engagedandscared Posted February 24, 2012 Share Posted February 24, 2012 Hi All, Im 32 male and getting married to someone in a couple of weeks. I absolutely adore her and love her but i am getting doubts and cold feet and these are the reasons why: - I am going to spend the rest of my life with one girl, and one girl only - I will never be able to go on a date with another girl, sleep with another girl be close to another girl. Just how do i get past these thoughts?? I know what you may say - that i haven't had enough relationships or something along that line. I have slept with over 40 woman and been on sooooo many dates. So i surely have got that out of my system, and I surely know what is a good partner for me or not. I am not boasting about it, infact the opposite. I really envy my best friend who is married but has only had 3 girlfriends and he never has / had these feelings. Thanks for listening Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 Put aside your fear of never being with another girl for a second. What are some of the positive things about getting married to your fiancee? Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted February 25, 2012 Share Posted February 25, 2012 I think these thoughts are absolutely natural. Just accept that they are natural, and enjoy your wedding Link to post Share on other sites
rickys Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Hey... it happens normally. put your fear aside and clear your marriage doubts.... Link to post Share on other sites
CupcakeCrisis Posted March 8, 2012 Share Posted March 8, 2012 Put aside your fear of never being with another girl for a second. What are some of the positive things about getting married to your fiancee? Everyone has thoughts like these. I had thoughts like these (...although I'm not OFFICIALLY engaged yet. Long, complicated story, and I'm a woman). At the end of the day, do you think you ever WOULD go for another woman? I long entertained thoughts of someday sleeping with another man or seeing what else is out there - one reason we've been dating nearly 4 years and we're still not actively planning a wedding - but at the end of the day I don't even care to look. I don't really want anyone else. But there are also positive aspects to sharing your life with one woman and growing with her. Can you think of any? Link to post Share on other sites
westrock Posted March 8, 2012 Share Posted March 8, 2012 - I am going to spend the rest of my life with one girl, and one girl only - I will never be able to go on a date with another girl, sleep with another girl be close to another girl. Obviously these two facts are giving you anxiety. You need you to figure out the underlying associations you are making. What is it about those facts that make you anxious? How would you complete these two sentences: - I am going to spend the rest of my life with one girl, and one girl only AND TO ME THIS MEANS....[answer] - I will never be able to go on a date with another girl, sleep with another girl be close to another girl AND TO ME THIS MEANS....[answer] Link to post Share on other sites
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