Is there a type of person who always ends up with cheaters?

[weeble78]

I'm curious. In everyones' life experiences, is there a certain type of person who always seems to get cheated on in relationships? Who always seems to be the stepping stone for meeting Mr/Mrs Right?

 

Honestly, I'd love to know. Mainly because I'm wondering if there's truth in if you can get caught in similar relationships, and whether that reason is down to you being the person you are, or if you're just unlucky.

[norajane]

I think if someone is frequently in relationships where they are cheated on, they are picking their dates badly.

 

They ignore warning signs (past cheating, current attention-whore behavior with the opposite sex, frequently going out drinking alone or with friends, tons of opposite sex friends on facebook or wherever that they spend lots of time chatting with, lots of "exes" and "fwb's" hanging around, uncaring about your feelings and concerns when voiced, always texting and whatnot when they are on a date with you, etc.) and date them anyway until they are cheated on.

[Philosoraptor]

The person who always ends up with cheaters is generally the person with the bad people picker, who avoids the sign, and allows themselves to be walked on.

[Bito]

Dont ignore warning signs. Dont Settle. and dont let them walk all over you.

 

You do these things the likely hood of you being cheated on is very slim. I know once you have been cheated on the subject comes to your mind often but you cant let it dominate you.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Is there a type of person who always ends up with cheaters?

 

 

 

Yes, of course.

 

Those who watched their parents get cheated-on... particularly if you're the same gender as the parent who got cheated-on, and you just keep repeating the same scenarios over and over as a result.

 

Eventually you come to realize that the common thread in that is you... and that your own instincts will pick-out and pursue a serial cheater from a mile away.

 

Soon you learn to gauge yourself, and avoid the very guys to whom you are reeeeeeeeeeeeeally attracted - because you know in advance they're sh*t.

[salparadise]

People with low self-esteem and weak boundaries are easy targets for the disingenuous serial cheater types. Also, if your picker is calibrated for drama, excitement, hotness, challenge, etc., as opposed to character, integrity and stability then it shouldn't be surprising that you end up with exactly that. A person who is disingenuous isn't going to change just because they're in a relationship––they're just looking to have their cake and eat it too. Basically, it comes down to the non-cheating partner not really believing they deserve better, and they blindly and meekly accept whomever happens along rather than boldly looking out for themselves by being aware and discriminating.

[RecordProducer]

I'm curious. In everyones' life experiences, is there a certain type of person who always seems to get cheated on in relationships? Who always seems to be the stepping stone for meeting Mr/Mrs Right?

 

Honestly, I'd love to know. Mainly because I'm wondering if there's truth in if you can get caught in similar relationships, and whether that reason is down to you being the person you are, or if you're just unlucky.

One woman told me that all guys have cheated on her. Her current BF cheated on his ex-wife (not yet on her) ... but he had an excuse: he married his wife only because he knocked her up.