ItalianLover25 Posted February 22, 2012 Share Posted February 22, 2012 I need help because I am having trouble deciding if I'm doing the right thing and need an outsider's perspective. I met my boyfriend 5 years ago at a party in college. We had some of the same friends and talked a couple times. And went our seperate ways. Last February 2011 we reconnected and I was going through a difficult time. He suggested I come out and visit and get away for awhile. I went out to Colorado in May (I'm from Michigan, and so is he) to visit him and it was one of the best times I've ever had in my life. And so has every day since then. Well we started getting serious over the summer and moved into more serious this past New Years. He told me he loved me on New Years Eve. And I have a small feeling he has never, if rarely, said those words to anyone. Not that he needed to, actions prove all We are climbing the stepladder in the relationship right now, so I don't want anything to hinder or hurt that. He works a job he dislikes and works fairly long hours. He uses the weekends to relax so he doesn't go out very often, though I know sometimes he wishes he did. His friends are very limited out there and he has no family around. I know it has to be really hard for him but he does the best he can and never complains. So, I need help deciding... Go out there for his birthday in April and give him the surprise of his life... Or stay away? What would you do? Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 You'd obviously know better if he'd be okay with a surprise visit than me (some people just plain aren't) but I would go for it. That's the one thing I always wished my SO and I would have been able to pull off, but were just never able to for one reason or another. We'll be bridging the gap now in a few months so it's not really anything I'd consider doing at this point. I have a co-worker who also is in a LDR. Her boyfriend literally just showed up at her door one day when she was doing laundry. Once she got over the initial shock of "not being ready" she had the time of her life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ItalianLover25 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 thanks, I think I will try it. I will hang out somewhere until I know he is back from his martial arts class the night I arrive. I really don't want to disrupt his routine too much. I honestly don't know how he feels about surprises like that, but he is a terrible planner. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I would try to talk to him about it first if you don't know how he feels...just casually bring it up to gauge his reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
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