gillybac Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Hello everyone. I've just joined and I haven't had time to fill out my profile yet - so I'll be brief (ish) with the details. My H and I are separated but have maintained a sort of weird long-distance marriage, seeing each other every few weeks. For reasons I won't go into now, this was best for us (although our plans were to move in again together in a few years). 19 months ago, I discovered he had embarked on an affair (I actually found out the day after!). I stopped contact with him except to sort out practical issues occasionally. Since the beginning of his affair, he has tried to maintain contact, saying he wants us to be True Friends (yeah, right). I never replied to these emails... ...until recently when I felt strong enough to do so and wrote a reply to an email where he asked me how I was doing etc etc. I expected nothing in return but I was no longer raw and angry and I felt fine about replying. He phoned me the day after receiving the mail and we were on the phone for an hour and a half...in fact, it was I who hung up first (I mean, I do have a life ) Since then, he has phoned me several times. He tells me about his job, his health, what he's reading, his walks...and he's just sent me a brand new laptop (because he says I must need a new one). He also said he'd like to come down to sort out the stuff we have in storage, which I'd like to get rid of). Until now, he has always insisted he's never coming back to this town. He then said I could use his caravan (which is parked up in the mountains near a lake!) whenever I liked. I just have to say the word. Now, I'm a bit confused I'm really not sure that he's still with OW. If he is, then he doesn't have much time to see her - he often checks out my blog at weekends (thanks, Statcounter!) and I'm sure he wouldn't do that if she were sitting next to him - and he recently emailed me from said caravan, where he was spending two months walking in the mountains. OW has a job and a child so she wasn't with him. Anyway, I'd love some thoughts on this. Is he reaching out? Is he embarking on an EA with me? Is he hoping to cake-eat? Or do you think he may be thinking of reconciling? Far too early to tell, I know. But I am wondering what this is all about... Thanks for listening Link to post Share on other sites
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