Miss lil Amie Posted June 6, 2004 Share Posted June 6, 2004 I'm a very shy person..i've been trying for years to just be myself. Every year before school would start I would always say this year I'm not gonna be shy..but that never happens (I'm no longer in school). Around certain people I can be myself..I joke around and act like a total goof just to make others laugh..but when it comes to certain people I just can't be myself..I'm this quiet little shy girl who is so "cute" lalalala. I make a big retard of myself..I studder around these people, I chew funny when eating (lol), I shake, and my face turns red just when they are around..errrrrr..I wish I could just be msyelf. Any advice on trying to stop being so shy and just being me? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted June 6, 2004 Share Posted June 6, 2004 Being yourself means being shy, that's who you are, it ain't like you're faking being shy, so you don't want to be just you. Or at least you want to end your shyness. Make small steps. I was shy once upon a time, I went to this one church camp retreat thing and I was so outgoing and friendly, going up to people and talking to them, and I would get the WORST reaction, I'd basically be ignored, so a part in my brain basically said, "Well, screw this," and shut down and I was shy for the longest time. But then college got me to come out of my shell, as well as senior year in high school, just kinda gradually being more open, being a little more ballsy, cracking jokes and such. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 I really don't know if it's being shy or reserved...is there a difference I wonder? I'm shy I guess, but if I walk into a room full of strangers I'm not intimidated, just quiet. Be who ye be. Oftentimes you'll find you shy away from certain people for a reason and open up to others for other reasons. ever notice on the panel of emoticons how hyperactive the bunny is? Weird Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 I was really shy as a teenager, still am sometimes. I finally came to terms with it at some point though. One time, a friend told me that she was a person who took a while to get to know. And I thought to myself, that the same thing was true about me. I'm not one to blurt out everything about myself (except on message boards ) to everyone I meet. I finally learned to have confidence about myself by accepting my shyness. I am a quiet and reserved person, that's who I am. And there's nothing wrong with that. It takes all kinds to make the world go round. When I get to know someone, I ask a lot of questions about them, and then gradually reveal information about myself, as I feel comfortable. This takes a lot of the pressure off. Link to post Share on other sites
msrealdoll Posted June 8, 2004 Share Posted June 8, 2004 Hey, Amie. I used to feel much the same way as you. I found out that I was just a Highly Sensitive Person (hsp). I read a book called The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron, and it changed my life. I'm much more accepting of myself now. I realize that I have gifts that other more outgoing people don't. I'm much happier. There is a website about the author and her books- http://www.hsperson.com/index.html . Check it out. Link to post Share on other sites
ukie-cutie Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 I understand what you are going through. If you find things that you would like to change about yourself, do it for you. If it makes you feel more confident. I look at it like fine tuning, but also remember, everyone has their own opinion about people. Don't let what other people think determine what you think of yourself. Be confident, like yourself. Not everyone will like you and that's ok. You want to be around people that like you for YOU. When you falsify something about yourself people can see through you like a crystal clear pane of glass. A friend once told me why she always tells the truth. She said that it is too much work to remember what the lie was. In other words . . It is too much work to be someone you're not. If you're worried about being shy, you can try this - remember that most people are just as worried about what everyone else thinks. People normally focus on themselves and not on other people. And if they don't have the same opinion of you as you'd like, so what? Hold your head up and be proud of who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 Do you think you suffer a little from social anxeity? Are these certain people the "cool but cruel" people, or the oppostie sex? Link to post Share on other sites
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