sweet lou Posted June 5, 2004 Share Posted June 5, 2004 I have posted before about my situation, and I am still looking for answers that probely dont exist. My wife has left me, I was not a good husband I was verbaily abusive and not there for her emotionaly or physcially. I always loved her but took her love for granted and her friendship. I am seeing counsling and I told my wife about it. I told her that my counsler said more and more couples are moving apart and more and more of them are getting back together. My wifes response to that was "see you have hope" I dont know what she meant by that?????? I am in so much pain, everybody including my wife and counsler say give her her space, and be nice and try to be a friend. I am scared she has fallen out of love with me. I know she loves me because I am the father of our kids but I dont know if she is in love with me. Is it possiable for her to find that love for me again or am I holding onto false hope. I am scared of hoping she will love me again and then one day she finds someone else or says it is over. I will be crushed all over again. She wont see counsling right know and she seems very happy with her new life. If I improve on myself do I have a chance?? Will she ever see counsling?? Do these things ever work themselves out?? I love her more than I can put into words but when I tell her that it just makes her mad. Is there any little things I could do to try to show her I am sorry and I love her?? or do I leave her be and wait to see what she decides? I feel like I cannot keep going on like this. Any Ideas???? Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted June 5, 2004 Share Posted June 5, 2004 None of us can answer all of the questions you are asking. Only your wife knows what is and is not possible for her, and she may not even be that clear about what she wants right now. You need to work on yourself right now. Try to figure out why you were abusive to your wife, and if you can take steps to correct that. Continue to be friendly with your wife, be considerate and offer to help her out from time to time. I think your best chance of getting her back will be to show her that you are really trying to work on your own problems. Link to post Share on other sites
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