Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 I take it personally because if, God forbid, one of my sweet girlfriends were ever in your path you would probably look at her, narrow your eyes, and treat them in a hateful manner because, after all, most women blah blah blah. Hereby once again blocked... sadly. I mistakenly thought you were making some meaningful progress. I am actually very nice towards women in my personal life and I get along great them but I call it like I see it. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 So if you take it personally, then it's hypocritical to jump on him about how he's "bitter" and "angry" because of his experiences. How is it hypocritical? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 Woggle, you use the terms most. That affects me in that I have a sister, a daughter, a mother, a niece, a goddaughter....do you see what I am getting at. You assume the thought processes of MOST women is of hatred for men. Do you know how much energy that takes to be that full of hatred. Yes you are correct there are women out there who not only feel hatred for men but abuse any male in their path because of that hatred. Your assumption of the plotting and planning of the demise of man by MOST of the women does a dis-service not only to me, but my child who is female, my mother who is female and any other women who would whip the hell out of another woman for f-ing with her son, brother, husband, nephew....etc. I want my children to stand a chance in relationships. They don't if there are people out there lying to them about how the truly feel about them because of the sex organs they were born with. Stating something and looking for evidence to support the bad instead of looking for the good that really does exist. If you want them to have a chance then work towards making this world a place that promotes mutual love, respect and equality between the genders. Don't look at me who just calls things like they are. I am not the one out there cheating, abusing and treating people like disposable toys which is what causes such bitter feelings. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 How is it not? I don't see any hypocrisy in it. Sorry. I don't see where she said something that requires her to engage with Woggle or even acknowledge his posts. You're pretty new here. Do you know the histories of these posters? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 I have always been nice to Donna and have congratulated her on her great relationship. I wish she would show me the same courtesy. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 Nobody said anything about requiring to engage with Woggle. No need to. Their posts says it all. Then there is no hypocrisy. Their posts don't say a fraction of it. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 I have always been nice to Donna and have congratulated her on her great relationship. I wish she would show me the same courtesy. Donna, and the rest of us, have congratulated you on your great relationship. We always jump for joy when you post something positive about your marriage No, marriage is not on its deathbed. But I worry that yours will be, if you keep internalizing the negative messages you see on the internet. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 Backup your statement. Otherwise, you're generalizing just as you accuse him to be. And again, you and others are interpreting his statements as if he's saying ALL WOMEN, when he hasn't. And why would you expect BNB to have a different percentage of the "racist a holes?" Because she's black? Now doesn't that come off as racist. I said he says most women, which he does. YOU said I said all women. Prove it. Bent, did you take my post that way? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 Yes there is hypocrisy. Their posts says a ton of it. Explain the hypocrisy. Or admit you don't know the definition of the term. If you're going to confront a long term member with a term like that, then I think you should be able to back it up. So... let's have it. If you can't support your assertion, then you put your ability to continue posting here at risk. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 It's already proven. ..... I get it now. Hereby disengaging and leaving Oz. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 Donna, and the rest of us, have congratulated you on your great relationship. We always jump for joy when you post something positive about your marriage No, marriage is not on its deathbed. But I worry that yours will be, if you keep internalizing the negative messages you see on the internet. I just don't know how to stop letting this stuff effect me. People might think I am a troll or that I am just spreading hate but when I see stuff like this I honest to god sometimes wonder is most women feel this way. Ask any woman I work with or my wife or any of my friends and they will tell you deep down I really don't hate women. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 Explain the hypocrisy. Or admit you don't know the definition of the term. If you're going to confront a long term member with a term like that, then I think you should be able to back it up. So... let's have it. If you can't support your assertion, then you put your ability to continue posting here at risk. Thanks Johan. Maybe you should join me in exiting trollville. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 ]I just don't know how to stop letting this stuff effect me.[/b] People might think I am a troll or that I am just spreading hate but when I see stuff like this I honest to god sometimes wonder is most women feel this way. Ask any woman I work with or my wife or any of my friends and they will tell you deep down I really don't hate women. How about just avoiding it, entirely? You don't because you like to feel the outrage. It bolsters you. It makes you feel less vulnerable. So maybe the question is: how can you find strength in more positive ways? I am glad to hear that women in your life see your better side 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 How about just avoiding it, entirely? You don't because you like to feel the outrage. It bolsters you. It makes you feel less vulnerable. So maybe the question is: how can you find strength in more positive ways? I am glad to hear that women in your life see your better side How can I stop it and not feel like a doormat? I am so used to fighting that I don't know what to put in it's place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 I also go to these boards expecting something different that can prove me wrong and I just see the same old misandry. Maybe these particular places just attract misandrists. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 If I have to explain it to you, then it's obvious that you don't know the definition of the term. I can care less if one is a "long-term member" on an internet board. Try backing up your own assumptions before engaging with me. Have it your way. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 If you want them to have a chance then work towards making this world a place that promotes mutual love, respect and equality between the genders. Don't look at me who just calls things like they are. I am not the one out there cheating, abusing and treating people like disposable toys which is what causes such bitter feelings. I have worked toward that end. I mentor and tutor young men and women. You are right I forgot who you were, my apologies. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 How can I stop it and not feel like a doormat? I am so used to fighting that I don't know what to put in it's place. That's a good question. If you take this specific question to a therapist, you could probably make a lot of progress. You need to replace this habit with a healthier one. There are other ways for you to deal with those feelings of fear, and vulnerability. Have you tried just.....waiting it out? You hear something, or read something, and it triggers that fear....and you want to get a "hit" by reading this stuff and feeling the outrage.....but force yourself to wait 48 hours. If, in 48 hours, the urge is still strong, give yourself permission to look. But you may find that 2 nights of sleep (and no LS in the meantime) make you feel a lot better, and the urge just goes away. I deal with my anxiety that way. 2 days makes a huge difference in my level of anxiety, and I've learned to just wait it out before making rash decisions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 That might be a good idea. When I feel angry I just play Grand Theft Auto which might be immature but it works for me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 I said he says most women, which he does. YOU said I said all women. Prove it. Bent, did you take my post that way? No I didn't take your post that way. But I am not looking for anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 You got Liberty City stories? Can't wait for GTA 5. I just got a PS3 for free a few months ago and I bought GTA 4 and the two add ons. It's fun as hell. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 You got multiplayer too? Maybe we can set up a deathmatch or somethin. Not yet. San Andreas is still the best one in the series. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Badsingularity Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 I'm getting married next month 5 Link to post Share on other sites
soserious1 Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 (edited) Well if you look at easy it is to win an election based on racism I would it is a large percentage. I am white and I have no problem admitting that. Why can't women admit that some men have good reasons for being wary of relationships with women? Why take everything personal as if it is about you in particular? Yes Woggle, a significant number of men have good reason to be wary of relationships with women. In my honest opinion those men would be wise to avoid any sort of committed relationship with a woman. No buying drinks, no paying for dates, no serving as her emotional tampon. If such a man desires sexual release he should simply "hit it & quit it" while keeping his wallet firmly closed & his heart sealed off. Edited March 3, 2012 by soserious1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted March 3, 2012 Author Share Posted March 3, 2012 Just look at this thread where somebody said he had five friends get cheated on and look at the other posts. Can you blame a guy for being paranoid after reading this stuff? Not one but five. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/3856535-post34.html Link to post Share on other sites
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