Soxfaninfl Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Maybe I should be more annoyed with the site for having a section for it rather than the woman All dating sites have section for highest level of education completed. If someone writes it in their intro or about themselves then maybe I could see how it would bother you. Also, just because someone has a masters does not equal to high salary. There are people that make more money with bachelors degrees than masters degrees. It just depends on the career field they are in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 Clearly, they are NOT trying to impress YOU or others like you. And it's working - you are weeding yourself out of their potential dating pool and saving them the trouble of doing so, which means they don't have to waste their time on you . I would hope a woman is not dumb enough to choose her mate based on his level of education Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 I would hope a woman is not dumb enough to choose her mate based on his level of education They are seeking like-minded people. You are not one of them, so it's good you are weeding yourself out. Link to post Share on other sites
lospantalonsfancie Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Ladies men don't care about your master's degree OK??? Totally disagree. Men with a postgraduate education often DO care about a woman's education. Personally, I try to only date women who have higher degrees from good universities or are on their way to having them, not because I'm pretentious, but honestly because so much education becomes a part of your personality and makes it harder for you to connect with people who don't have it. Does such a constraint make dating harder? Yes it sure does... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 Totally disagree. Men with a postgraduate education often DO care about a woman's education. Personally, I try to only date women who have higher degrees from good universities or are on their way to having them, not because I'm pretentious, but honestly because so much education becomes a part of your personality and makes it harder for you to connect with people who don't have it. Does such a constraint make dating harder? Yes it sure does... Oh Please, the only thing yall will have in common is DEBT lol Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 when reading their profile online. WHO CARES???????????????? I'm not an employer so why should I care that you have a master's degree? if I met a woman in a bar would she tell me that she just completed grad school? Dating is getting so sickening and that's why the fetish lifestyle never gets old Ladies men don't care about your master's degree OK??? I care about a woman's education. If I want to pump and dump then she has to be cute and breathing. Now if I want a relationship where kids are involved, I want someone who is educated. An advanced degree helps in keeping the relationship going. Looks fade but personality and intellect helps fan the fire. There are dating sites where education is a barrier to join. One must have a verified competitive university degree to join. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 I would hope a woman is not dumb enough to choose her mate based on his level of education In other words, you do care about a woman's Masters degree because you think she'll be "dumb enough" to choose her mate based on his level of education. I still don't see what the point is in getting angry about somebody indicating that they have a Masters on their profile. If you don't want to date somebody who put it on their profile, then don't. Problem solved. Your reaction actually suggests it makes sense for people to put it out there. I'd rather a guy skip my profile than meet me and get all upset when the subject comes up, which it inevitably always does, since people ask me what I do and how I got there. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 The point is that these things bother you when they make you feel inadequate. Phillydude thinks women like this would dismiss him. If not for that, he wouldn't think much of it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Oh Please, the only thing yall will have in common is DEBT lol Many of them do have debt so? Overall the post-graduate unemployment rate is lower than those who do not. Many of the PhD's do not have high student loan debt since they are usually on grants, stipends, and doing research. It is the undergraduate debt that hurts many people. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 The point is that these things bother you when they make you feel inadequate. Phillydude thinks women like this would dismiss him. If not for that, he wouldn't think much of it. We're all inadequate in some ways. I'm sure I don't fulfill lots of men's criteria for what they want in a partner. However, I don't respond by attacking them or calling their preferences stupid. I just acknowledge incompatibility and move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 I care about a woman's education. If I want to pump and dump then she has to be cute and breathing. Now if I want a relationship where kids are involved, I want someone who is educated. An advanced degree helps in keeping the relationship going. Looks fade but personality and intellect helps fan the fire. There are dating sites where education is a barrier to join. One must have a verified competitive university degree to join. So you wouldn't want to start a family with a woman with a bachelor's?-lol Link to post Share on other sites
lospantalonsfancie Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 I would hope a woman is not dumb enough to choose her mate based on his level of education Why is that? Surely, it isn't the only factor, but it is a strong indicator of future success and stability. Moreover, people with advanced degrees, particularly PhDs or MDs, have demonstrated an ability to take on a long-term challenge and follow it through to the end --- a quality most (successful) women are looking for in a mate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 In other words, you do care about a woman's Masters degree because you think she'll be "dumb enough" to choose her mate based on his level of education. I still don't see what the point is in getting angry about somebody indicating that they have a Masters on their profile. If you don't want to date somebody who put it on their profile, then don't. Problem solved. Your reaction actually suggests it makes sense for people to put it out there. I'd rather a guy skip my profile than meet me and get all upset when the subject comes up, which it inevitably always does, since people ask me what I do and how I got there. What do you mean when the subject comes up? Are you talking about asking the guy..."Have you ever thought about getting your masters?" If that was to ever happen she would get ROASTED by me Link to post Share on other sites
lospantalonsfancie Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Oh Please, the only thing yall will have in common is DEBT lol I don't have any debt PhillyDude. Neither do most people with PhDs. Shows how little you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 The point is that these things bother you when they make you feel inadequate. Phillydude thinks women like this would dismiss him. If not for that, he wouldn't think much of it. Someone gave me their number this morning who has a masters but it just better not come up in a conversation do I plan on getting my masters Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Someone gave me their number this morning who has a masters but it just better not come up in a conversation do I plan on getting my masters What exactly is your problem with that question? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 I don't have any debt PhillyDude. Neither do most people with PhDs. Shows how little you know. Well good for you, it still matters how GOOD in bed you are at the end of the day even with a Masters Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 The point is that these things bother you when they make you feel inadequate. Phillydude thinks women like this would dismiss him. If not for that, he wouldn't think much of it. You're right, there. And I also agree with denise in that there are lots of things that would make me feel inadequate, as well. There are plenty of men out there who would easily dismiss me because of one thing or another and think less of me because of it. It just seems like a complete waste of time and energy to get angry about it and ridicule them. So some men are 6'2" and are fifth generation millionaires who would dismiss a short brunette like me from an immigrnat family because they're looking for a 5'8"+ slim blonde swimsuit model who happens to be a neurosurgeon Exeter academy/Ivy grad. I'm not going to waste time getting upset over it. Link to post Share on other sites
lospantalonsfancie Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Well good for you, it still matters how GOOD in bed you are at the end of the day even with a Masters Yes it does. You have a point: spending so many years getting educated takes a lot of time away from working on your technique. Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 OP, what's your education background? Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 All dating sites have section for highest level of education completed. If someone writes it in their intro or about themselves then maybe I could see how it would bother you. Also, just because someone has a masters does not equal to high salary. There are people that make more money with bachelors degrees than masters degrees. It just depends on the career field they are in. A masters degree doesnt automatically equal a high salary, but its true that those with post grad degrees make more money on average than those with undergrad degrees. Anyways I dont see what anyone would have an issue with someone stating their education in their "about me" section. I simply mention in a cou sentences that I graduated last year with a degree in such and such, and that I plan to go to grad school this year or next year. I personally enjoy seeing that in a gals profile. We would have something in common and maybe we can be study buddies lol. Btw, I do notice a good amount of women on OKC have degrees...and many dont on PlentyofFish. Heh. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 What do you mean when the subject comes up? Are you talking about asking the guy..."Have you ever thought about getting your masters?" If that was to ever happen she would get ROASTED by me No, that's not what I meant at all. What usually happens is somebody will ask what I do for a living, and I'll tell them about my job in academia. They'll ask me how I ended up there and what I had studied, and I'll explain how I left my PhD program and am looking to get into XYZ field instead. Or somebody will ask me what I did before this job. Or the city I used to live in when I went to grad school will come up in conversation, and they'll ask me if I'm originally from there. I'll say I only moved there for school, and they'll ask me if it was for undergrad. I work in a university. It's pretty much impossible to avoid the topic. I have never asked anyone whether they thought about getting their Masters. I have no idea how you even got that out of what I wrote. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 So you wouldn't want to start a family with a woman with a bachelor's?-lol Why not? It is a preference. I'm not looking to promote someone to a Mrs. degree! It is a woman who goes to college only to find a mate and become a Mrs. with a bachelor degree. I have not problem with being Drs. and Mr. Jerbear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Share Posted February 26, 2012 What exactly is your problem with that question? First of all it's personal and a woman better be asking me that if I already saw her naked. And second, I may not want to get in debt especially with a friend who has a master's right now and can't find a job Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 26, 2012 Share Posted February 26, 2012 Someone gave me their number this morning who has a masters but it just better not come up in a conversation do I plan on getting my masters So you still might reject yourself because she might ask?:rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
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