kaylan Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Why do I see more threads from OW posting, rather than OM. They seem to easily outnumber the OM topics. I know plenty of men cheat as well...but it seems guys dont establish affairs with married folks as much as they do with single folks. Am I incorrect? Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I think we have 4-5 men that contribute. There are many more out there. It might be fear that stops them from contributing but men do cheat with married women. I know many. Also not sure if it's a guy thing to not be open about their emotions. Who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Your observation might be true. There are more OW than OM and there are more guys running after the unattainable single girl than the other way around. Possible explanation: OW and OM are fools who get strung along. A lot of men don't seem to mind sleeping with someone they don't really have respect for, while women probably will not feel very attracted to a guy that they can manipulate too easily. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Why do I see more threads from OW posting, rather than OM. They seem to easily outnumber the OM topics. I know plenty of men cheat as well...but it seems guys dont establish affairs with married folks as much as they do with single folks. Am I incorrect? I think it might have more to do with OM not giving a crap about whether or not they ARE the OM. And therefore don't care to come on a forum. I think most OM are fine as long as the person they are with makes them cum, whether they are married, or just someone's girlfriend. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 My guess is, many OM aren't at a place where they feel they need help and join a forum. That and (not all, but many) men tend to keep thing to themselves and sort out problems/issues on their own without asking for help. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I think it might have more to do with OM not giving a crap about whether or not they ARE the OM. And therefore don't care to come on a forum. I think most OM are fine as long as the person they are with makes them cum, whether they are married, or just someone's girlfriend. That's what I was thinking. The OM is just glad he's getting no strings sex. He doesn't hold any fantasies of getting her to leave her husband. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Why do I see more threads from OW posting, rather than OM. They seem to easily outnumber the OM topics. I know plenty of men cheat as well...but it seems guys dont establish affairs with married folks as much as they do with single folks. Am I incorrect? It could be attributed to the fact that women are more fond of sharing their feelings and thoughts about their situation so more women seek out a venue to discuss it, while less men do so. Don't know how many percentage of LS members are men in general. I would guess that women outweigh men on LS in general. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted February 23, 2012 Author Share Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) I think it might have more to do with OM not giving a crap about whether or not they ARE the OM. And therefore don't care to come on a forum. I think most OM are fine as long as the person they are with makes them cum, whether they are married, or just someone's girlfriend. I think you have a point. The OW here seem to get wrapped up in the MM emotionally and are generally delusional in thinking it could lead somewhere. Some do know it wont go anywhere, but are still pretty emotionally invested and come here reaching out for help. This part of LS seems to be the exact opposite of the dating forum. In the dating forum I notice there are more guys than gals who are emotional and upset at their current situation. My guess is, many OM aren't at a place where they feel they need help and join a forum. That and (not all, but many) men tend to keep thing to themselves and sort out problems/issues on their own without asking for help. I definitely notice more men than women reaching out for relationship advice on online dating forums. Not just here, but also at enotalone and a couple other dating forums I used to frequent. When men are having a problem I notice they reach out more to forums than they will to real life friends. My observation is also that women will reach out more to friends in real life rather than a forum when they have problems. I think the other poster was on to something when he said that OM dont see their affair as a problem. Its just somewhere to get their rocks off as men more easily separate sex and emotions. Plus most guys wouldnt try and "wife up" (seriously date) a woman they know will cheat. Edited February 23, 2012 by kaylan Link to post Share on other sites
Bailey14 Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Men are so much better at compartmentalizing than women are and women are so much better at expressing their emotions. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Great question Kaylan! When I was with xMM...NO ONE IN HIS LIFE KNEW ABOUT ME....and we were together alot of years... But in my life....Alot of my girlfriends knew! So go figure....Women tend to have the need to talk...obviously xMM didn't! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I think women tend more to want to "fix" people. They see the "poor poor MM" as some kind of victim of an awful M and W and they think "Once he sees how wonderful I am and how happy he could be with me instead of her, he'll leave the M." I honestly think there are more women pulled into an A with a MP than men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 Because most men know a married woman will never make an ideal romantic partner while ow tend to get attached. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 There have been a number of OM here over the years. Some seemed quite happy with their situations and others seem as though they wanted to end it and make amends to those they hurt. Some have remained, others have been chased off by OW, BS or both. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted February 23, 2012 Share Posted February 23, 2012 I know lots of guys sleeping with MW that don't consider themselves to be an OM. They just think they are getting NSA sex from some poor stooge's lonely wife. Its rare, in my experience, to meet a single guy (or even another married one) get wrapped up in a MW. Most of the time it seems like they don't even respect her for what she is doing with them. All that said to say, I think OM don't post in forums often because they think people will judge them as fools for "catching feelings" for some guy's wife. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Maybe most of the OM do not feel the need to come online and post about it. Just a guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tanoman Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Hi everyone, ok firstly I am a long time reader here in the section however have just signed up so i could make this comment. Me well I am a 50 yo male, been single for 10 years since I have had to juggle both work & full time parenting. I have seen some comments here in regards to men are differnt in being the OP as its things like NSA Sex or we dont feel the need to discuss our issues etc etc........Well for me I must be more a female than a male then LOL.no just joking. However I have been in a 3 year relationship now with a married woman. Just love her in everyway possible. Yes ladies its a hard hard road. A road full of disappointments when pre-arranged meets etc have to be cancelled at the last moment as my MM cant get out etc etc etc. A road where at times you think we will never be together etc etc...why do i hang in there, cause I BELIEVE,,,,,,i believe we will be together. One needs to have hope in some things in life and this is it for me. I have as is evident by being weith my woman the first time i have ever been in love. So how can one walk away. I wont walk away until every door in the hallway is closed on me. Some would say I am a fool and that may well be the case but at least if that happens I know I will have given us my everything I could rabbit on so much more but essentially I posted this to illustrate that YES we men can be exactly the same as woman in an "Other Person" relationship............. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 There are more women than men in general, on this forum. A lot more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 I know lots of guys sleeping with MW that don't consider themselves to be an OM. They just think they are getting NSA sex from some poor stooge's lonely wife. Its rare, in my experience, to meet a single guy (or even another married one) get wrapped up in a MW. Most of the time it seems like they don't even respect her for what she is doing with them. All that said to say, I think OM don't post in forums often because they think people will judge them as fools for "catching feelings" for some guy's wife. Chalk me up as a "fool" for "catching feelings" for someone else's wife. It's a bad situation all the way around and I'm paying dearly for it now.... In my own little bubble of experience, nothing good comes from cheating on your spouse with someone else's spouse. To the Poster who came out of lurking above, I wish you the best but I think you're in for a long hard road of pain and suffering. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
despicableME Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) Women are more prone to discuss such things, moreso than men are. It seems men are lambasted for their candor, and that turns many of them away. They get label as being a cad, or unfeeling. I've taken my licks for expressing my true feelings. I tell it like it is: no-holds-barred. I haven't come across many men in any forum dealing with adultery. It's often an unspoken rule with men, not to discuss it. Edited February 24, 2012 by despicableME Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 Women in general are more comfortable talking about their feelings then men. Men often isolate to deal with emotional pain, while women talk about it to friends and ask for advice. I also think there are more complications that warrant advice from the OW then OM. MM are often the sole financial providers for the BS and kids. MW have more flexibilty to leave the marriage, as they will be granted alimony and child support. MW often string the OM along, however it's more common that the MM will do this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted February 28, 2012 Share Posted February 28, 2012 Chalk me up as a "fool" for "catching feelings" for someone else's wife. It's a bad situation all the way around and I'm paying dearly for it now.... In my own little bubble of experience, nothing good comes from cheating on your spouse with someone else's spouse. To the Poster who came out of lurking above, I wish you the best but I think you're in for a long hard road of pain and suffering. And the most interesting part about the "fool" for "catching feelings" for someone else's wife thing is that I hear it from men that do sleep with married women but are just using them for sex. I guess, at the end of the day, men are just as judgmental as women. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted February 28, 2012 Share Posted February 28, 2012 I think because alot of OM like the no strings sex with a MW. They know the chance of them wanting their husbands to know they are cheating is slim. Which gives me a chuckle when these MW think that they are something special. Link to post Share on other sites
Stellar Wench Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Why do I see more threads from OW posting, rather than OM. They seem to easily outnumber the OM topics. I know plenty of men cheat as well...but it seems guys dont establish affairs with married folks as much as they do with single folks. Am I incorrect?It's not just this particular forum. OW far outweigh OM on all forums. I think the reason is most single guys have too much pride to admit that they are a side dish. Married guys, well, they just don't care. If cheating fails, they find another OW or don't. What would there be to discuss? Link to post Share on other sites
standtall Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Come on people..most men don't post to touchy, feely, internet relationship forums. Link to post Share on other sites
joey66 Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Come on people..most men don't post to touchy, feely, internet relationship forums. Generalizations are dangerous. Some of us do, if not in a while. In answer to the OP, many OM and in fact MOM. And any MOM who posts here gets beaten down very quickly. They aren't very popular. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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