lemonlegs Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 Hi everyone. I'm 20 years old and my twin sister came out as a lesbian about 3 years ago. My parents and I have have been NOTHING but supportive, as have all of her friends. I'd argue that nothing in her life change negatively when she came out, as far as I know... She chose to move away, where she lives with her girlfriend, who everyone in my family loves. She has came to visit for the past 2 weeks and within days of being here, she has complained about how unhappy being here makes her. We've done nothing to make her feel uncomfortable or unwelcome. My mom paid a lot of money for her to come visit and constantly gives her her vehicle to use, but nothing seems good enough because she still goes on about how 'negative' we are. Yes, we have our family problems like anybody else, but she makes it out to seem as though we are the most miserable people on earth to be around, which is far from the truth. I live with my parents and it's not like this when she's not here. She has expected a lot from her friends and family when she's here, and she's happy until something doesn't go her way. On Saturday we both had a lot to drink (her more so than I) and she, out of absolutely no where, started saying how unsupportive and prejudice I am, which was incredibly insulting and rude considering that is not the case AT ALL. And then this morning, she made a snide comment towards me for absolutely no reason. I do believe she's jealous because I'm straight (first and foremost) and pretty, and have always had boyfriends, and do well in school. Not to be conceited, but I feel as though she wishes she could be like that too. Not to say she doesn't have any good attributes either, we're just different. I understand that it's hard, and she may wish she was normal, but outwardly she gives out this strong gay pride, yet deep down, it seems as though she's really resentful of who she is inside. Anyone have advice? It's not fair that she treats people who care about her like this and make them feel as though nothing they do will ever be good enough. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 She may be jealous of you but NOT because of her being gay and wishing she was straight. Unless she specifically told you this word for word, please don't assume that she is secretly wishing she was straight. She has a gf whom she lives with and has a life with. It could just very well be the lifestyle and being home is different than what she's now used to. OK, with that said, she is acting like an immature brat, treating you all like crap and over reacting, being picky and bitchy. Just because she's in town doesn't mean everybody has to bend to every single one of her needs and desires. That is on her. Talk to her and just tell her that you're happy to spend time with her. Have you ever gone to visit her and see her life with her gf? Link to post Share on other sites
JJ72 Posted February 27, 2012 Share Posted February 27, 2012 Have her try some of this. haha....j/k She may be jealous of you but NOT because of her being gay and wishing she was straight. Unless she specifically told you this word for word, please don't assume that she is secretly wishing she was straight. She has a gf whom she lives with and has a life with. It could just very well be the lifestyle and being home is different than what she's now used to. OK, with that said, she is acting like an immature brat, treating you all like crap and over reacting, being picky and bitchy. Just because she's in town doesn't mean everybody has to bend to every single one of her needs and desires. That is on her. Talk to her and just tell her that you're happy to spend time with her. Have you ever gone to visit her and see her life with her gf? ^^ agreed. good advice right here. Link to post Share on other sites
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