature is uniformly dire regarding the prognosis. I am a pessimist by nature, though. I figure it's better to be a pessimist and be pleasantly surprised by a good outcome than to be an optimist and be unpleasantly surprised by a bad outcome. One of my dear friends told me "that's the Virgo in me." I have to figure out how to be in the moment......can't be into all this catastrophic thinking I am into. just checking in...how are things going today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Share Posted March 24, 2012 Not good.....K has informed me that she can't take care of M. I have no idea what we are going to do. M is driving K crazy with her delusional paranoia and I know I can't take care of her. Please think good thoughts for all of us. It is such a mess. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well. was your sister able to get a space in hospice yet? Is there any support system for families going through situations like yours in the area? ( e.g.- respite care)? keeping you in my thoughts, and hoping things get better for you soon...you're having such a rough go of things:( Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 24, 2012 Share Posted March 24, 2012 B... How far away are you from your sis? Can you get nurses in? Is she even ready to go into Hospice? Doesn't sound like it. Bailey...please please take care of yourself! These times are so trying on the physical body. It will leave you feeling breathless. Lay on the couch and Don't MOVE! This is the only way energy can come back. Eat healthy.... Love to you............ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 26, 2012 Share Posted March 26, 2012 hi bailey... how are things for you today? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Share Posted March 27, 2012 What an incredible thread this has turned out to be. No matter what our individual personal feelings are one 1 subject - I am in awe of how so many have rallied around Bailey, said prayers or just had good thoughts. Inspiring and wonderful.... Bailey, when one door closes, another opens. Hoping you and your sisters can figure out "next steps". I, too, am in awe......and thank you for your kind thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Share Posted March 27, 2012 hi bailey... how are things for you today? I sent you a PM.......did you receive it? I just cannot figure out why I am soooooo stupid about this stuff. Normally, I am pretty darned smart! Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I sent you a PM.......did you receive it? I just cannot figure out why I am soooooo stupid about this stuff. Normally, I am pretty darned smart! ah...my inbox is showing that I have a message...I'll go check it now... hope your day is going well Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bailey14 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Share Posted March 27, 2012 ah...my inbox is showing that I have a message...I'll go check it now... hope your day is going well I am slowly adjusting to this new normal. Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I'm glad... sent you a private message, and I hope that the other users on here don't mind me speaking for them ( feel free to give me a "virtual kick in the butt if I am)...but I think a lot of us have come to care quite a bit for you, and we are happy to be here for you when you need us... Link to post Share on other sites
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