FelicityShot Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 I wondered how we would all argue if we were on the other side of the fence. So to OW/OM - what would you say if you were BS? And to BS - what would you say if you were OW/OM? Like in their shoes thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Felicity... great question! As I am a fOW, I would say to the BS...TAKE CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND...as a woman...He didn't require much...just a little attention, and a woman to be a woman! If you would satisfy him as he should be satisfied...(in the bedroom) he wouldn't have strayed. And in turn, he would have made your life much happier. It doesn't take a genius to figure this one out. After you put the kids to bed, make time for him. Listen, talk, laugh, have a glass of wine, and then turn him on. Appreciate him and he will in turn appreciate you! Keep the romance and sex going!!!!! Lots of married men like the girlfriend experience....Just treat him like a man!!! Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 It's easy to speak at the other side. Not quite as easy to speak to the other side as we as OW don't know the whole story. But speaking as the other side? Sounds much tougher. As LG asked, what exactly did you have in mind, FS? Do you mean, for example, what would OW say to OW if they were to imagine themselves as the BS? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Ok... as a BS I would say "What the hell am I doing here in this OM/OW forum talking to YOU? My beef is with my WH." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Cute :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
TinaniT Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 I wondered how we would all argue if we were on the other side of the fence. So to OW/OM - what would you say if you were BS? And to BS - what would you say if you were OW/OM? Like in their shoes thing? Been both. Didn't like either. I know I will not ever be an OW again. I don;t like what I said last time, mostly - though it was (and is) love and we were both hurting and confused. Still wasn't right. I do not think I will ever be a BW again, but since I have no absolute control over that, I would do it a little differently. If it was a one time thing, I probably would still forgive if he was truly repentant. Not for sure on that one. Guess he better stay true just to be safe. If it was more then that or if he tried to blame me or threaten things I hold dear if I make trouble for what he's doing now that I know like my ex... I'd say Goodbye! It would hurt. My issue would be more with my husband then the OW as it as last time. If she were to start a conversation, I would tell her I hope she can come to peace with herself and that I forgive her (if she wants that) and to please never engage me again unless there's some sort of information I need. I would hurt a lot, of course, just like last time -probably a lot more because the trust is deeper. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TinaniT Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 :laugh: Oh that is not going to go over well. I'm assuming that you meant in your xmm's case that the below was the reasons you think he strayed. This MUST be fake. It's so... cliche, and so insulting to every party involved. The man is basically a walking brainless ding a ling, I guess it intends to be insulting to the wife for having their whole life to attend to, and the OW- because in this scenario, she's happily a bandaid used mainly for sex until he returns to the woman he really loves if only she would change about 15 minutes of the day so he could ditch the other woman. It's all over simplistic and doesn't cover the many, many, many situations you must be exposed to if you ever read these forums. The thought for one BS from the OW is mainly limited to the height of jealousy, but towards all? Just seems... perfectly intended and placed for maximal reaction. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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