smithy Posted June 6, 2004 Share Posted June 6, 2004 I have a friend (honest I do! lol!) who is dating someone that is supposedly divorce...he says he is...though some things tell her that he's not...she trusts him & then she doesn't...she's definitely on a rollercoaster ride...I think the best thing is for her to find out once & for all that he's married or not...she's already asked him & he claims to be divorced...so there must be another way...nothing like following him...that's not good...maybe checking records?...newspapers? does anyone know how to go about that? any suggestions would be helpful... Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 Every divorce has to be registered - there must be a way to check in case the person you want to marry is already married, right? Why don't you call up the courts and use that as an excuse that information? I believe you're in Canada too, I think it's a Provincial matter. Let me know how it works out. Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 Excuse me - I meant use that as an excuse to get that information. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smithy Posted June 7, 2004 Author Share Posted June 7, 2004 omg...u're brilliant...I didn't even think about that...cause she is hoping to marry him...so like u said there must be some way that she can check @ the courts...I thought @ one time she could check newspapers cause I now people announce engagement/births/deaths/wedding annniversaries & I wondered if divorces are published too but I couldn't find divorces in a newspaper... I'll tell her right away...thank u so much... Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 You're welcome sugar, anytime Link to post Share on other sites
pocoestrella Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font] ugh! Well... because i'm in a situation where my boyfriend lied to me regarding his marital status... said he wasn't married for 4 months... then said he was but was LEGALLY seperated... turns out he is married and is seperated BUT they still are not divorced.... Trust me when I say this will eat your friend up! It is a horrible place for anyone to be as you always feel in limbo as to where your relationship is going or may be... I've learned to be very ingenious LOL when it comes to getting information... IF your friend knows his full name, birthdate and place where he was married to begin with she can do a search on google even to find out the status of his marriage... IF he really is divorced it will be of public record... as will the date and place of marriage... I wish I had the information BEFORE becoming involved in a situation like this... and because your friend has suspicious (I didn't have any when I met my boyfriend) she should check them out... it may save her a whole lot of tears and heartache later. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author smithy Posted June 7, 2004 Author Share Posted June 7, 2004 you're brilliant too pocoestrella! that's another great solution...I just love this board... you'll be surprised pocoestrella how many married men out there that are dating like single men...it just boggles the mind... maybe I can share a story to make u feel better...I dated a guy...he never gave any signs that he was married (I look for them all the time with every man I date because I won't date a married man...since they won't tell me they're married I look for signs)...the only giveaway was that we only had sex in motels...other than that he had a lot of freedom...he stayed out to all hours of the night with me so of course I figure he's single...one day he didn't show up for our date...I went to his house cause I just don't like waiting...his fatherinlaw answered the door...& I found out that he was married & with his wife with their baby to see family that day...he slipped thru my radar...I feel bad about it to this day.... if you don't mind me asking pocoestrella exactly where on google do u do a search like that?...just a general search? Link to post Share on other sites
pocoestrella Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font] LOL happy to help if I can:) Go to google and type in marriage records or public records... there will be a million links for you to look into... try typing in keywords... like the state he lives in then type in for instance "California divorce records" again, a lot of links and some of it is junk, but you can find out a lot this way... Also if you have his email address you can put that into a yahoo search or google and if he's visited a site and hasn't "COVERED HIS TRACKS" lol you may find his email addy tag where he's been... could you give more insight to what he does in his spare time, ya know? Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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