xxoo Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 My job is to support her 100% and I intend to do that. And yes, I will like them either way. Bottom line, it her body, and if she really wants to do it, I will support it. That's good to hear. I may have misinterpreted some of your comments. I've nursed a few years, myself, and have had to adjust to some changes in the chest area I know that my H actually likes them MORE now (he prefers a little "swing"), and I realize that helps with my confidence a lot. I wish her well with her procedure, and her results Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 What does your wife's friend's husband has to say about the friend's having had the procedure done? Since you didn't mention her husband at all, and your thread is really about your concerns as the husband of someone having the procedure (rather than any concern being expressed by your wife), it's really the friend's husband POV that's relevant. You should talk to the husband if you haven't done so already. That is if she still has one. I have a call in to the husband right now. Just to get his take......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 She's divorced isn't she? If so did she get divorced before or after her cosmetic surgery? When you say "changed her life", since it wasn't even noticeable until pointed out to you, do you mean "helped her land a new man"? I mean how else does a boob job "really change" a woman's life? If she's still married, did it really rev up her sex life or something? Where are these opinions and information coming from? The friend? Your wife? The friend's husband, if any? Somewhere else? She is not divorced...........as a matter of fact, on the surface that is, they appear to be one the happiest married couples that we know. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 I have a call in to the husband right now. Just to get his take......... Is her husband an "open" type of guy? I don't know if that is such a good idea to tell you the truth. If one of my friend's husbands called up MY husband to ask about how he liked the results of my surgery I think he would feel ackward and freak out (not on the husband calling, just in general). I'd also feel kind of weirded out if he went around telling his friends about it. He actually didn't tell ANYONE for that specific reason. That's just my take on it though. I'm proof of it being a life changing event. And in response to Adam's questions, it changed my life because it improved my self esteem and my relationship with my husband. He LOVES them. And NO, I didn't do it for him at all. He found me beautiful and desirable before, but he thinks they look awesome now also. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 Is her husband an "open" type of guy? I don't know if that is such a good idea to tell you the truth. If one of my friend's husbands called up MY husband to ask about how he liked the results of my surgery I think he would feel ackward and freak out (not on the husband calling, just in general). I'd also feel kind of weirded out if he went around telling his friends about it. He actually didn't tell ANYONE for that specific reason. That's just my take on it though. I'm proof of it being a life changing event. And in response to Adam's questions, it changed my life because it improved my self esteem and my relationship with my husband. He LOVES them. And NO, I didn't do it for him at all. He found me beautiful and desirable before, but he thinks they look awesome now also. You know, I have thought about that and decided that when he calls me back, I will just say hey, what's up? My wife has talked to his wife in great detail about the operation. Their children and ours do a lot of things together.......I will just leave it alone and ride the waves. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 You know, I have thought about that and decided that when he calls me back, I will just say hey, what's up? My wife has talked to his wife in great detail about the operation. Their children and ours do a lot of things together.......I will just leave it alone and ride the waves. Good decision. It helps to talk to others who have had the same (or similar) operations. A couple months before I had mine, my aunt had surgery also with the same doctor (she recommended him to me) and it helped so much to talk to someone who had gone through the same thing and could tell me what to expect. That's def. a bonus that your wife has that support. She should def. utilize her once after the surgery as well because there is some pain involved in the healing and she will be limited in some of the things she will be able to do. So it's nice to have someone to talk to about that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 Good decision. It helps to talk to others who have had the same (or similar) operations. A couple months before I had mine, my aunt had surgery also with the same doctor (she recommended him to me) and it helped so much to talk to someone who had gone through the same thing and could tell me what to expect. That's def. a bonus that your wife has that support. She should def. utilize her once after the surgery as well because there is some pain involved in the healing and she will be limited in some of the things she will be able to do. So it's nice to have someone to talk to about that. Did your husband have any anxiety over the procedure? I have never been a big fan of 'unnecessary' procedures (unnecessary in my mind) but I have never been able to figure out the female mind in many years of marriage either. She indicated to me last night that after she/we knew that we were not going to have any more children, she wanted this done for HER because she does not feel comfortable in her own skin. Not sure how that feels, but I do care about her feelings as well............and if that will give her added confidence, I am all for it! I know in my heart of hearts she is doing it for the right reasons.........for her. Although, I do get to enjoy the end results (her words, not mine). Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Did your husband have any anxiety over the procedure? I have never been a big fan of 'unnecessary' procedures (unnecessary in my mind) but I have never been able to figure out the female mind in many years of marriage either. She indicated to me last night that after she/we knew that we were not going to have any more children, she wanted this done for HER because she does not feel comfortable in her own skin. Not sure how that feels, but I do care about her feelings as well............and if that will give her added confidence, I am all for it! I know in my heart of hearts she is doing it for the right reasons.........for her. Although, I do get to enjoy the end results (her words, not mine). My husband didn't have anxiety over it (other then just worry about me being okay) because he knew I needed it and wanted it. He wanted me to have it to. When I say "need" is more of the fact that I FELT I needed it...and my husband felt that way too. I think maybe the fact that you are having trouble with the whole thing is because you don't think it's neccessary for her. But SHE feels that it is, so try thinking about it from her perspective and putting yourself in her shoes. What if you felt that you absolutely needed something changed about yourself and you needed surgery to do it. A good analogy would be like laser surgery or whatever for balding hair. It doesn't actually NEED to be done, but some bed who are balding feel like it does. Same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Well, what is he supposed to say? "Y'know honey, I think I liked your boobs better the old way" ? Unreal. Omg, you are unbelievable. Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 i wonder if the doctor or surgeon has test units you can try on for size? Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 i wonder if the doctor or surgeon has test units you can try on for size? No, just before and after pics of other people who have similar shape and size. I did get drawn on with marker to illustrate what would be taken where. That was helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 ok laurie: totally inappropriate question here: did you get a chance to feel up your aunt when she had hers? just so you could know? i knew a friend once ... Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 ok laurie: totally inappropriate question here: did you get a chance to feel up your aunt when she had hers? just so you could know? i knew a friend once ... Uh no. She didn't have the same procedure I did, she had a reduction. So the results were pretty obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 My husband didn't have anxiety over it (other then just worry about me being okay) because he knew I needed it and wanted it. He wanted me to have it to. When I say "need" is more of the fact that I FELT I needed it...and my husband felt that way too. I think maybe the fact that you are having trouble with the whole thing is because you don't think it's neccessary for her. But SHE feels that it is, so try thinking about it from her perspective and putting yourself in her shoes. What if you felt that you absolutely needed something changed about yourself and you needed surgery to do it. A good analogy would be like laser surgery or whatever for balding hair. It doesn't actually NEED to be done, but some bed who are balding feel like it does. Same thing. I see your point. Thanks for the explanation.............. My primary concern is the 'what ifs'. What if something goes wrong? What if she does not like the outcome? That's all. I am super protective of my wife and my children, not to the point of smothering by any means. I just want the best for them all!! I don't care if others look (do I think about it? Sure, would not be human if I didn't), she gets plenty of looks now and I sure she will get plenty of looks afterwards as well. She has proven over and over again that she goes home with ME! Period! I am a lucky guy! Again, thanks for the info.............. Link to post Share on other sites
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 oh, well if you are going to cut in there and displace the nipples, why not just add on the implants its like getting the hamburger without the fries seems pointless Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 oh, well if you are going to cut in there and displace the nipples, why not just add on the implants its like getting the hamburger without the fries seems pointless Are you talking about for a lift? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 Are you talking about for a lift? She is getting a lift and a small augmentation...............there is a LOT of empty space that needs to be filled on the high side of the chest. Where it all went, I don't know. She IS excited........... Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 She is getting a lift and a small augmentation...............there is a LOT of empty space that needs to be filled on the high side of the chest. Where it all went, I don't know. She IS excited........... South. It went south. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 She is getting a lift and a small augmentation...............there is a LOT of empty space that needs to be filled on the high side of the chest. Where it all went, I don't know. She IS excited........... Probably dropped from breastfeeding. I didn't have a loss of volume so I didn't opt for the augmentation. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Probably dropped from breastfeeding. I didn't have a loss of volume so I didn't opt for the augmentation. FWIW, pregnancy is the biggest factor in breast sagging, not breastfeeding. They've actually done research on it, apparently Link to post Share on other sites
Author Under_the_Radar Posted February 22, 2012 Author Share Posted February 22, 2012 FWIW, pregnancy is the biggest factor in breast sagging, not breastfeeding. They've actually done research on it, apparently You would think that I would know that after fathering seven kids ............ Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 after fathering seven kids ............ Nice to meet another fearless impreginator. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Now don't go taking credit for someone else's work. Let me put it this way: there's a good chance that I'm your dad. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Damn, I think you really are one of my kids. Now go wash my f*cking truck and get a damn job. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Uh-oh. It seems to be ANGER TIME again. Link to post Share on other sites
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