EgoJoe Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 I'm not Smokey but it is hard to say if anybody truly has "GIGS" or if they just possess the same emotional immaturity instant satisfaction type attitude. Your Ex seems very unstable. Maybe she has changed...maybe not...maybe she is trying to manipulate you...maybe not. But, we know this for sure. You're in control of you. Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Well for me gigs is the developement of emotional maturity, so if you are asking my opinion i would say she sounds like she has matured and knows what she wants but the irrational gestures throw me off a little Also going back to the ex isnt too good either but.......... her actions match her words and both are very strong. If it was me i would be very interested to see if she has changed Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 Well for me gigs is the developement of emotional maturity How so? genuinely curious. Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 I do believe in GIGS because so many of these breakups seem to follow the patterns so precisely. I didn't believe in it at first but after 10 months on this site reading the same stories from different people there is just too much to it to not be a real thing. Here's my problem with gigs. The breakup is usually after a long term relationship and the girl has to emotionally mature yada yada yada. But the thing that confuses me is the time during the long term relationship. Was she emotionally mature then? I mean they all seem to stay with you and be faithful for 2 to 5 years with none of that craziness. Then it just hits them and the way they don't even think about you while you are hurting just blows my mind. They are relieved while you are suffering and then soon as you get over them something hits them again and they want no one but you. But yeah anyways during the long term relationship they seem pretty mature. No cheating no straying happy talking about the future. That doesn't seem like someone who is emotionally immature to me. I mean is there some kind of confusion chemical that is released in a womans brain between ages 22 and 25? On a side note for the OP. I had a previous ex that I screwed up with but didn't want to lose her but when we got back together she drove me nuts with the same questions over and over again I just couldn't take it anymore so I dumped her for good. If you have really healed then think of it as a whole new girl and new relationship and her past is her past don't push her away with the bombardment of questions. I think thats why a lot of reconnections don't work because the dumpee cant just let it go. Even tho the dumper has decided that they really wanted to be with the dumpee Link to post Share on other sites
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