Girl says she likes me but isn't ready for a relationship?

[jordan5000]

Ok so I asked this girl out and she agreed. About two weeks later she had cancelled two dates, originally saying she was busy but then confessed that her ex (who she's been broken up with for about 5-6 months) was verbally abusive and as a result she isn't ready for a relationship. I asked her if we could just be friends for now and maybe consider dating in the fall. I also told her it'd be difficult just being friends with her because I'd always be hoping she'd be ready. She said that it probably wouldn't work because she doesn't know if she'd be able to be in a relationship again. She did say she wants to be friends but I definitely still think she likes me because I know she's been really busy and she said she enjoys spending time with me and agreed to a date with me. If she does like me why would she just want to be friends? If we spend more time together and she likes me wouldn't she eventually fall for me and get stronger feelings? Why would she just want to be friends if those feelings could develop? Is this just an excuse or does she like me (we flirt a lot and she shows a lot of signs that she likes me) Also she actually explained why she was busy and today she even went into detail telling me how she was busy the whole day (even though I didn't ask) and she named all the stuff she had to do without stuttering or anything (and we just randomly saw each other so it's not like she planned an excuse) I also messaged her on facebook about two weeks ago about this and she hasn't responded but she said that she has read it but just has been too busy to reply (that was a week ago) Also she was previously listed as single on facebook but then removed her relationship status.I also told her that I actually wanted her to text me first (because she never does) and suggest times when she can hang out because I don't want to always be asking and getting shot down. If she's interested will she ask to hang out/text eventually? Also I texted her asking about the message I sent her about two days ago and she hasn't responded yet, is she ignoring me? Should I just give up? I'm turning 19 btw, if that matters.

[smokey bear]

Run away and save yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

lol

[pteromom]

Yes, just give up. She isn't ready. Whether she really isn't ready because of her past relationship, or whether she just doesn't want a relationship with YOU is moot. She isn't ready.

 

Flirting with you doesn't necessarily mean she likes you. Maybe she just likes feeling flirty. Maybe it makes her feel pretty to know you are attracted to her.

 

Don't spend time analyzing what she might be feeling. Pay attention to what she's saying and doing. She's not texting you back. She's not prioritizing spending time with you. She's told you she isn't ready. She doesn't feel for you what you feel for her... that's just the way it is.

 

Don't waste your time pursuing someone who isn't interested. Move on and find someone who is as excited about you as you are about her...

[NXS]

She's not interested in you, don't waste another minute and don't go into the friendzone, just move on.

[Lauriebell82]

She isn't interested and is trying to avoid you and phase you out of her life. It appears as though you are continuing to chase her, which is making her even more resistant.

 

Leave it be for right now. Do not text/facebook message/call her at all. She isn't interested in you. If she does become interested I'm sure she will let you know. Just move on.