Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 8, 2012 Author Share Posted April 8, 2012 NOT drinking...you mention it...yet again....your `taking care of `yoursef`...yet again`` DOT, was right on about what i said about proactive You haven`t done ANYTHING to better yourself OR your situation. What what what am I supposed to do? U guys keep tellign me I have done nothing but dont tell me what I should do! That doesnt help me any.. Again, I havent been drinking, I am working out, and am reading and keeping myself as busy as I can. The wife and kids came down today for easter and I took my 2 girls to the car show. What am I supposed to do otherwise? Please instead of telling me that I am not doing the right things, Tell e what the right things are? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 8, 2012 Author Share Posted April 8, 2012 What did you decide about the washing machine btw? She never mentioned it while I was there last week so I said nothing. It was mentioned today and I told her to have my friend Jimmy who is also a electrician take a look at the outlet that is giving her trouble. Its not the washing achine apparently but the outlet Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 I am almost positive she did! Why? I thought I covered this a while back when she told me othing happened with the guy until we were seperated. No you never mentioned it...Do i remember more thats going on in YOUR life than YOU do???? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 What what what am I supposed to do? U guys keep tellign me I have done nothing but dont tell me what I should do! That doesnt help me any.. Again, I havent been drinking, I am working out, and am reading and keeping myself as busy as I can. The wife and kids came down today for easter and I took my 2 girls to the car show. What am I supposed to do otherwise? Please instead of telling me that I am not doing the right things, Tell e what the right things are? Hey about what direction to go: post #6 in this thread plus Divorce Remedy is my recommendation. And they still stand. If you find that you are just getting "****" from certain posters, throw them on ignore. Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 hurts... you are doing my head in... you are so up and down with your answers, with your views, you give the same story over and over again. The way you are coming across, and ive said this before... shes better off without you Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 hurts... you are doing my head in... you are so up and down with your answers, with your views, you give the same story over and over again. The way you are coming across, and ive said this before... shes better off without you coops again no answer to my question just s*t! you sure your no drinking? You tell me I need to do things to make things better but never say what things! What things? I am doing every single thing I am supposed to do according to the 180!!! I have no option on moving to my own apartment, getting my drivers lisence and bettering myself in certain areas until the time comes which is out of my control! What else am I supposed to do? Tell me and maybe we can get somewhere instead of telling me I tell you the same things.... Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 coops again no answer to my question just s*t! you sure your no drinking? You tell me I need to do things to make things better but never say what things! What things? I am doing every single thing I am supposed to do according to the 180!!! I have no option on moving to my own apartment, getting my drivers lisence and bettering myself in certain areas until the time comes which is out of my control! What else am I supposed to do? Tell me and maybe we can get somewhere instead of telling me I tell you the same things.... no. YOU need to work it out. Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 coops again no answer to my question just s*t! you sure your no drinking? You tell me I need to do things to make things better but never say what things! What things? I am doing every single thing I am supposed to do according to the 180!!! I have no option on moving to my own apartment, getting my drivers lisence and bettering myself in certain areas until the time comes which is out of my control! What else am I supposed to do? Tell me and maybe we can get somewhere instead of telling me I tell you the same things.... yeah ..i`m drinking!!! but i CAN control it, and I will NEVER drink and drive... This about me or YOU? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 Hey about what direction to go: post #6 in this thread plus Divorce Remedy is my recommendation. And they still stand. If you find that you are just getting "****" from certain posters, throw them on ignore. Hey DOT I dont think she would be willing to do anything right now and too ask I think may be worse than asking her out on match at this point. She is being friendly but I feel nothig from her. I gotta leave her be completely...I was having a good week until I saw her today. I cant keep torturing myself. We are still always talking or texting and I gotta put an end to it! I a torn up right now and I shouldnt be ut its hard ot too see her when we have the kids. The only thing that makes me feel better right now is that fact that she gave me 3 beautiful kids which she can NEVER do for anyone else ever. She has had 2 heart surgeries so she cant have anymore kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 yeah ..i`m drinking!!! but i CAN control it, and I will NEVER drink and drive... This about me or YOU? No its about me but again no answer to my questions! Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 coops again no answer to my question just s*t! you sure your no drinking? You tell me I need to do things to make things better but never say what things! What things? I am doing every single thing I am supposed to do according to the 180!!! I have no option on moving to my own apartment, getting my drivers lisence and bettering myself in certain areas until the time comes which is out of my control! What else am I supposed to do? Tell me and maybe we can get somewhere instead of telling me I tell you the same things.... WHoa... I was going to put " when you sober up"... but that would be a doubt that i put on YOU So , i dont know Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 No its about me but again no answer to my questions! so whats up? none of us can h elp you unless you tell the truth Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 hurts ..... just calm down ok? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 Hey DOT I dont think she would be willing to do anything right now and too ask I think may be worse than asking her out on match at this point. She is being friendly but I feel nothig from her. I gotta leave her be completely...I was having a good week until I saw her today. I cant keep torturing myself. We are still always talking or texting and I gotta put an end to it! I a torn up right now and I shouldnt be ut its hard ot too see her when we have the kids. The only thing that makes me feel better right now is that fact that she gave me 3 beautiful kids which she can NEVER do for anyone else ever. She has had 2 heart surgeries so she cant have anymore kids. If she's texting and talking to you, you have an IN. she isn't going to chase you at this point. It's been a bit since I read through the whole thread. To review: in January she tells you that she is no longer in love and that she wants to separate, does she ask you to move or do you just move? This is the prime opportunity to do the 180 Last Resort Technique. So right now you are sitting in Limbo Land with neither one of you making a final move or a move to improve things between you, right? And she's going out, having fun and you are paying for both homes. How is your relationship with your kids? It seems like they are lost in the struggle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 coops you talk about me with ups and downs...You should look at your posts to me! One day your the nicest guy in the world and the next you 180! WTF? I am calm...Just asking for advice and all your giving me is s**t! You tell me I need to do things, What I am doing isnt enough! When I ask what things? I get no answer just a smart ass remark! Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 coops you talk about me with ups and downs...You should look at your posts to me! One day your the nicest guy in the world and the next you 180! WTF? I am calm...Just asking for advice and all your giving me is s**t! You tell me I need to do things, What I am doing isnt enough! When I ask what things? I get no answer just a smart ass remark! put it this way... its 2 am here now.... i`ve got to be in work in 5 hours.... 7am. gmt. And i`m trying to sort YOUR ****ing life out.. Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 (edited) and your`re giving me ****??? about how `gouchy` i am sometimes??? don`t forget i`m going through my own life??!!! I`m still living ...remember??? dont be so ****ing selfish Edited April 9, 2012 by coopster Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 Then what the hell are you doing up still? You need sleep no? I am not being selfish. Just defending myself here! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 HSB & Coop.... I'm not going to mention anything about you guys' back and forth. Just to say that HSB has been pretty clear on wanting his family and wife back but the follow-through has been fuzzy and directionless. What would be the next step? Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 HSB & Coop.... I'm not going to mention anything about you guys' back and forth. Just to say that HSB has been pretty clear on wanting his family and wife back but the follow-through has been fuzzy and directionless. What would be the next step? divorce ........ Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 divorce ........ As in towards the goal...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 hey DOT Just want to let you know that she has mentioned on more than one occasion to friends and mine that she is done with me but afterwards mentioned that maybe we will work things out in the future. So I think she is quite confused on what she wants. We sat down last week to talk about our taxes and she mentioned, Who knows maybe we will be back together by next year. I also just looked threw my phone and I see we have been talking everyday via text or on the phone since Wed. Sometimes its me and sometimes its her who initiate it. I need to put a end to this! I really do! There is no way she is going to miss me or feel that maybe I moved on if we are readily available to talk everyday! DOT what do you think of that text she sent me last Friday? The one with the pic of her ass and telling me to kiss it? Do you think that was just a wise ass remark or do you think she did it possible ecause she was thinking of me? Link to post Share on other sites
coopster Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 As in towards the goal...... same...he wont change ever Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 divorce ........ Nice real nice coops! Thanks but your opinions are no longer needed here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurts_so_bad Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 same...he wont change ever Pretty damn obvious that your still having problems coops.If its 2am and your still posting o these walls! You must just be mr.perfect! Link to post Share on other sites
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