Numb79 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Hi everyone! I just need some advice, I would like to contact my EX to tell her some of the things I didn't get a chance to when she broke up with me... When this all occurred, she did most of the talking and I didn't really say much. My thoughts are all over the place right now. There is a part of me that says I need to tell her these things..... the other part says... whats the point? She said she was done and there is nothing I can do to change that. I don't even know what I want to do right now. I would appreciate any advice or insight that anyone can provide.... Keep in mind that we have been broken up for almost 4 weeks... NC was broken twice, once by her to thank me for me mailing her all her personal belongings. Once by me telling her this.... Just because I don't contact doesn't mean I don't love you or I don't think about you, I am just trying to respect your wishes. If you really want to be left alone then I shall not contact you any further. Which she did not respond to. Why am I so lost..... she told me everything that I needed to hear. She said that she is done..... not to fight for her.... to not contact her.... that she is not friends with any of her previous Ex's. Why can't I get it!?? I want someone to help me but I know that no one can. I am the only person that can help myself. I don't understand why this is so hard for me.... it was a 5 yr LDR and we probably only saw each other 15 times most.....shouldn't it be easy since we didn't really spend that much time together!? Please.... if someone can just show me the light, I would greatly appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 You have nothing that needs to be said to her. Heal within yourself and find peace. Link to post Share on other sites
youngster Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 There is nothing you can say to her that will change her mind... For the good at least. You'll only sacrifice your dignity and self respect by trying to reopen healing wounds. All these things WE (I have stuff I feel I need my ex to hear too) realize post break up, we must internalize and bring the focus back upon ourselves. Give it time, man. I've been there. Write down all the stuff you feel you need to share. I did, and I can honestly say that in a time, I'd look back on those entries with a completely different mindset, and be glad I didn't say things. In time, the fog will lift. Hang around here and read read read Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 NC was broken twice, once by her to thank me for me mailing her all her personal belongings. Once by me telling her this.... Just because I don't contact doesn't mean I don't love you or I don't think about you, I am just trying to respect your wishes. If you really want to be left alone then I shall not contact you any further. Which she did not respond to. From the above, it seems that you already said the most important things. I have a hard time believing that any message you send her would be light-hearted. It she didn't respond to the above, she likely won't respond to what you would probably write. I'm sorry to say that at this point it is best to just leave it alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Follower Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 take it from somone that broke NC(would like to add didnt know about this place till after) to contact his ex to tell her what he thought she needed to hear from me. It doesnt work, it makes you feel far worse and the image you have of her in your head as that caring compassionate person will be shattered which to be honest mate hurts more than her leaving. Dont break NC Its NOT worth it I truely belive that this website should have a calling card that dumpers give to the dumpees on exiting the door, would save a lot of heart ache and trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
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